Wonke umzali ufuna umntwana wakhe akhule ilungu elingene zoluntu kunye umntu olungileyo. Zibala iimpawu ezinqwenelekayo umlinganiswa usana lwakho, yonke umama kubabiza phakathi kwabo inceba. Kodwa kunjalo ingcamango abstract ezicacisa-ganda yokuqala yakhe nzima kakhulu. Akukhathaliseki, beemvavanyo zepraktikhali ukunceda! Masenze zama ukwenza uluhlu lwe izenzo ebalungeleyo oonyana kanye ngoku.
Efanelekileyo ukwenza okulungileyo kwimeko nganye
Kufuneka uqale incoko kakuhle kakhulu, ukuba esi sihloko iza kuchatshazelwa ngexesha i "homeroom" esikolweni kodwa xa abazali ekhaya kufuneka sinikele ingqalelo imfundo yomntwana kulo mbandela. Kubalulekile ukuba adlulisele ngokwengcinga ngamnye umntwana eyodwa elula: ukuba ngamnye kuthi uya kuba nobubele nolwazelelelo kuzo zonke eziyingqongileyo nto - ihlabathi liya kuba ngcono. abanye uphathe kufuneka ngendlela ofuna ukuba bazenze kuwe. Inyameko kwakhona kufuneka izilwanyana, indalo yonke ummandla oyingqongileyo yonke. Khumbula ukuba abantwana kunzima ukucinga ezintsokothe kunye ngokubanzi. Kungenxa yesi sizathu, iyavakala ukuzoba phezulu kunye uluhlu izenzo ebalungeleyo oonyana. Ngesi uthsuphe wokuba, umntwana uya ukuqonda khumbula kakuhle into elungileyo kwaye kuya kuba ngcono. Yintoni ukubhala kuluhlu onjalo? Ngezantsi, siya zinika iindidi imizekelo, ukuze kube lula nangoko luncedo ukuba snoluhlu enkulu amatyala "esikhulu", nto leyo yenziwa kumaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye ezincinci - yonke imihla. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba ukukholisa ukudala umthetho - ngosuku ngaphandle isenzo esihle!
Uncumo uhlala wonke!
Kubonakala ukuba le complex - kuqala uncuma abadlulayo okanye umthengisi evenkileni? Kwaye ngoku, amaqabane, abadala, khumbula, uya badla noko ibinzana phandle esitratweni. Injalo loo nto, kwaye eneneni ukuba bonke smiling enye kwenye, ukuba baphile kuba mnandi kakhulu ngakumbi mnandi! Xelela umntwana wakho indlela oko kuthetha ububele enjalo, yaye kubaluleke kusoloko HIV ukunxibelelana nabanye. Makabe ngomba "uncumo iindwendwe 'ukuqala kuluhlu lwakho izenzo elungileyo ukuba abantwana. Kodwa sibabulisa abamelwane bam kunye nabathengisa ngeento kwiivenkile apho undwendwela rhoqo. Nje zama yaye kungekudala inyathelo wenyuswa waba ngumntu wonke ngeenxa zonke. Kwaye ngoko ukusuka zava emakhaya akusayi kufumana i "ihlabathi langaphandle nobutshaba", kwaye libutho abahlobo abadala.
Nika imo - ukuba nje
Abaninzi kuthi musa ukufumana ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo ngokunxulumene kwabanye. Kodwa ukukholisa indoda ilula kakhulu. Uyakwazi ukwenza kunconywa kutitshala esikolweni, okanye ungowasemzini esitratweni. Enyanisweni, kuba imbeko eqhelekileyo, kodwa sidla silibale nje ngayo. Ngoko kutheni ungenzi uluhlu lwezinto ezintle ukuba unako ukwenza into umntwana "abanye tsakisaka"? Ukuba sikhetha kuphela ukuthetha, into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo isimo sengqondo kufuneka ibe ukuvala iindwendwe kunye nabantu angaqhelekanga. Abazali kuyo nayiphi na imeko ukuba sityhole i-ganda yokuqala kuba wamnika ethile usiba encinane into ofunda ekwabelwana bakhohlwa ukugqitha ngaye waza wagqiba ekubeni baphathane kunye neelekese. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, bakhuthaze izenzo ezinjalo, kuba, enyanisweni, kuba bububele.
