Ungakulibala njani umthandi wakho

Ukuba ebomini bomntu kwakukho ukuwa, kukho isidingo sokugqiba indlela yokulibala umthandayo. Oku akulula, ngoko kufuneka uzame iindlela ezahlukeneyo, kuxhomekeke kwisigaba apho ubuhlobo bube khona. Kwakhona kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqonde indlela unzulu ngayo, kwaye unamandla ngakumbi, kuzakufuneka kusetshenziswe umzenze ongakumbi.

Musa ukukhononda kwabanye okanye ungene kwixinzelelo, nangona ubuhlungu bentlungu buya kubangela ukuba kube lula ukuphazamiseka. Kubalulekile ukuxhamla amava abantu ababesinda kwiindawo ezihlukeneyo kwaye bahlangabezana ngokuphumelelayo nomsebenzi.

Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ngaba uthando lwenza uhlupheke. Abantu bahlala bebiza uthando oluchazwe kakhulu-uthando, ukulangazelela ukuthandana, ubuhlobo obuqinileyo, umkhwa wokuba nohlobo oluthile lomntu, kunye nokunyaniseka, ukuzithemba kunye nokuhlambalaza, ukuzingca kunye nepropati. Olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka, kuba lukhulu kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba enye yeli lizwe loluhlu lube yinyani kuwe, ngoko umbuzo wokuba uyilibale umthandayo uyanyamalala ngokwawo.

Isisusa esinamandla sokubandezeleka singaba ngumbuzo: baya kuthini abantu. Lo mbuzo kufuneka uphendulwe ngobulumko bendoda: "Musa ukuphosa umkhonto emlonyeni womnye umntu" okanye ufana nesihloko esifanayo. Ngendlela, le meko isithuba esilungileyo sokumisela isikhundla ngokukhawuleza: nangakhathaliseki ukuba abantu bathetha ntoni, abaqhelekanga bathethe into enhle, nokuba kunjani na. Kwaye ukunyamekela ingxowa yabantu akufanelekanga, kuba oko kubeka umlilo kumlilo.

Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba uvakalelo luthando lokwenene, kufuneka uxelele ukuba uthando aluzange lusekho kwaye aluyi kubangela ukubandezeleka. Omnye kufuneka abe nekratshi kwaye avuyiswe kukuba amandla afunyanwe, isipho sikaThixo kukuthanda, kuba malunga nesithoba kubo bonke abantu abayishumi abayi kuze bazi uthando. Kwaye umntu onikwe ulonwabo oluthandwayo uyahlukana nobutyebi obuyingqayizivele yehlabathi elingokomoya, ubuzwe obukhulu kunye nokuhlanzeka kwentliziyo. Kuzo zonke iimpawu kuyimfuneko, njengoko bathi, ukubulela uThixo-ukuvuyela ukuba umntu udibene naye, obangele entliziyweni yakhe njengomculo omnandi wenjabulo nolonwabo. Kwaye ke ingxaki yokulibala umthandayo uya kuya kwelinye nqanaba.

Ngeli thuba, kufuneka ukhululeke ngokwengqondo, kwaye ngalezo zihlandlo xa ukhumbuza ukukhumbula, kufuneka uzame ukucinga kuphela ngokulungileyo nokubulela isithuba semhlangano. Ukuba ububele buya kubakho, lo luphawu olucacileyo lokuba umntu kufuneka afaneleke ukuvakalelwa ngandlela-thile ngenye indlela. Kuba nabani na onothando abanqwenela ulonwabo olwakhiwe ngetyala labanye, akafuni ukulibala indoda ethandekayo, kwaye Uyavuya ukuba ukhona, ukuba ukhona, uthemba ukuba uyonwabile, kwaye unqwenela konke okulungileyo.

Ukuba kwakufuneka uguqulele ukuvakalelwa kwimeko ethile, kufuneka uqale ukusuka kwindawo eyahlukileyo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula (kukulungele ukurekhoda) ibali lonke ukususela ekuqaleni, kwaye uluhlu ngokuchanekileyo kwaye kuphela izinto ezimbi. Emva kokufunda eli lihlandlo eziliqela ngokulandelelana, kuyimfuneko ukufikelela kwisigqibo sokuba eli bali lingahlali lidlulele ngaphandle, kwaye umbuzo - ukulibala umfana oyithandayo, akakho.

Ukuba iingcamango ezingathandekiyo ziyahlwayelwa, kufuneka uqonde ukuba oku kukuzithemba, kufuneka uqondise onke amandla akho ekwakheni umsebenzi, kwimisebenzi yoluntu okanye ukufumana into yokuzilibazisa efuna umsebenzi omningi wokucinga, umzekelo, ukuqala ukufunda ulwimi lwangaphandle okanye imisebenzi engundoqo yefilosofi.

Olunye uncedo kwisisombululo esiphumeleleyo sengxaki - indlela yokulibala umthandayo, unokuba ngumbuso wolu suku, olungenakubuyiselwa, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, izinto ezincinci zemihla ngemihla - umzekelo, ukuthenga into esele ifuna ukuyithenga, kodwa ayizange isebenze, ukukhathazeka ngakumbi kwabo bonke Ngaphandle kokunye, izalamane, zishiywa ngexesha leveli kunye njalo njalo.

Oko kungenzi nto kanye, kukuzama ukusebenzisa iinkonzo zazo zonke iintlobo zobungcali kunye nabanqabileyo abafumana imali enhle kwiingxaki ezinjalo.