Yintoni ukuhambelana kwengqondo?

Kwenzeka ukuba nabanye abantu siziva sikhululekile kwaye sinokuzithemba, kodwa nabanye sihlala sisondele kwimpikiswano. Ngokuqala kokusondela ngokukhawuleza, okwesibini akukwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo. Sisiphi isizathu?

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Ukukwazi ukuqonda umlingane (ekunxibelelaneni, ukusebenza kunye) kunye nokusebenzisana naye kuthonywe ngamanqaku amaninzi: imfundo, iminyaka, isangqa sazi kunye neyinkcubeko. Ukuba enye yelapha ngentla ihluke ngokukodwa kubantu, phakathi kwabo kukho ukungavumelani nokungaqondani, ukugqitywa ukugqitywa. Kule meko, bathetha ngokungahambelani kwengqondo.

Yintoni ukuhambelana kwengqondo? Ngaba ingaqulunqwa kwangaphambili ngaphandle kokuzisa umba kumbambano? Kuthetha ukuthini igama elithi "ukuhambelana kwengqondo"?

Amanqanaba okuhambelana nengqondo

Ukuhambelana kwengqondo yinkalo ehlukeneyo kunye neendawo ezininzi.
Ukuhambelana kweengqondo zengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuhambisana kwentlalo-yengqondo kuxhomekeke kwiimeko zentlalo yabalingani, imisebenzi yabo, izinga lemfundo. Nangona kunjalo, imfundo ngokuqhelekileyo ayinayo impembelelo ebalulekileyo ekuhambelaneni kwabantu, kodwa inqanaba lenkcubeko jikelele yokuqonda ngokubaluleka kubaluleke kakhulu, njengalona nqanaba lophuhliso jikelele lomntu. Ukuvisisana kwengqondo ngabantu ngabantu abanemibono enxulumene nemibutho yabo yokudibanisa iingxaki eziqhelekileyo zilungelelaniswe ngokufanelekileyo. Oko kukuthi, ukuhambelana kwengqondo yabantu kubangelwa kuxhomekeke kwimisebenzi yabo yendima yokusebenza.

Kwaye inqanaba eliphezulu lokuhambelana lingabizwa ngokuba lunobumbano obunokubaluleka, xa abalingani bengavumelani noluvo lwabo, kodwa babelane ngesigqibo esabelana ngaso kwaye banikeze uxanduva kulo kuphela, kodwa kubo.

Ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwiqela

Uninzi lwexesha esichitha emsebenzini. Ngoko ke, kuyaqondakala ukuba umnqweno wonke wokuziva phakathi kwabasebenzi nabo kulula kwaye uyathemba. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu phakathi komvuzo ophezulu phakathi kwabathandekayo kunye nabangaphantsi kwiqela elibamkhethe bakhetha ukhetho lokugqibela. Ukuchaneka kunye noxanduva oludibeneyo lokuthintana nabo kubaluleke kakhulu kunemali kunye nemisebenzi. Emva kobudlelwane obunzulu kwindawo yokusebenzela kunokuba mnandi ukutyhelela ubomi bethu. Kwaye kukho ubuninzi bezinto ezinjalo "ukungcola" ekusebenzeni. Ukuze ugweme oku, xa usebenza kwiqela ngalinye, umphathi makangacingi nje ngeempawu zobungcali zomenzi wesicelo, kodwa anikezele ngeziphumo zemisebenzi edibeneyo kunye nalo lonke iqela. Ngamanye amagama - qwalasela ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwabasebenzi. Kodwa liphi igama elithi "ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwamalungu eqela" kuthetha ntoni?

Oku kubonakaliswa kwezakhiwo ezithile zengqondo zamalungu awo, apho impumelelo yokusebenza kwemisebenzi yeqela ixhomekeka kakhulu. Ukubeka nje, igama elithi "ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwamalungu eqela" ichazwa njengokuba kungenzeka okanye abantu abakwaziyo ukungena kuyo ukuze basebenze ngokubambisana, bazive bekhululekile kwaye bekhuselekile.

