Le asinto yokukhula lula

Kamva bonke abazali ukuba benze msinyane okanye iingxaki zemfundo umntwana wakhe, sibi ziviwa xa belisenza yayo waziva umntwana ekhula.

Iqala oku ixesha lula iminyaka elishumi ubudala. Abantwana abakule minyaka yobudala baba "zivutha" nababuthathaka, ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abe nako ukuqonda iingxaki womntwana bayifumane ndlela.

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba iingcali ukwahlula elivisayo yokuqala, leyo uneempawu zawo yaye uphawu abazali bokuqala ukuba umntwana wabo phezu ithuba nokwanda yayo. Ngeli xesha, ubunzima eziphambili saphawula ukuba umfundi ukuba bafunde kwaye koontanga.

Konke oku mbaxa kuqala elivisayo ezininzi ephakathi, yaye iminyaka 12-13. Nangona uthi ngokucacileyo xa kwenzeka ngeli xesha Ndikhohliwe, kuba akukho nto ixhomekeke yobudala kwikhalenda, kwaye iimpawu ngamnye eziphilayo kwaye ezinxulumene ngqo ngethuba lokufikisa elivisayo.

Umzimba umntwana kwenzeka utshintsho emangalisayo kusenokukhokelela kwiinguqu nokomzimba umzimba. Ngeli xesha kukho ngokwasengqondweni kunye nokomzimba ukukhubazeka umntu. Adolescence, njengokuba umthetho, esibonakala ukwanda excitability kunye ngumsindo. Intsha kweli xesha badla sengqondo onochuku maqondana ngokwabo ukubonakala kwazo, nto leyo bewuhlisele nokuzixabisa.

abantwana bafune akhule kwaye kwiintsapho zabo, ngoko nayiphi ukuziphatha kubangela kufutshane aphazamiseke labo kunye umsindo, ngenxa yale olukhulu kunye iingxabano rhoqo.

Xa abakwishumi elivisayo, kukho ukuphikisana lwangaphakathi, nto leyo enxulumene ukungafani leyinene kunye nehlabathi wangaphakathi. Kubonakala ukuba zavuthwa ngokoqobo ekhula, yaye isimo sakhe entsatsheni isikolo ayikatshintshi, ngoko elivisayo aqala umlo wabo kwaye ufuna iviwe, ukuba bavakalise izimvo zabo zibe kakhulu ngakumbi. Noko ke, bazama ukufikelela ngendlela yazo ekhethekileyo, njengoko kubonakala, hi ndlela leyinene kuphela.

Adolescence amakhwenkwe lubonakaliswa ngaphezulu ukuziphatha ndlongondlongo umntwana. Abantu abaninzi abaselula ukuqala ukutshaya, ngenxa yokuba lo mkhwa omdala, ngokutsho kwabo, kwenza ukuba ukuzimela kunye nabantu abadala. Ngelo xesha elinye ukufikisa kufika umnqweno ukuzama ngesondo, ingakumbi xa kwi intliziyo elivisayo kuhlala uthando lokuqala, nto leyo rhoqo uvavanyo nzima ngakumbi, ukuba ungonwabi.

Ulutsha ndawonye nokudala inkampani kunye izinto ezifanayo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, la maqela ukuze iba, mhlawumbi kuya kuba isiseko esiluqilima ubuhlobo ngakumbi, kunzima kakhulu ukutsho kwangaphambili. Nothando umntwana kunye ezikhethiweyo inkampani kuba omnye unobangela ingxabano nokungaqondi phakathi kwakhe nabazali bakhe.

Ngexesha lokufikisa komntwana udlula nkulu, xa Uvele ukuzenza bakhe, apho efumana iplagi ngokwenene. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwezi zinto zibe zohlulwa ngokwendidi ezintathu:

- siko ngokwasengqondweni nobugcisa (radiotiehnika, umculo, imbali, ukupeyinta, njalo njalo);

- zokuzonwabisa oluqhelekileyo (ukuqokelela CDs, izitampu, nemityikityo zeenkwenkwezi , njl njl)

- ome (xa okwishumi elivisayo efuna ukutsala ingqalelo ngokwakhe kwaye ithanda sinxibe nobugocigoci, oku kusebenza nasezimfanelekweni trends nilungile, emo, njalo njalo).

Ngeli xesha ke unako ukuphucula ubudlelwane kunye elivisayo kunye ukuphumeza nokuqondana. Ukuhlonela izinto abazithandayo yomntwana kule ubudala ivumela ukuba azive ngokubaluleka yalo negunya entsatsheni.

Esakhula - oku uvavanyo olulula, hayi nje kuphela ngenxa umntwana kodwa abazali, ngenxa yokuba ekuqondeni kunye nentlonipho umntwana omdala-up oxhomekeke indlela aya kubaphatha ngokwawo, abanye kunye nezicwangciso zexesha elizayo ubomi kunye nokufunda.