Isilumkiso, udinga uncedo!
abantwana abaninzi abanobubele novelwano ngemvelo. Xa ndandineminyaka engama-4-5, umntwana uziva kakuhle ezizimeleyo "abadala" yaye ukulungele ukwenza iintlobo kwee-odolo kunye noshishino. Okumangalisayo kukuba, lo mnqweno lokungazingci ngokupheleleyo, kuba usana lwabo ababagcinayo ukulungele kusini ukufumana nto simdumise. Mkhuthaze umntwana wakho amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuze bajonge ngeenxa sizibuze: "? Ngubani na Ndinakwenza ntoni". Nokuba umntu ofunda wokuqala azise esitoreni eziphathwayo kootitshala, ukuthatha ezinye wasekhaya okanye uthathe inxaxheba ukucocwa kwe-ofisi yesikolo. Uncedo ukuze kufuneka, kwaye ungowasemzini epheleleyo - ukuguqulela umhlala ngaphaya kwendlela, niyixelele ixesha okanye indlela - zonke ezi "uvulindlela" imizekelo nanini na nga kwenzeka ngokoqobo. Kwaye ke, akukho mntu ufanele uhlale kude xa kukho into engaqhelekanga. Wonke umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba azibona imeko, avumele ngokwakho ukuba akanako, ufanele ngoko nangoko ucele uncedo abadala ubaxelele konke oko ebekwazi yesehlo.
Ekunyamekeleni abazalwana bethu ezincinci
iisayikholojisti Child ehlabathini jikelele bathi ekukhuleni komntwana uluncedo kakhulu ukuba isilo-qabane. indlu yezilwanyana efundisa uxanduva nosana, uvelwano kunye nokhathalelo. ibanga lokuqala okanye enkulisa abadala ngokupheleleyo ukuthatha unonophelo wena phantse nasiphi na isilwanyana, nto leyo uqulathwe ehokweni, ikati okanye inja ubungakanani ezincinane kunye neziphakathi. Kodwa ukuba usapho lwakho sele unayo qabane, uluhlu lwe izenzo elungileyo ukuba abantwana kufuneka kufuneka zibandakanya impilo-ntle yezilwanyana xa iyonke. Yokondla iintaka kunye nomntwana esitratweni, ikati engenakhaya okanye inja. Kuba iintaka nako ukwenza birdhouse okanye intaka ezingena kweyona migaqo mikhulu. kakuhle kakhulu, ukuba isikolo naye unalo zoo okuvusa, apho abantwana nje ukubukela izilwanyana, kodwa ukunyamekela kubo.
Nature, kakhulu, kufuneka inxaxheba yakho
Cinga kusoloko kangakanani na ukwenza imisebenzi elungileyo? Uluhlu abantwana ngalo mba kufuneka iquke inkxalabo eziphilayo kunye nokusingqongileyo. Ukuya kwi uhambo okanye nje ipikniki? Musa ukulibala ukuba athathe ingxowa kowakho umonakalo, kodwa kunokuba eziliqela. Kwaye phambi kokuba uqale isidlo, okanye qala inkampu, cela umntwana ukufumana phandle okucoca ekhethiweyo. Ngokufuthi inkunkuma ilele ngeenxa phantsi kweenyawo zethu, nkqu eyadini yakho. Musa ukuba nentloni ukuyisusa, kodwa kamva kuya kuba mnandi uhambo endaweni ehlambulukileyo. Abantwana kwakhona kuyaphula nabazali bakhe umandlalo intyatyambo encinane kufuphi indlu okanye ukulima iintyatyambo ekhaya, phezu balcony ngexesha efudumeleyo kulo nyaka. Uluhlu izenzo elungileyo ukuba abantwana kweminyaka esi-7 ubudala kwakhona iquka uncedo kubazali noninakhulu kwi wabo ehlotyeni.
Kukwazi ukunika, yaye ufumana ngaphezulu
Kuzo zonke ndlu kukho izinto ezingasetyenziswayo kunye akungekwazeki ukuba kufuneka kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa umntu kweli xesha dire kufuneka kubo, yaye ngamanye amaxesha sasingabi nayo imali ukuze ukuya nje ukuyithenga uyikhulule ngentlawulelo. Ngoko kutheni tirhisa icocwe entwasahlobo balahle zonke ngokungeyomfuneko. Kakade ke, ukuba kumele kube elungileyo umsebenzi abantwana kuphela ngemvume kunye uncedo kubazali babo. Abantu abadala nabo kufuneka ukufundisa umntwana lula inxalenye ngengubo ukuba wayengekho ubungakanani, nesithukuthezi zokudlala nezinye izinto ukusebenzisa engasekho izicwangciso. Yintoni na enam obu butyebi bakhe? Iimpahla badluliselwe kwiintlangano ezinceda, zama ukuba ii izinto lobuqu abahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Khumbula umthetho olula: kokukhona unika, kokukhona ufumana - ukuba umthetho indalo esebenza ngokwenene. Ethetha uthando, ngokuqhelekileyo 7-8 iminyaka sele bonke abantwana imali zabo 'ngenxa yeendleko epokothweni. " Namhlanje, iindawo zentengiso ezininzi nezakhiwo zikawonke iibhokisi iminikelo, lo mntwana amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuthoba ubuncinane isibini zemali, kuba kusenokwenzeka, ukuba ezi mali ziya ukusindisa ubomi bomntu okanye nokuphucula ubulunga bayo!
