Kutheni, nini, ngubani kunye kunye nexesha elingakanani ukuthetha amazwi okubulela ukuvuyisana? Indlela yokucinga intetho?

"Ngamnye wethu uyavuya ukufumana umbulelo ngomsebenzi wethu." La mazwi athethwa nguNjingalwazi uDumbledore, iqhawe lencwadi eyaziwayo "uHarry Potter" ngumlobi weNgesi uJoe Rowling. Eneneni, intliziyo yegama lokubonga ngokuvuyisana, ukunyamekela, ukuthatha inxaxheba okanye uncedo luhlala lukholisa intliziyo.

Kutheni sibonga ngokubanzi?

Kwi-cartoon ukususela ebuntwaneni, isilwanyana yayiphathwe kwibhanana kwaye yabuza: "Ndingathini na?". Watsho: "Nika ngaphezulu!" Kuhlekisa! Kodwa ekukhuleni kudla kwenzeka xa ungayiva ncinane "Ndiyabonga" ngenxa yezenzo ezilungileyo.

Ukuva eli gama, siva ukuba luncedo lomsebenzi wethu, inhlonipho yabanye kunye nesimo sabo esihle. Ukuthetha amazwi ombulelo ngokuvuyisana, ngenxa yokuthumela i-imeyile, ukuze sidle isidlo sakusihlwa, sibulela umbulelo kumntu ngenxa yokungakhathaleli nokunyamekela ukusikholisa. Olu luthando lomntu kunye, kulo mhlaba jikelele.

Ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga, "uyabonga" umele "uThixo uyakusindisa", kodwa "mbulela" - "Ndikunika okuhle".

Ubani kwaye nini isiko lokuthi "siyabonga"?

Kuyafaneleka ukuthetha amazwi okubonga rhoqo xa bekhathalele, xa basinceda okanye bangalindelanga ngathi. "Ndiyabulela" akufanele kuzwakala nje ngomoya oyingqumbo, kodwa nangomhla ngemihla ebomini bemihla ngemihla.

Iqhayiya ivakalisa ilizwi elihle lokubulela ngokuvuyisana ngalo mkhosi, ngokuzalwa komntwana. Emotionally kwaye ebonisa ngokunyanisekileyo utitshala ngomsebenzi wakhe onzima, abazali kwimibhiyozo yomtshato. Kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo kufuneka uphendule ukuba uye wanika indlela yokuthutha, wanika isandla, wamenywa waza wachaza.

Ndingafumanaphi na amazwi entetho yokubulela?

Indlela elula kakhulu ngamazwi okubulela ngokuvuyisana, ootitshala bezemfundo okanye abazali ngokuthandana nokunyamekela ukubhala kwindawo ethile. Olu khetho lungile, xa impendulo ifuna ukudibaniswa ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza, okanye ukuba ukubulela kuthiwa "ngenxa yokuba yamkelwe" kwaye "ukubonisa inhlonipho." Kodwa injalo "impromptu" isandi esicatshulwayo kunye nesibanda, akukho nantoni kuyo.

Ukuba unento endiyibulelayo, kwaye ufuna ukubonisa ubunyanisekileyo, owomileyo, owongqambileyo kunye nemigca eqhelekileyo kwi-intanethi ayifanelekanga. Lungiselela intetho ngokwakho, faka umphefumlo wakho kuwo. Emva koko, iinjongo eziphambili akuyikumangalisa abaphulaphuli ngeetalente zenu, kodwa ukubonisa ingqalelo ekubuleleni kwakho ngokusuka enhliziyweni kumntu onokubongela inkulumo.

Imithetho elula eya kukunceda ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo inkulumo yokubulela

Enyanisweni, konke kulula. Uyakulawula.

