Kuthetha ntoni "umntu onobukrakra"? Ingaba umntu onobukrakra ubonakala ngathi?

Ziyintoni i-charisma kunye ne-charisma yamadoda ngokukodwa? Ngabo ngokwabo, la magama axelisekile, athabatheke, athathe umfanekiso ophantsi komntu onento ethile, indlela yokuziphatha, ilizwi elingavamile, jonga. Abasetyhini baphupha ukuhlangana kunye nendoda enobukrakra, kwaye amadoda afuna ukuba njalo. Eyona nto inomdla kukuba akukho nto ichazwe ngokucacileyo indlela indoda ekhangayo ngayo. Wonke umntu ubeka ingcamango yabo, amava abo, njl. Nangona kunjalo, makhe sizame ukunquma ukuba luhlobo luni lomntu esinokuthiwa yi-charismatic, cinga ngemibandela yobuntu obunjalo kwaye ufunde indlela yokuba ngumntu oza kuye.

Charisma yintoni?

Kwimeko yenzululwazi akukho ncazelo enye okanye ezimbini kule ngcamango, kodwa ngaphezu kwama-60! Yingakho sithetha ngokungahambi kunye nobubanzi. Inqobo yeso "ntshukumo" ibonakala kwiGrisi yamandulo kwaye ithetha "isipho". Le yintsingiselo eqhelekileyo yegama elithi "charismatic". Indoda enokuthi ichazwe ngale ndlela ine magnetism. EbuKristwini, kwakukholelwa ukuba umntu onjalo unamandla amakhulu, unikwa isipho sikaThixo, unentlobo ekhethekileyo. Ukuthetha ngolwimi lwesiRashiya, igama elithi "charismatic" liza kuba "lithandekayo."

Kutheni sifuna intshutshiso?

Indoda enobukrakra kukuba, njengomthetho, umntu oqinileyo ngengqondo, onqwenela ngamandla, ephumelelayo, kulula ukuba aqonde imigomo yakhe, uzive ephakamileyo kuluntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini, ngamnye umfazi wadibana nommeli wesondo oqinileyo, ngubani, kubonakala ngathi, akabonakali nantoni na - kungekho imbonakalo okanye isitala kwiingubo, kodwa udibana naye, uyayilahla, ufuna ukufuphi, ukuthetha, njalonjalo. Lo ngumntu onobukrakra.

Ngamaxesha onke kukho izinto eziyimpumelelo neziphumelelayo, kuye konke okunikezelwa kalula. Bakhululekile kwaye kulula ukulawula njengabantu abathathu, kunye namawaka, kufuneka bona, bakuphulaphule kwaye bafuna ukuthobela. Ezi zeziintloko, nabalawuli bazo zonke izigaba, kunye nabadlali. Nangona kukho imizekelo emininzi apho umntu engakhokeli ilizwe okanye iqela, akayena umphathi opholileyo, kodwa i-aura ecaleni kwayo imilingo nje. Abasetyhini abasondeleyo kubameli abanobuqili obuqinileyo banesiqiniseko, bafudumele kwaye bakhululekile. Nguwuphi na umntu onobukrakra. Ngoku kuyacaca ukuba kutheni le mfanelo iyadingeka kwaye kutheni abaninzi befuna ukuba ngabantu abanjalo.

UMax Weber malunga nendoda enobukrakra

Ngoku ke makhe siqwalasele ngubani umntu onobukroti ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ngayo isayikholoji. Usosayensi wezepolitiki waseJamani kunye nesazi sengqondo sezenhlalakahle u-Weber uqale uchaza le ngcamango kwisimo sesayensi. Wayekholelwa ukuba ubuhlungu buyimpawu ekhethekileyo yobuntu. Kunceda ukujonga kwimvelaphi yabanye umntu obalaseleyo, umntu ongavamile onikwe igunya elithile elingenakufikeleleka kuninzi.

Ngokomxholo kaTeber, umntu onjalo (ongaphantsi kowesifazane) unako ukuphazamisa abantu abaninzi, "ubagxine" ngamandla athile. Namhlanje lo bunjani bomgangatho sisixhobo esiyimfuneko yenkcubeko ephumelelayo, inkokeli efuna ukuphazamisa ukuqonda kweqela, ukuthobela abantu kuye. Ukuze ukwazi ukuba ngumntu onobukrakra, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yeyiphi impawu afanele abe nayo. Ngale nto uze uthethe ngakumbi.

Ubungqina bendoda enobukrakra

1. Umntu ngamnye kunye nomfanekiso oyingqayizivele. Loo mntu unemifanekiso yakhe yangaphandle, ukubonakalisa ubuso obukhethekileyo, isenzo, isenzo, isithintelo sezwi, intetho.
2. Gqiba ukuzithemba. Olu luphawu olungaphezulu komgangatho ophezulu, kodwa izixhobo zalo eziphambili zisibindi, ukuzimisela, ukucaca kwisinqumo; Gqibezela ukuzimela, oko kukuthi, umkhwa oqulunqiweyo wokubala ngamandla akho, ungathembeli kwabanye; Ikhono lokuzithemba kwaye ngokukhethekileyo bavumele abanye bazi indawo yabo.
3. Uvelwano nokuzithiba. Kukwazi ukulawula, ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho , iimvakalelo. Ukukhalipha, ukuguquguquka, ukukwazi ukuphulaphula kuphela, kodwa ukuva, ukukwazi ukuqonda abanye abantu kwinqanaba le-intuition, ukuba "bazive".
4. I-Gallantry, ukuzithoba, ukungabi nokuziphatha kakubi, ukuziphatha okunzima.