Ukuze wenze okulungileyo, kwaye babe kwikhaya lakho
Abazali abaninzi uyazibuza ukuba okanye hayi ukuquka uluhlu izenzo elungileyo ukuba abantwana besikolo samabanga ezahlukeneyo yasekhaya kunye nemithetho unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu kweli khaya? Cinga ngalo, ukunceda umntu ukusuka usapho ukuba enze umsebenzi wasekhaya - ke into entle, okanye ukukholisa umama okanye utata ikomityi yeti, isipho kungekho sizathu? Impendulo yale mibuzo yomibini nguewe. Oku kuthetha ukuba azazi zava emakhaya yakho, elowo kuthi enze izinto ezilungileyo. Uluhlu yabantwana abakwiminyaka yokuba sesikolweni Prayimari sinokuba zibandakanya uncedo kuphela "efama" uze uthathe unonophelo izilwanyana, kodwa ezinye izinto ezininzi ezimnandi kunye luncedo. Okokuqala-ibanga kunokunceda bekhulisa kunye nokhathalelo lwabantwana abaselula, ukuba ikhona, nceda ezinale izipho kungekho sizathu, kunye nokunyusa uncedo phantse naliphi na ishishini - ngokucoca ukuya ngeenyawo evenkileni.
Nangona kunjalo, ungenza ngaphezulu!
A lot of iimvakalelo ezintle kuzisa abantwana kunye nabantu abadala inxaxheba kwiziganeko ezahlukeneyo naseluthandweni. Ingcamango umdla kwisikolo - amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuze aququzelele i uhambo ukuya kwikhaya lokonga. Ngexesha lezi ntlanganiso, abafundi kumaziko emfundo anxibelelane nje noomawokhulu, enikezela izipho ezenziwe ngezandla zabo, ukucwangcisa Ikonsathi ezincinane. Umbutho sehlo ilula, kodwa ke isiphumo nto umxhelo. abantu abadala Single Sivuya kakhulu nayiphi na ingqalelo, kunye nabantwana kumnandi kwaye umdla ku va nkoka. Ngaba ukuba iimvakalelo ezakhayo benze imisebenzi emihle? Uluhlu Iklasi abantwana 2 kwakhona ziquka iziganeko zebanga lokuqala okanye iivoti nokuba omncinane. Ngubani na kodwa onamava-ugrade yesibini ayakwazi ukunceda ekufundeni kwabo kutshanje baye beza esikolweni, kwaye kunceda ukusombulula naziphi na iingxaki imitya endlwaneni ubudlelwane kunye noontanga babo?
Ukusuka umbono nokwenziwa!
Wena mhlawumbi sele ebhaliweyo uluhlu olude lwe izenzo elungileyo ukuba abantwana esikolweni nasekhaya, kodwa qiniseka ukuba ushiye imigca yokugqibela embalwa engenanto. Mkhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba acinge kakuhle kwaye enze iinguqulelo zabo. Ezinye iingxaki zisenokubonakala kwamnandi kwaye akuwenzi, yaye omnye kakhulu kunokwenzeka ukuzama ukwenza afezeke. Kakade ke, kuphela iingcamango inxaxheba yomntwana kulo msebenzi ayikagqitywa. Cinga ndawonye njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuqonda izicwangciso zethu kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ncokola njengomntwana onengqondo umfana ekuphunyezweni. Ngisho namandla intsapho okanye udidi yesikolo, ungenza iintlobo zezinto ezilungileyo, uluhlu iklasi 1 yabantwana usenokuphinda ongezwe. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwenza konke oku ngenyameko, ngokwasentliziyweni ehlambulukileyo kwaye akanamdla ngokupheleleyo.