Abazali lowo ukuzisa umntwana wakho: Genius okanye ezidala?

Kutshanje, kukho umkhwa ukunciphisa abasebenzi okwaziyo kunye nokwanda loo maphalo esebenzayo. Kodwa mhlawumbi bambalwa abantu baqonde ukuba abazali kuchaphazela ngqo bobabini okubi, kwaye nesisombululo kule ngxaki.

Okokuqala, ndifuna ukuba angakuniki umzekelo omhle gqitha ubomi. Kutsha nje, ndiye wayekhwele engaphantsi. I ukuhlala. Endingakuboniyo ndandisihla imoto ibhinqa eliselula, qete yaye engabikwa hlaba-banxibe. Ngesinye isandla yena kufakwa kwiphepha A4 zeplastiki lwephepha ne ifoto umntwana, uhlobo ngathi isifo. Kwenye - ibhegi emnyama egxalabeni ibhegi yakhe zicocekile ngofele imali.

Kwaye apha mncinane kalusizi, yaye ethile nkqu ayehamba abuze ezizukileyo abakhweli ukuba amncede ngokwezimali. Ngokubanzi, umlinganiselo ukuba Moscow metro umngqibi yobungcali. Ndakhawuleza ndacinga ubuncinane ezintlanu kuzo zonke ezifana abalinganiswa bakhe, ezimbini apho ndabona zokudlela endilisekileyo kuloo venkile. Ngoko ke, kwavela nkqu ingcinga: ukuba umntu wadalwa iikhosi yokucela yobungcali kwi engaphantsi.

Yaye uninzi umdla kukuba ezi nabafazi engaphantsi ukunika imali. Ukususela olunye uluvo, oku luphawu elungileyo - abantu abafuna ukunceda. Nangona le ntlekele kunye nokukhuthaza onke eendaba bebabaza ikuyo, abantu bethu bafuna ukunceda kunceda. umphefumlo ngokwenene ebanzi Russian.

Kodwa omnye umntu abuze, ingaba yonke le nto kufuneka ukuba yakwenza nesihloko wenqaku. Yinto elula. Ukuze wenze oku, makhe sijonge kwelinye icala ingqekembe yale uncedo. Umntu onika imali lo mfazi - ukunceda, okanye ndicinga ukuba kuyanceda. Umntu ocela kwaye ufumana imali loyiswa wafumana isiqinisekiso ukuba kuqhubeka ukufumana imali ngaphandle inzuzo ngayo.

ie Apha, kulandelayo kwenzeka: umntu ongavelisi okanye ayiboneleli nantoni na yexabiso ukuze basinde wakho, wena kwakhona kuhlawulwa yona. Kwaye kulungile, ukuba ngokwenene ezi mali ukuya kunyango kwabantwana yomnye umntu. Ngoko ke, ubuncinane, iya kuzaliseka umnqweno wakho ukunceda. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ingxaki eyintloko ayilungiseki. Le ndoda waqonda ukuba angenza nto uze kuhlawulelwa kuyo.

Kwakhona, xa ukumnika imali kumntu onjalo, abanye abantu babone oko. Njengoko usazi, umzekelo ombi siyasulela, yaye nabani na ukuqala ukuyisebenzisa. Kwaye ukuba uyayijonga ngokusondeleyo kwi indawo yakho, uya kubona ukuba zentlalo "engqiba" yenziwe kakuhle kwaye ngeendlela ezininzi.

Umzekelo Non-obonakalayo ulutsha ezibonelela abazali elide ngokwaneleyo. Bethenga Pop kanye ukuhlawulela izifundo zabo, kuba baxakekile amalungiselelo umsebenzi olungileyo, njl Ngokwayo, oku konke ngenyameko eziyimfuneko ukuze umntwana wakhe. Kodwa kukho enye indawo: uninzi bazali umntwana (nokuba yintoni ubudala yayo) ukwenza okuthile ngenxa uncedo kunye nenkxaso usoloko ufumana evela kubazali.

Yonke le nto kodwa kubakhuthaza non-imveliso. Phantsi production yinkqubo xa umntu enika (kuvelisa, wathengisa) into yexabiso kwabanye. Oku kunokuba yinto Injongo (ezifana umabonakude okanye imoto), kunye mhlawumbi inkonzo eziyimfuneko. Kodwa kufuneka exabisekileyo, kuba, njengokuba umthetho, abantu ukutshintshiselana phezu izinto eziyimfuneko ukuze bakwazi ukuphila. Kusenokuba imali, mhlawumbi kude ukuxhasa umntu ngexesha elifanelekileyo.

