Iincwadi ezifanelekileyo zeengqondo zifanele ukufunda

Namhlanje, ngumntu onobuqili ongenomdla kwizengqondo. Izindlela ezahlukileyo zokuphumeza okufunwayo ebomini zifumana impumelelo engummangaliso. Kodwa ukuba ube ngumntu onelungelo lokwenene, omnye umnqweno akwanele. Kubalulekile ukuzama iphupha lakho, ukuthatha amanyathelo asebenzayo ekufezeni injongo yakho. Iincwadi ezona zingcono zengqondo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ziya kunceda ekuqinisekiseni nokwakha amanyathelo okubaluleka okuphunyezwa.

Namhlanje, ukuze uphumelele, kwanele ukukholelwa kuwe kwaye ukuxazulula ixesha ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Ukufunda nokufunda izinto eziyimfuneko kuyimfuneko ekufezekiseni okufunwayo. Khumbula: kungakhathaliseki ukuba liphi iphupha lakho, kuba kufuneka kubekho indawo kule hlabathi. Nguwe kuphela omele ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi inyathelo ekufuneka uyithathe. Iincwadi zeengqondo ezifanele ukufunda zichazwe kweli nqaku.

UDale Carnegie, "Ukuyeka ukukhathazeka nokuqalisa ukuphila"

Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu baququzelelwe ngendlela efana nokuba bayayazi into abayifunayo, abanakho ukuzithemba ukuba bathathe amanyathelo okhonkco. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba akukho nto eya kuphuma kuyo, abanye ngokungavuliyo bayayikholelwa inhlanhla yabo. Le ncwadi iyonwabisa kwaye iyaphawuleka ngaphezu kwayo yonke into yokuba inceda ukwenza izibhloko zangaphakathi ezikhusela ukucinga.

Khumbula: imfihlelo yomntu ocebile ilele kwinto yokuba ucinga njengomntu osisityebi, akavumeli ukuhluleka kwexeshana ukudibanisa. Ababhali beencwadi zeengqondo ezifana noDale Carnegie, njengomyalo, ngokwabo bahamba ngendlela ende kwaye enameva eya kwimpumelelo kunye nolonwabo. Kodwa imfihlelo yokwenyisa kwabo ayikho nje ekusebenzeni kanzima nokuzinikezela ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngoku kukholelwa kwabo ngokwabo. Ngaphandle koko, nayiphi na impumelelo ayiyi kuzisa uvuyo kunye nokukhuthazwa okulindelekileyo.

U-Eric Burns, "Imidlalo edlalwa ngabantu"

Mhlawumbi, le ncwadi ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini kufuneka ivulekele ngamnye wethu. Iqulethe iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo kwimeko ethile, inikeza uhlalutyo olunzulu lwamaxesha athile ebomini, ukuhlalutya nokuhlalutya kweemeko ezinzima. Iincwadi zeengqondo ezifanele ukufunda, zazingaphelelanga ngaphandle kokukhethwa kokuzonwabisa. Mhlawumbi waqaphela ukuba kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi, abantu bazama ukuzama indima engeyabo. Ezinye zisetyenziselwa "i-mask" yesikhashana kangangokuba ngexesha abanako ukuhlula ukwahlula kwabo ngaphakathi.

Kwaye oku kuyingozi kakhulu. Ukuba umntu uyalibala inyaniso yakhe, uya kulahlekelwa ngumntu. Ukuba kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuhlala wena naziphi na iimeko, ukufunda le ncwadi kuya kuba luncedo kakhulu. Ingasetyenziselwa ukwenza uhlobo lokuvavanya kwengqondo. Le ncwadi iyingqayizivele kwaye ayikho imizekelo.

UBreniefe Oscar, "Sithetha nabantwana malunga nobomi nenkululeko"

Ngaba kunokubakho into ebaluleke ngakumbi kunomntu kunokuqaphela ukuba yonke into eyenziwa ngexesha kunye nokunene? Imisebenzi ebomi ebeka phambi kwethu kufuneka ixazululwe ngokunyaniseka okukhulu. Abantwana beselula banamnceda baqonde ukuba inkululeko kweli hlabathi lixabisa kakhulu. Iincwadi zeengqondo zenzelwe ukufunda. Emva koko, kufuneka baphile kuluntu apho kungekhona yonke into eyenzekayo njengoko sifuna. Unokufunda le ncwadi kunye nomntwana wakho, uchaze iingongoma ezibalulekileyo kwaye wenze iimpendulo eziyimfuneko. Umntwana wakho uya kuba nombulelo gqitha ngolo hlobo.

Francoise Dolto, "Ukuthetha nabafana, okanye i-Omar Complex"

Akusiyo imfihlo umntu ukuba xa engena ebusheni, umntwana ngamanye amaxesha akayi kulawulwa ngokupheleleyo. Uthola kunzima ukuzilawula kunye neemvakalelo zakhe, uzama ukuzimela. Nangona kunjalo ukuba ngeli xesha umntombazana unqabe kakhulu uncedo lomntu omdala, ufuna kakhulu. Ngesinye isikhathi umntwana osemva akanakunakwa kunye nenkxaso evela kubazali ukuba oku kumenza abe neentloni ngakumbi kwaye enze izenzo zokukhawuleza.

