Iintlobo zemfundo yentsapho kunye neendlela zokukhulisa abantwana. Imfundo yentsapho kunye nentsapho yokufundisa

Ukukhulisa umntwana akuwona msebenzi olula njengoko kubonakala ngathi uqala ukujonga. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo kunye nezitayela zemfundo yentsapho. Ungaziqonda njani? Ziziphi iindlela zemfundo yentsapho yokukhetha? Siza kujonga iimpendulo kunye.

Imfundo yentsapho kunye nokufundiswa kweentsapho, kuxhomekeke kwindlela abazali abajonga ngayo nokulawula umntwana, bahlule ezi ndlela zendlela zempembelelo:

• Igunya,
• OMbane,
• Bhalisa,
• Ukungabikho.

Izitayela ezigunyazisiweyo nezigunyazayo

Ngokukhuliswa ngokusemthethweni, umama noyise banomfudumalo kubantwana, kodwa ukulawula kwabo kuphezulu. Abazali bayaqaphela kwaye bakhuthaza ngamandla ukuzimela komntwana. Le ndlela ibonakalisa ukuzimisela njengoko umntwana ekhula ukuze ahlaziye iimfuno kunye nemithetho yakhe.

Isitayela sokugunyazwa sibonakaliswe ngeqondo eliphantsi lokuqonda kwengqondo yabantwana kunye nezinga eliphezulu lokulawula. Ukunxibelelana kwabazali abanjalo nomntwana kufana nokunyanzelisa, xa zonke izicelo zivakaliswa ngendlela yeemyalelo, kunye neemfuno, ukuthintela kunye nemithetho ayitshintshi phantsi kweyiphi na into ebangelwayo.

I-Liberal kunye neeNtlu ezingafaniyo

Kwintsapho apho abantwana bafumana ukufudumala emoyeni, kwaye ukulawula kwabo kwinqanaba eliphantsi (ukufikelela ekuxolelweni kunye nokuvunyelwa), isimboli se-liberal sokukhulisa. Kukho akukho mfuneko kunye nemithetho, kwaye inqanaba lobunkokeli lishiya into enqwenelekayo.

Ngendlela yokungafani, abazali bathatha inxaxheba encinci ekukhuliseni, umntwana ubonakala ekhukhulayo, iimfuno kunye neemfuno zakhe zithatyathwa. Cishe akukho mlawuli ovela kubaba nonina.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, nganye yeendlela ezichaziweyo zempembelelo kubonakala kumntwana ngendlela ethile. Kodwa indima ephambili ekubunjweni kobuntu idlaliswa yintsapho yokukhuliswa kweentsapho. Siza kuziqwalasela ngokubanzi.

Uhlobo lwesiHarmonic

Iintlobo zentsapho yokukhuliswa komntwana zihlukaniswe zibe zihambelana kwaye zidibeneyo. Eyokuqala ichaza:

• Ukuxhaswa komzwelo;
• Ukwaneliseka okukhulu kweemfuno zabo bonke amalungu omndeni, abadala kunye nabantwana;
• Ukuqaphela ukuba umntwana ungumntu, kwaye unokukhetha indlela yakhe yokuphuhlisa;
• Ukukhuthazwa kokuzimela kwabantwana.

Ukongezelela, kwiimeko ezinzima kukho intlonipho kunye namalungelo alinganayo kwabazali kunye nomntwana ukuthatha izigqibo. Inkqubo yemfuno yomntwana apha ihlala ilungelelaniswa nobudala bayo kunye nobuntu. Ukulawulwa ngabazali kuchanekileyo, ngokuthe ngcembe ilungu elincinci lentsapho lisebenzisa ukuzithiba. Ukukhuthazwa kunye nezohlwayo zihlala zifanelekile kwaye zifanelekile. Abazali banokuphikelela kunye nokungaphikisani kwimicimbi yokukhuliswa, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo wonke umntu ugcina ilungelo lakhe kwimeko. Umama okanye utata angenza utshintsho kwinkqubo yemfundo ngokwexesha labantwana.