Xa ukuhambelana kubaluleke kakhulu

Ngoku, xa kwacaca ukuba yintoni igama elithi "ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwintsebenziswano" kuthetha, umntu unokuthetha ukuba ukusebenzisana ngokubambisana kwabasebenzi kunye nabo kuboniswa yimibandela emininzi. Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba ukuhambelana komntu kubaluleke ngakumbi ekuthuthukisweni kwengqondo kwiqela, abantu basebenze ixesha elide.

Ukubaluleka kokuhambelana kuxhomekeke kubukhulu beqela. Kwamaqela anabasebenzi abaninzi, izinto ezinxulumene nokusebenza kwengqondo azibalulekanga.

Kodwa kwincinci - ukusuka kubantu aba-3 ukuya ku-7-ukuqokelela okubaluleka kakhulu ekudalweni kwe-microclimate engokwemvelo yengqondo inobungakanani obuphezulu beempawu zendalo zabasebenzi, ukuhambelana kwabantu babo, iintlobo zesimiso seentlungu, iinqanaba lokunyamezela ngokwenyama, ukusebenza kakuhle, ukuzinza kwengqondo.

Kwamaqela ambalwa, ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwamalungu ekomiti kubaluleke kakhulu kubaluleke ngaphezu kwezakhono zabo zobugcisa. Ezi zilandelayo ziyakwazi ukufundiswa, kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukunqoba ukungahambelani kwengqondo?

Iintlobo zengqondo ezingahambelaniyo

Ukungahambelani kwengqondo kwamalungu omntu omnye kubonakaliswa ukungakwazi ukuqonda phakathi kweemeko ezibucayi, ukungahambelani kokuphendula kwengqondo, ukungafani kokucinga, ingqwalasela, ixabiso. Abantu abanjalo abangenayo ubudlelwane obunobungane, musa ukuhlonelana, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha baziva bengathandeki kubalingane. Ukungahambelani kwengqondo kunokuthi nje kubangele ubomi babantu, kodwa kuphazamise umgangatho womsebenzi.

Oku kungahambelani kubonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo:

• Ukungahambelani kweengqondo kukubonakalisa ukunganyaniseki kwimikhwa yomnye umntu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuya kumnandi.
• Ukungahambelani kwezenzo-zengqondo kubonakaliswa kaninzi, ukuba "iindima" kwiqela lihanjiswe ngokungalunganga, ngokungafanelekanga.
• Ukungahambelani kwemibutho yezobudlelwane bezobudlelwane bezobudlelwane bezobudlelwane belizwe kunye nokukholelwa. Ingakhokelela ekujonganeni kwabantu.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukulwa nokungahambelani kwengqondo?

Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba amaqabane aphantsi kweemeko aziqondi kakuhle, "ungava" umlingani wabo, abakwazi ukwenza isigqibo esifanayo kule meko. Emva kokungqubuzana kwengqondo, yonke into iwa phantsi ezandleni, amandla okusebenza ayancipha, kwaye umgangatho wobomi uhla kakhulu. Kule meko, umsebenzi wenkokheli ukuzama ukuzisa iqela kunye, ukudala umoya onobungane wokuthembela kuyo.

Kodwa oko kungenziwa njani? Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba umgaqo wokwenza umoya osebenza ngokukhululekile kwiqela elidibanisa abantu beentlobo ezahlukeneyo zengqondo, kaninzi abahambelani kunye?

Izindlela ezintathu zokusombulula ukungalingani kwiqela

Ukuba ukuhambelana kwengqondo kwamalungu eqela kushiya into enqwenelekayo, ungasebenzisa enye yeendlela ezilandelayo:

1. Zama ukukhusela ingxabano. Ukwenza oku, thintela ukuphazamisa ukungahambisani kwemibango kunye neengxabano zeemeko.
2. Ngethuba lokukhumbuza oogxa abanokuphikisana nabo malunga nobudlelwane bezakhono, ukuba sonke sinye iqela elinye. Ngaloo ndlela, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungelelanise ukuxabana okukhulayo kwaye ungavumeli amalungu ahlangeneyo aqale ukubonakalisa ubugwenxa.
3. Indlela ephumelelayo kukufumana ukulungelelanisa, ukuthatha ingcamango yombhikishi ingagqibekanga, kodwa kwindlela enokuthi ivumeleke ukumisa umquzulwano.