I-Charismatic ayizalwanga, iba

Ukuba ezi zinto zingentla zingabonakaliyo kuwe, ke akukaze kufike emva kokuqalisa ukusebenza kuwe. Akukho mntu ozelwe ngokukhawulezileyo okanye owaziwayo, kodwa izixhobo zomntu zinokufezekisa kakhulu ebomini, into ephambili kukufuna. Apha, umzekelo, uArnold Schwarzenegger. Akazange eze emhlabeni nge-biceps ngo-57 cm! Konke esikubonayo namhlanje sisiphumo sokusebenza kuthi, ukuqeqeshwa okuqhathanisayo. Ewe, amandla enyama. Kodwa kunye nalo lukhula ukuguquguquka kwengqondo, ukucinga. Ungakwazi ukuqeqesha yonke into, kuquka i-charisma.

Khumbula uWinston Churchill. Njengomntwana, ndandiphilile kakhulu, andizange ndifunde kakuhle, ngoko abazali bam banquma ukuthumela unyana wam kwinqanaba lomkhosi. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ekupheleni? Wagqiba le klasi kunye nomnye wabafundi abangu-12, waqala ukuzimela, waba ngongqongqo omkhulu, umbhali, intatheli, umfanekiso wezopolitiko onamandla, i-prizeate yamaphuso amaninzi, unkulumbuso. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba nayiphi na umntu unokuba ngumtsalane. Ungasebenza njani wena? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokuba ngumntu onobukroti? Makhe sicinge ngamanyathelo amaninzi.

"Umfanekiso womntu onobukrakra"

Yenza indawo yokuzikhusela ukuze abantu okanye izandi bangakuphazamisi. Vala amehlo akho, gxininisa kwaye ucacise ngokucacileyo umfanekiso womntu onjalo oza kukubonga. Akuyena umntu ongokoqobo, yinto nje yindalo yakho. Cinga ngokucacileyo ukubonakala kwakhe, ukukwazi kwakhe ukuziphatha, ukuqhuba ingxoxo, indlela yokugqoka. Cinga ngezinto ezininzi ezinokwenzeka. Ngaphezulu, misela lo mfanekiso ngeempawu ezifunekayo, zicinge ngezenzo. Musa ukukhawuleza ukugqiba umsebenzo, yonke into ifanele isilungele ingqondo yakho ngokucacileyo ngokunokwenzeka kwaye ngokukodwa. Ngoku uzama ukuguqulela yonke into ebomini yangempela.

"Ukulawula imizwa"

Kule meko, uya kufuna idayisi rhoqo. Yiphosa, kwaye ukusuka kwinani eliphosiweyo thabatha ezintathu. Ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko enjani, kufuneka ulawule iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba, umzekelo, "-2", ngoko kufuneka ulahlekise iimvakalelo zombini ozifumanayo namhlanje (ukuxhalaba, uvila, indlala, njl.). Ukuba unayo inombolo "1", ngokuchaseneyo, cinga ngevakalelo kwaye uyihlakulele (ukuphefumlelwa, uvuyo, injabulo, njl.).

"Uvelwano"

Yonke imihla xa incoko kunye nomntu azame ukuthetha kuphela, kodwa unakekele ingqalelo kwizwi lakhe, ilizwi, ubuso, ubuso, ikhefu. Ngoko uya kufunda ukuziva kwaye 'ubone' ihlabathi elingaphakathi kwabanye abantu, ukuqonda kangcono iingcamango zabo, izenzo.

Isiphelo

Amadoda amaninzi atyhawulezileyo ayithethi, izazinzulu, iinkokeli, ezopolitiki kunye nabanye abaninzi. Umzekelo, sonke siyamazi umntu onjalo njengoMahatma Gandhi. Inkolelo yakhe ebalulekileyo ebomini yayiyimbono yokungabi nonyango. Ubuhlungu bakhe buba negalelo ekwenzeni ukuba ilandelwa ngabantu, abantu bakholelwa ekubeni banokuxazulula iingxabano ngokuthula, kwaye oku kwintlalo ephazamisekile ngogonyamelo!

U-Steve Jobs ungomnye umzekelo wendoda enobukroti. I-biografi yakhe ifundwa ngaphezu kweencwadana ezithandwayo kunye nabacuphi. Waba ngumrhwebi ophumelelayo kuphela ngenxa yeempawu zakhe ezintle kunye namandla angaphakathi. Wayekholelwa ukuba umntu akanako ukuphumelela ngaphandle kokuba akhubeke aze aphumelele. Oku kuyamkhathaza umntu. Ukuba wenza iphutha, tshintsha isicwangciso, kungekhona ikhosi! Landela lo mgaqo, phuhlisa kwaye ube ngumoya!