Uzisole - yintoni na le nto? intsingiselo

Amazwi athethwa awunakungenziwa, kwaye inyathelo wavelisa zilungiswe kuphela lokutshintsha intlenga ngohlobo yokuzisola. Ixabiso amagama aqhelekileyo basoloko lula ukuba yanele kwi-sikhokelo iseti olusisinyanzelo iimvakalelo ezifunyanwa inqwaba indoda maxesha emini. Kokuvelela ngenxa yokufelwa, innuendo, amagama nesilima, ukungcola, isidlo sasemini, nto leyo angazange abe nexesha, okanye ixesha ngelize ... Ngamanye amazwi, isalathisi yokunganeliseki lwangaphakathi malunga iziganeko eziye zenzeka hayi umnqweno wethu - kuba igama elithi "wazisola".

Kuhlobo uzisole

bonke ubomi bomntu, sonke, ngokuxhomekeke into yokuba ithuba, sisoloko sithembele impazamo ngqo. Kutheni ngqo? Ngenxa yokuba ayizizo zonke iimpazamo ezibonakala kuthi hlobo, bona. ukuzisola zakho - isalathiso yexeshana ebomini bakho kwakukho ukutenxa kule khosi elimisiweyo.

Usungulo ngaphakathi kwinkqubo yokwakha ngamnye usebenza nge ulibaziseko. zizimvo kwengqondo banoxanduva lokwenza isigqibo, zibe ngokukhawuleza ngaphezu kuhlalutyo kolawulo izenzo. Khumbula ukuba mangaphi amaxesha ukhe uzive nosizi ngenxa yamazwi akhe (ngezenzo) kwimizuzwana nje embalwa emva nomlomo wenu sele basabela impendulo ngamazwi kunye motor motility ngokuzenzekelayo wenza uthotho lweentshukumo oyibonayo.

Ngokusekelwe kule nkcazelo ingasentla, kwaye phambi kokuba siye nayiphi na ingcebiso engaphezulu evela iisayikholojisti ebhankini kwiSabi: Ngaphambi kokuba uphendule imeko idinga onoxanduva - eyenziwe ngaphakathi kwakhe ezintathu, ekwenzeni umoya wamandla phambi kwinani elilandelayo. Ixesha eliya kuthathwa hayi ngaphezulu kwe 7 imizuzwana, nokuba Silusizi malunga ngobungxamo (nobangela uqhelekileyo le imvakalelo) - cishe ukulibala.

Icebo le ienjini

Ukuqhubela phambili kwesihloko edlulileyo, siye ndikulumkise naluphi na uqeqesho olulodwa okanye izimo zengqondo ezithintela imbono kwiimeko ezikhathazayo. Ukuyeka imvakalelo ukuzisola - nto ngathi ukuba ukugonyelwa kogonyo, oko kukuthi singanichithi into, wathumela ukukhusela. Akukho mfuneko yokuba athathe emnweni yesazela njenge uhlobo ukuzama mfushane ubukho wabo ongekhoyo 'ukuba bekuya kuba xa. "

Nasiphi na isenzo senziwe nguye kubulela ezilungileyo uvandlakanyo olulandleayo wolwaneliseko okanye uzisole. Ingcaciso le meko phezu kweqiniso - eyenzelwe aim ezi esikalini zokutshiza. Satisfaction - ingongoma ukuba angabekwa ekupheleni kwenkqubo. Uzisole - kusoloko umnxeba ukuze uqhubeke. Beningazi na, ukuba mna, akabanga nabuganga namhlanje - sinako ukuphucula imeko ngomso. Soloko usebenzise ithuba lokuba iphinde uhlobo ukruqukile yayo kunokuba sisifu ngayo - unxibe utayi kwi iqela yakho elandelayo, ukuba izolo ube mnye ngaphandle kuyo, emva bonke.

kwayenza

ukuzisola Eyingozi ezibangela ukuba uphawu "kulungisiwe" akwenzeki. Ezi ziquka yokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo ngaye babephikisana, okanye ithuba kubuzwa ukuba akakwazi ukubuyela, kuba asiphanganga omnye umntu. Kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyafuneka kwaye Silusizi ukuba Ityhefu ubomi bakho, ukuze ukubeka kwinkumbulo njengomnye uphawu kwi-akhawunti ye-mpazamo zakho - "Phawula sathathwa".

Kufuphi njalo nezinye izalamane, kunye nethuba lokuba ulungise ubomi kuba ngcono ukuba azikhutshwa kuthi isinye. Ukuba rhoqo bayancwina kuphela ukuba kubuzwa, kukho umngcipheko ukuba wena ukuba mikromanii karhulumente - ingcinezelo zophendlo lwezifo yomntu ngokusebenzisa self-ngokuthotywa.

Khumbula ukuba andizohlwayi wathumela rhoqo ekhangela kokusemva kuye - inkqubo ukubetha ingqondo ejoliswe kwisithuba isiqaqa kwimeko ntofontofo ekulungiseni (analysis) yaveliswa ngezenzo.

Bayazisola bazisole inhibitory yophuhliso

Ngokufunda ukuzibona - inkqubo kunganxulunyaniswa omnye kakhulu kunzima - kubalulekile ukuba uyigcine uze ubhale ezi zihlandlo engqondweni xa alarm 'into yenziwe (yathi) hayi "kuvuka. Ukuba ngokwesimo ongxamayo nkqu ikhomishini isenzo iqalisa ukuba bakuphembelele, ndayihluthwa eseleyo ngokweemvakalelo, uyakwazi halala ngokwakho - konke oko kuya kufuneka bafunde, oko nje ukudala hluleka ukungavani phakathi isigqibo kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwayo (jonga ngentla). Uthi wasabela eyeyomzuzwana loo ukomelela endalo kunye nokudibana olusondeleyo izicwangciso enobuchwepheshe.

