Ngaba kuyinyaniso ukuba ubuKristu basitshele ngesondo nangomtshato?

UbuKristu kaninzi bubeka imilinganiselo ethile kwimibandela yomtshato, ngakumbi kwimicimbi yesini. Nangona kunjalo, uluntu litshintshile ixesha elide, luye lwavuleka ngakumbi, ngoko ngoku izixabiso ezinjalo azibalulekanga. Ziziphi iintlobo zobuxoki amaKristu aqhubeka azimisela?

Intombi isiganeko semvelo

Xa ulala ngesondo, uyeka ukuba yintombi - ubuncinane, oku kukufunwa ukuba ukholwe kwicawa. Kwaye, ngokwenene, kwiimfundiso ezininzi zonqulo, kukho umgca ocacileyo phakathi kwezinto ezazingaphambi kokungena, kwaye oko kwenzeka emva koko, okuchaza intsingiselo yobuntombi. Kodwa luhlobo luni lwesini? Ngaba isondo ngomlomo kuthethwa ngalo? Kuthiwani ngocansi lwesini? Okanye ngaba kukuphela kwesondo? Enyanisweni, imbono yobuntombi njengesiganeko sezinto eziphilayo, inokungabikho kwemingcipheko yayo, yinto yokwakha yoluntu kuphela ekusebenzeni ukugcina ubunyulu bekcubeko. Ubuntombi abukho njengemicimbi yexesha elilodwa. Enyanisweni, ukulahleka kwayo yinkqubo yokuhamba ukusuka kwimeko ongenayo amava ezesondo, ngokuqhubekayo ebomini, kwaye le nkqubo inezigaba eziliqela. Kunengqiqo ngakumbi ukuthetha ukuba ubuntombi bukhona njengengqiqo eyanceda ukugqiba amava akho ezesondo kunokuthetha ukuba lo ngumcimbi wezinto eziphilayo.

Umtshato ngokuzenzekelayo wenza ulwabelana ngesondo kumntu wonke

Isondo sinokumangalisayo emva komtshato. Kodwa kunokuba kungalungile. Ewe, ubusuku bakho bomtshato bunokuba ngamava angabonakaliyo kwaye angabonakaliyo, kodwa akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Ubundlobongela obuhle bufuna ukufuphi, ukuthembela, ukucaca ubudlelwane, kunye nokwaneliseka. Ezi zinto zingenziwa ngaphandle komtshato, kodwa zinokuqiniswa ngakumbi ngumtshato. Nangona kukho amaKristu amaninzi athethayo, ukukholelwa eBhayibhileni akusayi kwenza ubomi bakho bobulili bube buhle. Ubundlobongela abuyinto engummangaliso emva kokuba ufake uphawu lwakho kwisiqinisekiso somtshato uze ufumane intsikelelo yombingeleli.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kukuba abantu abahlukeneyo ngokwesondo kuphela

Wonke umntu wakuva ngaphezu kweyodwa: "Ukuba indoda ilala nomnye umntu - uyinto enyanyekayo." Iicawa ezininzi zinamathela kwi-theology, zigweba ukusondelana kwabantu besini esifanayo kwaye zijezisa abantu abangaqhelekanga kwimiba, engahambisani nemigangatho yokuziphatha yecawa. Ngokufanayo, kuthiwa ukuba isondo sijoliswe kuphela kubantu abathandana nabo besini esahlukileyo, bengabandakanyi nangoko ukuba isenzo socansi phakathi kwabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba be-LGBT. Kwaye abantu abanxaxha abanelungelo lokulala ngokwesondo. Kungekudala, uluvo lwenye yecawa ukuba ukungahambisani neendlela zesini zobungqingili kwapapashwa.

Ukuba awuzange utshate ngaphambi kwexesha elithile, unengxaki

Kwezinye iindawo zehlabathi lamaKristu, abantu baxinzeleleke, bajolise ekufumaneni iqabane lobomi, de kube baneminyaka engama-25 ubudala. Olu xinzelelo lukhulu kangangokuba abanye abantu baziva bexakekile, ukuba abanakufumana idibanisi phambi kosuku olubi. UMark Regnerus wabhala ngo-2009: "Xa sizama ukunyaniseka nokuhlambuluka, sikhohlwe ukufundisa amaKristu amancinci indlela yokuzibophelela ngokwasemtshatweni." Iingxabano zokwenzela umtshato wokuqala zijolise ekuveleni kunye nokucacisa inkcazo yeBhayibhile yokutshata komtshato kunye nokunyaniseka. Nangona kunjalo, ayikho iminyaka esekelwe kuyo ukutshata okanye utshata. Unokuba uneminyaka engama-26 ubudala, ungenalo iqabane kwaye ulungele ukufumana uthando, kwaye akuyi kuba neengxaki kule nto.