Ngoko ke, impazamo eziphambili abazali abaninzi - ukugcina ingcamango yokuba umntwana omncinci, amandla, yaye akazange akwazi ukuba akwazi ukunika into yexabiso kubo njani. Ngokunyanisekileyo, ukuba akukho. Unga khangela phandle. Kwaye mna kuni, inene, uya kufumana yinto emnandi. Abantwana bayakwazi kakhulu. Ingakumbi ukuba wolinika bona ukubonisa. Yaye ekuqaleni ebomini ngcono.

Umzekelo, makwazeke zonke umqambi uMozart wabhala bonisa yakhe yokuqala kwiminyaka 4! Kwiminyaka 6, yena nentsapho yakhe waya kulo lonke elaseYurophu waza phambi Royals. Hi ndlela leyi, ingongoma umdla kunene: nangona nje ukuthandwa yabantwana babo (Wolfgang nayo udade abanetalente) kunye nabazali babo ukuba ukukhumbula ukuba abantwana - kukuthi, kuqala kwiinto zonke, abantwana kufuneka ibe ebuntwaneni bakhe, ke, fun abantwana kunye frolic. Ngoko ke, imvumi eziBekekileyo kunye kakhulu Wolfgang wayedla ukuphazamiseka izifundo zakhe ukudlala ikati okanye ephala nge namagumbi aphezulu yeziqholo kayise.

Ke kaloku uTomas Edison kwasekuqaleni-10 eminyaka ubudala awayezithanda imifuniselo kwemichiza kunye wadala kwigumbi elingaphantsi kwe elabhoratri yakhe yokuqala. Abadinga imali amalinge, Edison waba umthengisi ndaba kunye neelekese kuloliwe kwiminyaka 12. Ukuze ukuba bangachithi ixesha, wahlupheka ilebhu imichiza onazo van kwayo kwaye kwenziwa amalinge kuloliwe. Xa 15 ubudala, ndathenga kumsitho umatshini wokushicilela kwi imoto iimpahla ukuba apapashe iphephandaba lakhe, nto wathengisa ngayo abakhweli. genius Edison kunye nokukhuthala wakhe ongaqhelekileyo kungathathwa nje ngetyala kunina wakhe, utitshala wesikolo owayesakuba, ngubani waqhubeka nemfundo yakhe noqeqesho ekhaya, emveni kokuba ndagxothwa esikolweni.

A bulumko eyaziwayo-kakuhle kunye nabantu zenkulungwane yamashumi amabini, L. Ron Hubbard, yena lowo waqala ukufundisa eneminyaka engama-17 kwaye baqhubele phambili nezifundo zabo yobuntu ngokweenkcukacha ingqalelo imiba ezinkulu yemfundo noqeqesho, kubunkokeli yakhe ukuphucula ubomi "Ndlela Yo Kuma Ntsako" iye Kucetyiswa ezi zinto zilandelayo:

"Phaphani abantwana (nokuba zincinane). Phulaphula oko ndithi kuni bantwana malunga ebomini babo. Bavumele ukuba akuncede. Ukuba awukwenzi oku, kuya kufuneka ukuba ukucinezela isiphango umbono wabo umsebenzi.

Umntwana awukwazi kuphila ngaphandle uthando. abantwana abaninzi bakulungele ukunikela ngesisa uthando lwabo imbuyekezo. "

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba nawuphi na umntwana eziqhelekileyo oye wafunda ukuhamba ukuthetha, mhlawumbi okona kubalulekileyo ufuna ukuba luncedo. Zama ukumnika imisebenzi elula, uze ubonise ukuba usebenzise indlela kubo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukucoca indlu, ukuchitha udoti, ahlambe imoto, okanye upeyinte uthango kweli lizwe. bonisa Main ngayo loo nto, uze ukwenze oko bhetele kunye, ebonisa nokuxelela kutheni kwaye into oyenzayo. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana wakho uya kuba nako ukuyenza loo nto wena.

Kwakhona, ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana abafuna ukwenza igalelo nentsapho ubuchule bakhe, kodwa andiqondi ukuba kuya kuba luncedo kuwe. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana uthanda ukudanisa okanye yepeyinti. Uya ukumenza onwabe, ukuba ucela ukuba ndikubonise entsha. Okanye umxelele ukuba awunayo imifanekiso ngokwaneleyo ezindongeni ukuba bahombise igumbi, yaye umsebenzi wakhe uya kuba kakhulu aphume ndawo. Ngoko ke ufumana nje kuphela abonwabileyo kunye nobuchule komntwana, kodwa abe umhlobo olungileyo. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uqalisa kubalulekile ukuba umntu omdala iimpawu zomntu: nzima umsebenzi, umnqweno kunye nesakhono sawo sokwenza igalelo kwiqela elo uyasixhasa.