Kodwa zonke ezi zindlela zangaphandle ezingagqibekanga ingcambu zeengxaki - ukungahambelani kwengqondo kwabasebenzi. Ngoko ke, isisombululo esona siphumelelo kukuqhuba uvavanyo lwezengqondo kunye nelungu ngalinye elitsha leqela ukwenzela ukuhambelana nabasebenzi abakhona. Kwaye kungcono ukuqwalasela iinkqubo zentlalo kunye neengqondo zendlela yokuhambelana kwamalungu ayo ngaphambili, kwinqanaba lokuqulunqwa.

Cinga ngeentlobo zeengqondo zabantu

Isisombululo esiphumeleleyo somsebenzi wokwenza uqokelelwano lwezengqondo ngokuxhomekeke kakhulu ukuba kuxhomekeke ekubeni inkokheli eyenza iqela liyazi iintlobo zeengqondo zabantu. Iintlobo ezimbini zengqondo ziyaziwa: ama-introverts and extroverts.

Ama-Introverts agcinwe, azingabikho, athekele ngakumbi ekucingeni kunokuba benze umsebenzi osebenzayo, abahlali bengenanto. I-Introvert - umntu oqapheleyo, ofihlakeleyo, ohamba phambili, ukhetha ukuba asebenze ngokuzenzekelayo.
Ukugqithisa, ngokuchaseneyo, banabantu abavulekileyo, abanesihawu, abanceda, abakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ezintsha. I-extrovert ixhamla, inqabileyo, ngokucacileyo kwisigwebo. Ngokungafani ne-introvert, liyilinyathelo. Abantu abanjalo bajolise ekuphononongweni kwangaphandle kwemisebenzi yabo. Ukwandisa umsebenzi omhle, ofuna ukwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza.

Ngendlela yayo ecocekileyo, ama-introverts and extroverts are rare. Ngomntu ngamnye kukho iziganeko zombini zengqondo. Kodwa kufuneka babe nokukwazi ukuzimisela nokuqwalasela xa bekwakha iqela.

Ukuvumelana kweZengqondo zakwaMtshato

Ukuhambelana nentsapho yimeko ebalulekileyo yokuzinza kwebini. Ukuqonda ukuhambelanisa ukudibana komzimba kufutshane nokwaneliseka komyeni nomfazi ngomtshato. Ukuhambelana kwabantu abathandekayo abenzile intsapho kubonakaliswe ngokuhambelana kwezimo zengqondo, ukufana kwezindlela zokomoya, ngokuhambelana nabalinganiswa. Icandelo elibalulekileyo ekuhambelaneni kokuxilongwa komzimba kunokuthiwa ukuhambelana kweembono zombini kwimisebenzi yentsapho.

Ukuthetha ngokuhambelana nokusebenza kwengqondo kwabatshatileyo, asinakukwazi ukuqwalasela ukulandelana kwekhaya, ubuzwe bomtshato, inkolo yabo. Okubalulekayo ukuhambelana nabo banxulumene nolwalamano kwizihlobo, ubunye bemigaqo yokukhuliswa kwabantwana, ukuhanjiswa kwemisebenzi yasekhaya. Kwaye kwaneendlela ezahlukileyo zokuhleka kwezinto ezingabangela ukungahambelani kwabantu abanothando.

Umoya wathinteka njani?

Kubalulekile ekuhambelaneni kwabantu ngamaqela, kuba ngumsebenzi ohlangeneyo, okanye intsapho, ukudibanisa kweentlobo zeempawu kunye neempawu. Ukuba umlingiswa womntu wenziwa ngokusekelwe kumava kwaye unokutshintsha ngexesha lobomi, ngoko ugugu lunikezelwa ngokuzalwa, alukwazi ukutshintshwa. Kodwa ukuqwalasela ukucacisa ukuhambelana kwengqondo kufuneka ukuba.

Enyanisweni, ngendlela ecocekileyo, i-choleric, i-sanguine, i-melancholic okanye i-phlegmatic ayikwazi ukudibana nayo, kodwa enye yeentlobo zengqondo kumntu wonke uqhubeka. Ziziphi izinto ezahlukileyo kwaye yintoni kanye ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo?