Unakekele abantwana bakho. Iincwadi zeengqondo kubaselula ziya kubanceda baziqonde ngokwabo, ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko ethile. Mhlawumbi abantwana baya kucinga ngeenjongo eziyinyaniso zezenzo zabo. Iincwadi zeengqondo zamantombazana ziyimfuneko kakhulu, kuba esemncinci ndifuna kakhulu ukuziva ukuqonda kwiintsapho. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuhlenga iimvakalelo zakho kuya kunceda le ncwadi.

Igor Mann, "Inani 1. Indlela yokuba yinto engcono kwizinto ozenzayo"

Wonke umntu oya kwiinjongo, ngezikhathi ezithile, ubhekene nobunzima. Akunakunqandwa, unokufunda kuphela indlela yokuyithatha ngokwaneleyo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kukho ukhuphiswano oluninzi malunga. Yaye ukuba unquma ukwenza olunye uhlobo kwaye ungafuni ukuthelekiswa nabanye, kuya kufuneka ufunde imigaqo embalwa elula. Iincwadi eziphambili zengqondo zijoliswe ekukuncedeni ukufumanisa amandla akho angaphakathi. Ngaba ufuna ukuba ngumntu? Le ncwadi iya kunceda ukujamelana naluphi na ubunzima, kwaye iindlela ezicetywayo kuyo ziphumelela ngokwenene. Khawuleza ufunde iimfihlelo zobomi obonwabileyo kwaye uzalisekile!

D. Givens, "uLwimi lwezandla"

Uluhlu lweencwadi zeengqondo luya kuphelelwa ngaphandle kokukhankanya lo msebenzi. Ngaba ufuna ukufunda ukuqonda abathandekayo bakho kunye nabantu abakujikelezile ngokufanelekileyo? Emva koko awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokufunda ulwimi lwezandla. Uninzi kangakanani unokudlulisela ulwazi ngolwazi lobuso! Amagama athetha okuncinci, impawu-ngakumbi.

UStephen Covey, "iZakhono ezisixhenxe zeZiko eziPheleleyo"

Iincwadi zengqondo ezithakazelisayo zizisa iinzuzo ezibonakalayo kubantu abazama ukuzazi nokwazi ukuziphucula. UStephen Covey uthetha ngeendlela ezisebenzayo ezikunceda ukutsala impumelelo ebomini bakhe. Ungonwabile njani ukuba awuqondi injongo yakho ebomini? Akukho nto inokuthi ithathe indawo yoluhlu lwezolvency oluza ngenxa yesigxina somsebenzi wemihla ngemihla.

Iincwadi zengqondo zanamhlanje, apho umsebenzi kaStephen Covey ungowona, zibaluleke kakhulu kubantu abafunayo, abanako ukuzithuthuka. Nabani na oya kufunda ngokucophelela kwaye ngokukhawuleza, afunde imibuzo ebalulekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphawula iinguqu kunye nokufezekisa okufunwayo.

UTina Elingile, "Yenza wena"

Ngaba uyazi abantu abaninzi abaphumelele impumelelo enkulu ebomini babo? Kwabancinci kubo abo, imini ngemihla, bahamba ngokuya phambili ekujoliseni kwabo. Kwaye akukhona ukuba abantu abanako ubuchule obukhulu, abazakholelwa ngokwabo. Kwaye lusizi kakhulu. Kuyavunywa, ukholo luxazulula ezininzi, phantse yonke into. Ukuba awuzixabisi njengomntu, abanye baya kukwazi ukukuqonda. Ubuncinane uze ufunde ukuzithandayo. Ababhali beencwadi zengqondo, nangayiphi na imeko, bangela ingqalelo yomfundi kumxhamlwano phakathi kokubaluleka kwethu kunye noko sifuna ukufikelela ebomini. Kubalulekile ukuba siqaphele ukuba yonke into isezandleni zethu: zombini inhlanhla kunye nokutshatyalaliswa. Ukuba sibiza impumelelo ebomini bethu, ngoko kuya kuza!

UMark Goulston, "Izibilini Zengqondo Ekusebenzeni"

Umsebenzi womsebenzi uhlala kwindawo ebalulekileyo ebomini nawuphi na umntu. Emsebenzini, sichitha ixesha lethu, kwaye kunzima ukuphika. Akunakuba njani ukuthinjelwa kweemeko ezivela imihla ngemihla ngokwabo? Yiyo leyo ncwadi echaza ngayo. Endaweni yomsebenzi, kudla ukuxabana, ngaphambi kokuba abantu baqonde ukuba abanamandla. Kodwa oku akude kwimeko. Ukuba ukhokelwa yindlela enekhono, unokunqoba nayiphi na imiqobo. Iincwadi eziphambili zengqondo zineenkcukacha ezisebenzayo: ziqukethe amanyathelo athile okumelwe athathwe ukuze aphunyelelwe umphumo. Yenza into oyithandayo kwaye ujabule!