Iintlobo zeDisharmonic zemfundo yentsapho

Ziye zahluke kakhulu, kodwa kukho impawu eziqhelekileyo, kwiimilinganiselo ezihlukeneyo, ezihambelana nentsapho nganye yale candelo. Okokuqala kuzo zonke iintlobo zeengxaki zezemfundo zentsapho kunye nolwalamano lwentsapho zibonakaliswa ngumgangatho omncinci wokumkelwa komntwana kunye nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba unqatshelwe imvakalelo. Ewe, akukho nto ihamba ngayo kule ntlawulo. Abazali badibene kunye kwaye abanalo uluvo olufanayo kwimibandela yokukhuliswa. Ngobudlelwane nabantwana abahlala bengavumelaniyo kwaye bephikisana.

Iindidi zezemfundo zentsapho zihlala zibonakaliswa kukuba iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi abazali bawuthintela umntwana, kaninzi kungadingekile. Kwinqanaba leemfuno, kukho izikhundla zombini: mhlawumbi zigqithise okanye zingekho. Kwimeko yokugqibela, ukuvunywa kwemvume kukulawula. Ukulawulwa ngabazali akukho apho kuyimfuneko, kwaye akwanele. Izijeziso azifanelekanga kwaye zihlala zihlala zikhona okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, azikho.

Iintlobo zeDisharmonic zentsapho zokukhuliswa komntwana ezahlukileyo kukuba ekukhulumisaneni kwansuku zonke nentombi okanye nendodana kukho ukungqubuzana okukhulu. Iimfuno zabantwana zidibene ngokungenakulungele okanye ngokugqithiseleyo. Iindidi eziqhelekileyo zilandelayo:

• Ukuzimela,
• Ukungakhuselekanga,
• Ukuphikiswa okuphikisanayo,
• Ukukhuliswa ngohlobo lokunyusa uxanduva lokuziphatha,
• Imfundo yoluntu,
• Ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana,
• Unqulo lwezifo.

Makhe sihlolisise ngakumbi iinkalo zemfundo yentsapho kunye nobudlelwane bomzali bomntwana.

Ukuchithwa kwe-Hypoprotection kunye ne-Hyperprotection

Lezi zimbini ezahlukeneyo ze-polar, xa kunenkxalabo, ingqwalasela, ukulawula, umdla kumntwana kunye neemfuno zakhe akunakwaneleyo (i-hypoprotection), okanye kuninzi (ukungathinteki).

Uhlobo oluphikisanayo

Kucinga ukuba abazali banemibono eyahlukileyo kwimfundo, abayiyo ebomini. Iimpembelelo kumntwana ziguquka ngezihlandlo ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakhe, kodwa izicwangciso zemfundo ziyazodwa kwaye azihambelani.

U xanduva lo ku ziphatha

Abantwana baxhomekeke kwimfuno ephezulu, ngokuqhelekileyo ayifanelekanga kwixesha elide kunye nomntu ngamnye.

Imfundo yoluntu

Kule meko, impumelelo, iimpumelelo zomntwana, isimo sengqondo sontanga kuye, umgaqo woxanduva, uxanduva kunye noxanduva lubekwe kwindawo yokuqala. Konke oku kwenziwa ngaphandle kokuqwalasela iimpawu neempawu zabantwana.

Unyango

Ngolu hlobo lwemfundo, isijeziso sinzima ngaphezu kokungaziphathi kakuhle, kwaye akukho zikhuthazo.

Unqulo lwezifo

Umntwana uphathwa njengobuthathaka, ogulayo, ongenakunceda, ukudala umoya okhethekileyo ojikeleze kuye. Oku kukhokelela ekuphuhliseni ukuzingca kunye nomqondo wodwa.

Ukongeza kwimizila kunye neentlobo, kukho iindlela zemfundo yentsapho. Baza kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.

Izindlela zokuchaphazela abantwana

Iintlobo zemfundo yentsapho kunye nolwalamano lwentsapho zibonisa iindlela ezilandelayo zokuthonya: uthando, ukuthembela, umzekelo, ukubonisa, ingxoxo, uvelwano, isabelo, ukulawula, ukuphakama kobuntu, ukuhlambalaza, ukudumisa okanye ukukhuthaza, ukujeziswa, izithethe, ukuvelana.

