Ingqondo yezesetyini: ukwesaba kunye neengxabano

Akusiyo imfihlelo yokuba iingqondo zentombi zahluke kubantu. Nangona kunjalo, ukwesaba kwamadoda kuthiwa kaninzi kunabesifazana - abafazi banesifo esibuthakathaka kwaye ngoko ke bekhohliswa ngcaciso. Oku kuzwakala kukubuhlungu. Ndingathanda ukukuxelela ngakumbi malunga nalo mfazi kwaye ndichaze oko kwaye kutheni uloyiko.

Ingqondo yengqondo yabasetyhini

Iingqondo zezesetyini kunye nabasilisa bahluke ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokubonakalayo ngenjongo yesimo kwaye oku kubangela ukungqubana phakathi kwazo, ezinokuba nemiphumo emibi kwintombi kunye nendoda.

Ngokuhambelana nemfundo, imigaqo yokuphila yehlabathi labantu - isimo, kunye nabasetyhini - ukusondela. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu abe ngowokuqala, kwaye kubhinqa kubalulekile ukugcina ubudlelwane nangona uqobo lwayo. Intombazana evela kwi-diaper ilungiselelwe ukuba ibe ngumfazi nonina-oku kuyona nto ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe, kunye nayo yonke into emva koko. Inkwenkwe ifundiswa ukuba ibe namandla, isibindi, ukunyamezela, oko kukuthi, ukuba yinto engcono. Ngenxa yoko ulwaphulo phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini luqala, olusekelwe ekungaqondisanisaneni, kungekhona ukuqonda ubudlelwane be-causal.

Ukuze unqobe le ngxabano zesini, kufuneka nje ukuba uqaphele lo mmahluko kwaye uqondane, kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka uxoxe kwaye uchaze omnye nomnye iimfuno zakho kunye nezizathu zezenzo. Okumangalisa ngokwaneleyo, kuya kubonakala ngathi ibhinqa yinto elula ukuyithatha inyathelo lokuqala. Ndikholelwe, eli liyinyathelo eliya kulonwabo. Sitshele ngoloyiko lwakho kunye nethemba kwaye uza kubona ukuba indoda yakho ayiyisisilumko, kodwa sinothando kwaye sinomdla.

I-Psychology yabesifazana yoyiko

1. Ukwesaba okukhulu kowesifazane kukuhlala yedwa. Ukuxhatshazwa kuhambelana nokungabikho kothando, ngaphandle kokuba akukho mfazi onokuyonwaba. Ukuze unqobe loloyiko kufuneka ukhulise ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye ufunde ukuzithandayo. Ukuba awuyivuyo kunye nawe kwaye ungakuthandi, ngubani oya kukuthanda?
2. Ukulahlekelwa ngumntwana yinkwenkwezi eyingozi kunazo zonke umfazi onokucinga. Ngokukodwa ukuba ngaba ngowokuqala. Ukusuka apha kunye nokuphulaphulwa komphefumlo womntwana, ukwesaba ukushiya umntu ngexesha elithile ukujongana nokunye okuninzi. Umama wamaMama oMama, owasinika isicatshulwa somama, wazama. Kunokwenzeka ukuzinqabisa ngokuzithemba yena kunye nentsapho yakhe, ngakumbi abazali bakhe, kuba bakhulisile kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, baya kwenza konke okukhuselekileyo ukhuseleko lomntwana.
3. Ukwesaba ukuguga kunye nokukhahlela ubuhle kukuloyiko olufanayo lokulondeka. Kwi-subconscious, i- series of associative ikhula-ilahlekelwe ubuhle kunye nomtsalane-ukuba ungathandwa-ukuba uhlale wedwa. Kutheni wonke umntu ecinga ukuba ubuhle kukungabikho kwamacu kunye neenwele ezimpunga? Ubuhle buphakathi kwakho: emehlweni, ukunyakaza, ilizwi. Jonga ngeenxa zonke - zingaphi umtshato oqolileyo, kunye nabasetyhini abatshatileyo namhlanje abayikho imodeli yefashoni, mhlawumbi neminyaka yobudala kaBalzac.
4. Ukwesaba ukufa kudibanisa amadoda nabasetyhini. Esi sisigqibo sokuqhelekileyo esingaziwa kwaye singaqondakali. Ingqondo yengqondo, njengabesilisa, iyafana ngokufanayo kule nkalo. Ukuba asikwazi into ethile, ngoko asiyikucingela iindaba, ziphi izinto eziyingozi. Nantsi into ekhunjulwayo yokukhumbula kukuba le yendalo yendalo yokuzimela kwaye ingayithobeli kuyo, kodwa ukuba iphile ngokwabo. Ukufa yingxenye yendalo yobomi.
5. Uloyiko lweentlanzi, iinambuzane kunye neentonga zikhona ezinye i-phobias zangempela, isizathu asiqhelekanga. Mhlawumbi, njengomntwana, ukwesaba, kwaye mhlawumbi umntu wanikela ukwesaba kwabo. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukuba unina ukwesaba izigulane, ngoko umntwana uya kuba noloyiko kubo. Nanku, unokukwazi ukujamelana nayo: susa endlwini yonke into ekwayikisayo. Ukuba uwela kwizonyanya xa ubona isicangci esincinci okanye i-cockroach-bhekisa kwingcali.

Ewe, yonke into echazwe yinto ephantsi kakhulu kwaye iyaqhelekileyo, nangona kunjalo, enye indlela okanye enye, siyifumana konke oku. Into ephambili nayo yonke into inokusingathwa ukuba ufuna.