Ukulala ngaphambi kokuba umtshato wenze "umonakalo"

Akukho mntu "umonakalo owenziweyo". Akunandaba nokuba ungaphila ngesini - ayinakukwenza "umonakalo". Eli buxoki luyingozi kakhulu kulabo abaye bafumana ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngexesha elidlulileyo. Abameli bentshukumo yobungqina banoyika kakhulu ukuba ukuba "uziphaphe" okanye "vumela umntu kuwe", uya kuphangwa. Kodwa ubomi asebenzi njengaye. Ukusabela komntu kwinto eyenzeka kuye, nokuba yinto enhle okanye embi, kumenza abe ngumntu. Ukuthi naluphi na uhlobo lwesenzo socansi olwenza ukuba "lunobungozi" lufana nokuthi yonke into omiyo phakathi kweemilenze zakho, kwaye oku kuxoka kwamanga.

Ibhinqa kufuneka lihlangabezane neemfuno zamadoda

Ngendlela inyaniso ithetha ngayo ubudlelwane bezesondo, imilinganiselo emibini ibonakala ngokucacileyo. Yena kulo mbandela uhlala ehlangothini lomntu kwaye ubeka iimfuno zakhe phezulu kunabesifazana. Icawa ikholelwa ukuba umfazi kufanele ahlale elungele ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomntu, nangaliphi na ixesha nakweyiphi na imeko. Nangona kunjalo, eli qiniso alisebenzisi kubayeni abadibana neemfuno zabasetyhini nangayiphi na indlela, ngaba besondo okanye nayiphi na imfuno. Umbhali ongumKristu uMarko Driscoll uya kude kulezi zigwebo ukuba uthi amabhinqa aphika amadoda ngesondo (kungakhathaliseki ukuba izizathu - oku kungenokuba ukungafuni, ukuxhalaba, intlungu okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwimeko yolwaphulo-mthetho ngokwesondo) Hamba ngokumelene nentando kaThixo. Ixesha lokubeka onke amanqaku angentla "i" kwaye sichaze ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo: abafazi abangekho isondo somntu ngesini.

Amadoda ashada ngenxa yesondo, abafazi bayatshata ngenxa yothando

Abanye abalobi abangamaKristu abaqinileyo bachaza amadoda ngokuthi "zasendle", abangenayo ixanduva malunga nezenzo zabo. Lo mbono wesini ngesinye seyona nto ibetha kakhulu. Abantu batshata baza batshata ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nothando akuzona zizathu kuphela zokuthi kungani abantu bebopha ngomtshato. Nangona kunjalo, into eqinisekile: akukho sizathu esingafani naliphi na isini.

Umtshato unaphakade

Nangona oku akusoloko kwenziwa ngokucacileyo, abafazi bahlale becebise ukuba baxolele abayeni babo, nokuba bahlala betshintsha okanye bawabethe. Ngaphezu koko, abasetyhini banqunyulwa ukuba bangaqhawuli umyeni wabo, njengoko ukwahlukanisa kusacetyiswa ngamakholwa angamaKristu asenzo sokuziphatha okubi. Ukongezelela, i-stigma engaphelelwe ixesha ngokuphathelele ubuntombi nayo inokwenza ukuba umtshato uqine kwaye ubuhlungu.

Ukuphonyula kuyisono (mhlawumbi umqondiso wobungqingili)

Ukuphakanyiswa kobungqina ngobuKristu obusisigxina kuhambelana nokungathembeki ekubhekeleni ukuhlambalaza kumabhinqa namadoda. Amanye amaKristu akhona abiza isenzo sokugcoba ngesini. Bathi ukuhlaziya i-masturbation ingaba yindlela yobungqingili, kuba isenzo sesondo esingabandakanyeli umntu wesini esahlukileyo. Amaxesha amaninzi ukuphikisa i-masturbation ibilise kwiibali zeBhayibhile zika-Onan, indoda eyayihlamba ngamabomu imbewu yakhe emhlabathini-kwaye oku kusebenza njengobungqina bokwemfa kwe-masturbation. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukuza nobuxoki obukhulu. Ukuhlaziya i-masturbation yinkqubo eqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha okunempilo kulabo abangenawo umlingani, kunye nalabo balamano okanye bahlukumeze ngokocansi.