Abazali bakhulisa abantwana babo kungekhona ngamazwi kunye nokukholelwa, kodwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngomzekelo ngamnye. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukulungelelanisa ubomi bentsapho, ukuziphatha komntu kunye nentlalo yomama noyise. Umama noTata abayi kuba nefuthe elihle kumntwana, ukuba bona ngokwabo abazami ukuphucula. Izindlela zemfundo zentsapho zisebenza kuphela xa abazali bebandakanyeka kunye nokuzifundela.

Impembelelo kubantwana abancinci

Imfundo yentsapho yabantwana besikolo sokufundela kufuneka ihlelwe ukuze iimfuno zomntwana zivunyelwane phakathi kwabazali. Oku kuya kunceda abantwana baziphathe ngokuchanekileyo, bafundise indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo nezenzo. Kubalulekile ukuthetha malunga neemfuno kumntwana ngendlela yesifiso, isicelo okanye iingcebiso, kuba ithoni ye-oda iya kubangela ukuphendula okungalunganga.

Kuzo naziphi na izithethe ezihlangeneyo zibonakalisa uhlobo loqhagamshelwano kunye nenqanaba lemfundo. Kuyafana nentsapho. Amasiko kunye nezinkolelo ezinenkathalo zinomphumo onenzuzo kubantwana. Ukongeza, idibanisa abazali kunye nomntwana. Xa uzilungiselela iiholide, abantwana baqhotyoshelwe kwicala lemihla ngemihla yobomi. Bayanceda bahlambulule baze bahlobise indlu, bathathe inxaxheba ekuphekeni nasetafileni, ukulungiselela izipho kunye namakhadi kwiintsapho.

Izinto eziphambili zentsapho

Ukukhuliswa kweentsapho zezingane zasesikolweni kungekudala okuhluke ekukhulisweni kwabantwana abaneminyaka eminye. Intsapho apho ulawulo oluhambelanayo lukhuseleko, inkxaso yenkomfa, ngenxa yolu xhaphalo kunye nesimo semfuno kweli hlabathi, elikhupha ngokomoya. Ukuhambisana kwemvakalelo yawo onke amalungu kudala ithoni efanelekileyo ekunxibelelaneni, umzekelo, oku kubonakala xa ihlaya likamama okanye utata lingakwazi ukukhusela ingxabano ephumayo, ikhuphe ukuxhatshazwa. Ngenxa yoko ukuqala nokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntwana, okuya kumvumela ukuba azibhokoxe, akwazi ukuzihleka ngokwakhe kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe, ukufumana ukuzinzileyo kwiimeko zobomi, kwaye angabi ngathintelo kwaye azilawule.

Uhlobo loBudlelwane obuhle

Imfundo yentsapho kunye nokufundiswa kweentsapho zijoliswe ekudaleni iimeko apho umntwana edala imodeli yobudlelwane. Kulo, uya kwakha ubomi bakhe bonke, uya kudala intsapho, akhulise abantwana kunye nabazukulu. Yiyiphi imodeli ekufuneka ibe yinto? Imfundo yentsapho iqhutyelwa ngomoya wobumnene, ukufudumala, ulonwabo nothando, kwaye ngokukodwa abantwana bahlala beqwalaselwa. Abazali bathambekele ekuphuhliseni ubuchule kunye neempawu ezilungileyo zomntwana ngokuwamkela njengoko kunjalo. Iimfuno zabantwana zisekelwe ekuhlonipheni. Imfundo isekelwe kwiimpawu ezilungileyo zomntwana, kungekhona ezimbi. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kufumana isiqendu sezinto ezinzima.

Ekugqibeleni

Ngoko, ukucinga ngokuchaneka kokukhuliswa komntwana, qwa lasela ngokwakho ngaphandle. Emva koko, abantwana bakopisha abazali babo. Zama ukwenza ngcono, kwaye umntwana uya kuqala ukutshintsha. Harmony kwintsapho yakho!