Nzima xa ulwazi rhoqo kusibonisa umntu ngexesha ukubuya amanyathelo reaction, leyo japan elithozamisayo kakhulu. Ngelishwa, kulo mzekelo, kufuneka ibe zoomatshini - kuwe, ukuba yayenzeke ngokwahlukileyo, kwelinye ixesha wenze oko. Apha, njengokuba kunjalo, kunye nokuvavanya ubukho kunye imbono ngokwaneleyo, kodwa usebenza ienjini lilahlekile, indlela ivaliwe kwakuyo imfumba ekuqiqeni ukuqina ngaphakathi. Kakade ke, yaye oku Lilishwa okulungileyo womntu, kodwa ade afunde ukumamela ekuzinzeni engaphakathi, ukunyhashwa bekrwada yaye kungabi elahla umphefumlo wakhe mbende rhoqo.

zikhanyise amanani

Indlela ukufunda ukwenza uhlolo oluchanekileyo ezidlulileyo ukuze ungabinako ungandithuthumbisi wena eneneni, bakhonza njengesiseko push phambili? Flash ngayo malunga nemicimbi yangoku. Akunyanzelekanga waya college kwiminyaka 10 eyadlulayo? Ukuba usafuna ubona eli thuba yondele oziphosileyo, kusoloko kukho ithuba lokuba ukunyusa izinga lemfundo. Kodwa ke, mhlawumbi, khumbula ukuba abaninzi ngelo xesha kunye nobomi bakho ngoku mbi akukho ngaphezu oko bekuya kuba ekho idiploma. Lifikile ixesha lokuba uwuyekile ukuzisola ngesi sihlandlo uze wamkele ukungaphumeleli ukuhlolwa eyenza ukuba ukuthintela naziphi na iimpazamo.

umkhondo Ekhaya ngalo icala elibi yethu "Mna" kuchaphazela thina kakhulu ngempumelelo - ngaphambili. Ukuxhaphaza zazo engaphele ndawo, ngokuba imemori nako ukuvuselela nje izibakala, kodwa imvelaphi ngokweemvakalelo okuhambisana kubo, nokuba isiganeko ngokwayo iminyaka emininzi. Ekhumbula mathuba buhlungu zeemeko iintloni, siya aliphethule ezingqondweni, sisebenzise yonke iinkcukacha zayo ezininzi. Ivaliwe vandlakanyo lutsha esempilweni, yonke impumelelo ababelandela iziganeko owenza okuziintloni, depersonalized Ulahlekwe nokubaluleka.

Kwenzeka ntoni xa elidlulileyo ufumana igunya phezu langoku, inwenwa womnatha kwayo azisole ngayo? ukuthotywa nangokwasengqondweni umntu. Khawucinge nje ngako oko.

Ngaphandle ukuvumela ukuba uphathwa

Ngezantsi kukho inyathelo by step imiyalelo, emva koko, sinako ukunceda bengasenasazela "qhuba" izoyikiso enxulumene ekuzisoleni. Kufuneka uthathe zonke ezi zinto "kwi kumatshini", emva bonke, uhlobo nosizi eyahlukileyo.

1. Kakuhle eli imeko elibuhlungu awunakuze yolawulo, ke ngoko, athwale ityala iziganeko yimiba random asibobulumko. Kukuphuhlisa iimeko letyala lakhe oko akuzange kwenzeke ngethuba iingcinga zinegazi elibandayo.
2. Ukuba ngaba isiganeko eso, Kakade ke, hayi-20 iminyaka, ukufumana amandla uxolo abantu olimeleyo ngokuzithandela okanye angathandi. Musa ukwenza izizathu! Uxolo yena ngokucacileyo samovygorazhivanie. Ukuba unetyala phambi kwakho, musa ukuba uxolo: Bakhulule ukuzisola malunga njengoko isithembiso kwisithuba - ukuba simahla, yaye ngoko anihlasele.
3. Susa i self-umdla amasiko abo - wena ukuba ukuhlalutya oku nokunyotywa ukuya kwixesha elilandelayo ukunika ngaphantsi. Wena balahle inkunkuma omnye umntu ukuba umyolelo wakho perelegla kuwe.
4. Kulila, yentuthumbo, ukuba ngenene uyafuna. imizuzu 10 koko jonga kwi nomluko imanzi, kwimeko mqamelo, ukutshintsha umxelele ngokwakho ukuba sifumana le ngxaki, lo mda ngokweemvakalelo ofikelelwayo.
5. Jolisa kwisiphumo - imeko yaba wena undithumile into, kanti noko nisuka Sisenokungaqondi ukuba kuya kuphindwa kwakhona kwaye kwakhona.

Kungaba mnandi

Kodwa igama intshayelelo "ngebhadi" ixabiso konke oku kungentla akaphenduli. Yedwa okanye kunye nendibaniselwano lokuvula, yinto imeko izaba nje akukho okunye: "Ngelishwa, mna ..." "Ndiyazisola ukwazisa wena ...." Kule iqabane njengoko usimema ukuba ukwabelana umthwalo ngokweemvakalelo siphathiswe ukunciphisa ilizwi elibi.

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba eli binzana libhekisela "ezandleni". Amaxesha amaninzi emva kokuba kufuneka ukucela, apho uya kuba nzima ukwala.