Abantu abaneempembelelo ezifanayo basabela kwizinto ezenzekayo ngendlela efanayo, ezifana neemvakalelo zabo nokuziphatha kwabo. Ngenxa yoko, kulula ukuba abantu abanjalo baqonde umhlobo, ukuxela ikhosi yeengcamango nezenzo.

Kodwa nantsi into ephazamisayo: ulwalamano olusondeleyo phakathi kwabantu, oluhambelana kakhulu lufana nemimoya ephikisanayo, ehambelana ngokupheleleyo.

Iimpawu zabantu abaneempembelelo ezahlukeneyo

Izigulane ezikhethiweyo zichongiwe yinkqubo enomdla, iguqule imisebenzi yabo ngaphandle kweengxaki. Kodwa inkqubo yeentlanzi zabantu abaluhlobo olunjalo ayinakulinganisela, nto leyo idla ngokubangela ukunganyamezelani nabanye abantu. Abantu abaqolileyo bangatshintsha isimo sengqondo ngenxa yesizathu esicacileyo. Bakhawuleza, bacinezeleke, bethandana nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Abantu abanegazi banesistim esomeleleyo se-nervous, benomsebenzi obalaseleyo, baqhubela phambili kwiminye imisebenzi, banxibelelana nabo bonke abantu abangenazo iingxaki. AmaSanguin ahlala esoloko ehle, afuna amava amatsha, ngokukhawuleza aphendule kwizinto ezenzeka kuzo, ngokukhawuleza bafumane ukuhluleka.

Abantu be-Phlegmatic nabo banesistim esomeleleyo seentsholongwane, zisebenza kakuhle, kodwa azibandakanyekanga kwimisebenzi emitsha. Kunzima kubantu base-phlegmatic kwaye balungelelanise imeko entsha. Imoya ye-phlegmatic ivame nokuba, uhlale ezolile kwaye eqinisekile. Abantu balesi simo sengqondo nabo bafana nokuhlala kubudlelwane.

Iilancholics ngabantu bolu hlobo olubuthathaka lwenkqubo yesifo, banomgangatho ophantsi wezenzo zengqondo, bayakhawuleza bakhathala. Ngokuba i-melancholic ebonakalayo ngovakalelo oluthile, uvelwano kwabanye. Ndiyabulela kule mpawu kunye neengcibiliki kulula ukuhamba. Kodwa bona ngokwabo, abajongene neengxaki ngaphakathi kwabo, bahlala benesimo sengqondo esibi, banobuzenzisi kunye nosizi.

Isiqinisekiso sokuhambelana nxu lumano oluphezulu lwexabiso, i-genotype kunye ne-altruism

Ukuqulunqwa, kufuneka kuphawulwe ukuba ukuhambelana kwengqondo kuchazwa njengokwamkelwa komntu omnye komnye, okusekelwe ekufananeni okanye ukudibanisa ngokubaluleka kokubaluleka kwexabiso kunye neempawu zabo.

Ngokuvisisanayo kuya kuba ngabantu abafana nobudala obufanayo, isimo sengqondo, imiqobo yezinto eziphilayo, isimo sempilo, umsebenzi wokwenza ubomi ngokwesondo, omnye umgangatho wemfundo, kunye neenjongo ezifanayo, kwaye iindlela zokuphumeza nazo azifani. Kwaye abantu abavisisanayo ngokufanelekileyo balungele ukuthatha uxanduva lomnye nomnye kunye nezigqibo ezidibeneyo. Kodwa ebomini, ukufana okunjalo kubunzima.

Kodwa kunjalo sinokubambisana kwengqondo nabantu, ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukileyo kuthi. Kwaye ukufezekisa ebomini babo ukuhambelana nabantu abasondeleyo kunye nabalingane baya kunceda, mhlawumbi, kungekudala kuqhutywe uvavanyo lwezengqondo ukuhambelana, kodwa umnqweno wokukwenza ukuze abanye basondelene nathi. Mhlawumbi oku kubalulekileyo ekuhambelaneni kwengqondo?