1. Kufuneka ulungiselele intetho kwangaphambili, kungekhona kwimizuzu yokugqibela, kwindawo ekhululekile. Qaphela ukuba akukho mntu ukuphazamisa iiyure ezingama-2. Ngamanye amaxesha, i-museum iya kutyelela, kodwa umntu uphazamisekile, kwaye ingcamango ilahlekile. Ihlazo.
2. Hlala phantsi etafileni, zibophe ngepeni (ungasebenzisa ipeneni yebhola) kunye nenqwaba yephepha elingenanto. Unokwenza ikhofi kunye nama-biscuits. Ukusuka yum ndifumana inzuzo ephindwe kabini. Okokuqala, iilekese zondla ingqondo kwaye zizalise ngamandla. Okwesibini, ngendlela enhle ngayo kulula ukubulela ...
3. Cinga ngomfanekiso obalulekileyo wenkulumo yakho yesikhathi esizayo. Khumbula konke okulungileyo ngaye. Phendula imibuzo elandelayo ngokubhala:

• Uhlobo luni lomntu (okanye oluhlangeneyo) lo? Unyanisekile, uhloniphekile, uvulekile, unesibindi, uhlakaniphile, uzimisele, unomusa, uvelwano, uvuyo, unomdla, unyanene, untle. Iimpawu ezintle ezirekhodiweyo, zibhetele.
• Yintoni enhle ayenzile ngokukhethekileyo kuwe? Uncedise, wafundisa, wakhuphula, wakhupha, waphilisa, wasindiswa, akazange ashiye kumzuzu onzima. Ukuba ulungiselela amazwi ombulelo ngokuvuyisana, cinga indlela enhle ngayo ukuba awuzange ulibaleke kwaye ufuna ukukwenza uzive ulungile.
• Yiyiphi into enhle ebonwa ngumntu kwabanye?
• Yimaphi amazwi amnandi ngaye awamva kubantu abangabaziyo?
• Yintoni onqwenela ukuyinqwenela kumntu owenze okuninzi kuwe? Impilo, inhlalakahle, ulutsha, amandla, isimo esihle. Kubalulekile ukubonisa ingqiqo nokuqonda. Akulunganga ukufisa ulutsha kumntu oneminyaka engama-70 ubudala. Kuyafaneleka ukufisa amandla, amandla kunye nobomi obude.

Ngoku kuvela kwiirekhodi ezigwenxa ezifunyenweyo zenza umbhalo obalulekileyo.

Iingcebiso ezimbalwa

Ngokuqhelekileyo, isakhiwo sesicatshulwa sinje:

• Ukubulisa ngokubanzi. "Othandekayo" kwaye "ohloniphekileyo" - esebenzayo kwisimo esisemthethweni kunye nesizukulwana esidala. "Intanda", "emangalisayo", "yam engcono" - la magama alungile ukulungisa ukuvala abantu kunye noontanga. Ukuba uya kubonga abasebenzi ngokuvuyisana, uncedo, ukuthatha inxaxheba, nceda uqhagamshelane nomntu ngobuninzi ngokukhawuleza.
• Inxalenye ephambili - xelele ngeempawu ezilungileyo zomntu onombulelo, malunga nokuba luhle kangakanani lo mntu akwenzele wena nabanye. Okanye ukhululekile ukuba usebenze kwiqela elinamanyeneyo nelinye.
• Ekupheliseni, zivakala zakho iimfuno.

Unako ukwenza i-pokreativit kwaye kuqala uxelele konke okulungileyo, kungekhona ukuthetha ngqo nomntu. Makhe baqikelele. Kodwa oku kutyunjwa kweqela elinobuhlobo olungaqhelekanga. Ukuthetha amazwi ombulelo ngokuvuyisana nabalingane, kungcono ukuba ungazi kakuhle.

Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukusho "Merci"?

"Ububele buyi-udade we talente." Ibinzana lephiko likwa-Anton Chekhov. Kwaye ulungile! Vumela intetho yakho ithathe imizuzu engama-3-4, kungekho, kuba imizuzu emihlanu isele ikhulu. Kutheni? Ukusasaza ingcamango yomthi, awugxininisi abaphulaphuli - oyiphi na onokuyibonga. Kwaye iindwendwe ziyaxhalabisa kwaye umxhamli wakho ukhubekile. Uza kuthetha ixesha elingaphezulu kwemizuzu engama-7 - abantu baya kuzisola beza kukuncoma. Kwitheyibhi yokuzonwabisa, kukho izidlo ezininzi, wonke umntu ugwinya ummatha, kwaye sele usubulela kubahlobo ngokuvuyisana ngamashumi amathathu (!) Amaminithi. Akwamkelekanga ukuhlushwa abanye ngoko.