Yintoni ukukhazimulisa kunye nendlela yokuchaza indlela yokuziphatha komntu kwisimo sengqondo sengqondo

Yintoni ukukhawuleza? Ngaba unakho ucocekileyo kwaye wenza ntoni na? Makhe sifilosofi kunye ncinane kwihlabathi leengqondo.

Yintoni ukukhawuleza? "I-flattery yintlaka yomlomo," kusho uCoco Chanel. Kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene. Kwingcaciso echazayo yeDahl, ibonakaliswa ukuba ukunyaniseka kukuvunyelwene ngokungenasiphelo ukwenzela ukufezekisa imisebenzi ebekiwe. Ndicinga ukuba wonk 'ubani uyazi oku, kodwa bonke abantu bayakwazi ukuthoba ngaphandle kokudideka ngokuqaphela ngokuqinisekileyo ngemilinganiselo yakho? Hayi? Uyazi ukuba kutheni? Isizathu silele kwi-psychology yethu. Ngoku ndiza kucacisa.

Khumbula ukusuka kolwazi oluyisiseko loqoqosho lwe- Maslow pyramid, ebonisa zonke iimfuno zabantu, kuxhomekeke kubaluleka babo. Kithi, kubaluleke kakhulu:

• Iimfuno zengqondo ;
• U khu seleko;
• Ukusebenzisana nothando;
• Ukuhlonipha;
• Ukuqonda;
• Iimfuno zobuchule ;
• Ukuzimelela.

Umntu oqhelekileyo unokufikelela kuwo onke amanqaku ngaphandle kokugqibela. Kodwa ukuze uzinelise ngokupheleleyo, kubalulekile ukuba wenze umzamo okwaneleyo kunye nomonde, ukuba kungekhona wonke umntu onako.

Ukuba awuyiyo yonke into ebonwa ngumntu, kwaye imvelo idinga eyakhe, ingqondo yethu engqondweni iyafumana indlela yokuphuma: siqala ukubonisa ukubaluleka kwethu njengoko isazela sethu sivumela. Apha, ukuzithoba kukuza kwinqanaba. Ngokombono wam, uJean-Baptiste Moliere uthetha kakuhle emsebenzini wakhe "Ngamahloni": "Ukuba akukho nenye indlela, akuyena owenza izinto ezimbi, kodwa lowo ufuna ukuthotywa."

Oku kuphinda kuqinisekisile ingcamango yokuba ngamanye amaxesha ukukhwabanisa kusebenza ngokumangalisa ekukhulumeni nalabo banxanelwe ukuqonda ukuba bakulungele ukungayithobeli izilumkiso zezwi langaphakathi malunga nokungaqiniseki kwezivakalisi. Ngoko ke ukunyaniseka-okubi okanye okulungileyo?

I-flattery ayiyindumiso engancinci, ngamanye amagama, nditsho ngokuzwakalayo ukuba umxhasi wakho ucinga ntoni ngaye.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukunyanzela kwilizwe lokwenza izigqibo?

UDale Carnegie, uSigmund Freud kunye nezinye iingcali zengqondo ziyazibonakalisa ukuba indlela ephela yokuqinisekisa umntu ukuba enze into kukumnika ithuba lokufuna ukwenza. Yaye indlela eyona ndlela isebenzayo iyinkohliso.

Amaxwebhu omlando abonisa ukuba bonke abalawuli abakhulu babenomdla wokunyelisa, kwaye ngenxa yoluvo olubuhlungu, imbali ayidalwanga ngabo. Njengomzekelo ndifuna ukuzisa uMbhinqa uVictoria, ummeli wokugqibela wenkosi yaseHanover. Ngethuba lokulawula kwakhe, uDraeli, ngubani owayengummangaliso kakhulu ngexesha lonke lobomi boBukumkani baseBrithani, waba nempembelelo enkulu kwizigqibo zakhe.

Andikukhuthazi ukuba usebenzise ukunyanzela ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla. Ngokuphambene noko, akufuneki. Yintoni ukukhawuleza? Oku kuyinyaniso, efana nemali yokukhohlisa okanye imisebenzi yobugcisa, ayiyi kukuzisa kwizinto ezilungileyo. Ndibona ingcamango yakho: "Ndenze ntoni ngoko?" Yonke into ilula, kwaye iphinda ichazwe ngengqondo yengqondo.

Umntu onama-95% wexesha lakhe uhlala ecinga ngeempazamo. Kufanelekile ukuphazamiseka okufutshane, kwaye unokuqwalasela ngokulula kwiimpawu zakho ezifanelekileyo, ezifanelekile. Unganqikazi ukuthetha ngabo, inxalenye yakho iya kuba ukuqonda ngokunyanisekileyo ngaye njengomntu ophumelele kwezinye iindawo.

Emva kokufunda ezi ngcamango ezingentla, wena ngokwakho kufuneka ufike kwisigqibo sokuba ukubetha okunjalo kunye nokuba kuyakufanele ukuyisebenzise? Okanye, mhlawumbi, uzama ukubona into entle kumntu onomdla kuwe?