UBrian Gracie, "Phuma kwiNdawo yokuThuthuzela"

Uphuhliso lokwenene lufezekiswe kuphela ngokulwa neengxaki. Umntu akanako ukuqhubela phambili ngaphandle kokuba agxininise kwimimiselo. Kubalulekile kuphela ukugcina ukholo kuwe kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo. Ukufezekisa into ethile, kuyimfuneko ukushiya indawo yokufudumala ebushushu kwaye uye kwiindawo ezingaziwa.

Iincwadi zeengqondo ezifanele ukufunda, kaninzi zisitshela indlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezinzima. Ukuba ufuna ukutsala utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho, ungesabi ukutshintsha into ethile! Kukho nawuphi na, uya kuhlala unethuba lokuzama kwakhona. Akukho mntu uya kumisa umntu obonisa kuyo yonke into ukulungela ukufezekisa into ayifunayo kuzo zonke iindleko. Le ncwadi izokukunceda uqonde iinjongo zakho eziyinyani, ziqonde iinjongo ezifihlakeleyo kunye nokwesaba kwangaphakathi, zicebise iindlela zokwenza ngokukhawuleza ukulwa nokugqibela. Khumbula: ukuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye uqale ukwenza isho ukuthatha indlela yokuma. Konke kuxhomekeke kuwe!

UKelly McGonigall, "Unamandla. Indlela yokuphuhlisa nokomeleza "

Uluhlu lweencwadi zeengqondo luya kuphelela ngaphandle kokufunda okuphawulekayo. Umbhali ugxininisa imfuneko yomntu ophumeleleyo ukuba abe nenjongo eqinile. Ngaloo datha yangaphakathi, sinokuyicombulula nayiphi na ingxaki enzima, sinqobe intsuku efunwayo. Akukho namnye ongasenqabela ukuba siye kwiinjongo intliziyo yethu ikhethayo. Ukuxhotyiswa kaninzi kubangela ukuba umntu aqhubeke phambili nangona xa ediniwe okanye edaniwe. Abo bafumene isenzo salo, phawula ukuba khona kwintembeko yangaphakathi, ehamba kunye nomntu kuyo yonke imicimbi yayo. Ukuba uhlala usebenza ngokwakho, umntu uzityhila kuyo yonke into epheleleyo. Kule ncwadi, uKelly McGonigal utyhila iimfihlelo zokunika amandla, ubonisa ukuba ubukho bayo buchaphazela njani impumelelo yomntu ngamnye, umnqweno wokuzama ukuphumelela kwimpumelelo emitsha. Esi sifundo sokuzonwabisa sifanele sifunde wonke umntu ukuze sikwazi ukuhlala siphile ngokwenene kwaye sizalisekisa ngokupheleleyo.

URobin Sharma, "UMonki othengise" uFerrari "

Ngaba kukho abantu abaninzi ehlabathini apho ingqondo engaphakathi yongqibelelo iphezulu kunempumelelo yangaphandle? Ulungelelwano lufezekiswa ngokuhambelana nomntu kwiminqweno yomntu. Ngamnye wethu entliziyweni uyazi into ayifunayo ngokwenene. Enye into kukuba abaninzi baninzi baphoqelelwe ukuba bahlengahlengiswe kwiimeko zangaphandle ukuze bangabonakali bengenakukhubazeka okanye bayisicwenge kuluntu. Incwadi ichaza malunga nobuchule obufihlakeleyo bomntu ngamnye kunye nendlela yokonwaba ngokwenene. Umbhali unikeza umzekelo womntu owashiya inhlalakahle yangaphandle ngenxa yengqondo engaphakathi yokwaneliseka novuyo. Ngaphambi kokuba wenze nantoni na ebomini bakho, kufuneka ucinge kwaye uqonde oko ufuna. Umthetho kuphela usekelwe kwiinkolelo zakho kunye namakhono akho.

Ngaloo ndlela, iincwadi zeengqondo ezifanele ukufunda, ziqulethe ngolwazi oluninzi luncedo. Kwaye kuxhomekeke kuphela kumntu ukuba uza kusebenzisa njani ulwazi olutholileyo, kungekudala uza kuba nakho ukuwafumana ngamava okwenene. Ukuzigcwalisa ngemibono ekhangayo kunye nemibono, sihlala sisondela kwiinjongo ezifunwayo, sifumane amathuba amatsha. Isitshixo kuphela ezandleni zakho! Akukho banikela amandla akhe namandla. Musa ukuchitha ixesha uzama ukuhamba ngendlela engafanelekanga. Umendo wamanga awukhokelela ekunoliseni. Ngamnye wethu unenjongo yakhe, ekufuneka ayilandele. Ukufikelela kwi-vertex, siyavuya kwaye sizele.