Ukuzimisela yokuhlala umntwana encediswa koviwo engqondweni

Abazali ukuba inkonzo zengqondo xa kuthe umba yokumisela indawo apho elizayo uya kuphila Minor, impikiswano kunye antsonkothileyo. Xa uyise nonina, ngathi ukuphumeza isigqibo senkundla entle emagemeni abo. abasemagunyeni nokuqashwa ezenza uluvo lwabo malunga izibakala ezithile: ubukho iimeko zokuphila, ukufunda kunye abazali bayakwazi ngokomgangatho ukwenza inkqubo yemfundo. Ngenxa yoko, ukunika uluvo malunga kwenkcazo ndawo ahlala kuyo lo mntwana. Iinjongo Uviwo ngokwasengqondweni: ukukhangela iimpawu zobuntu ngamnye ngabazali, isimo sengqondo neemvakalelo kuye ngamnye wabo komntwana kunye nethemba kuphuhliso yayo imeko ethile intsapho.

iimviwo Psychological olwenziwa ziingcali ezininzi. Oku kube psychoanalyst umntwana, wengqondo umntwana kunye ngengqondo nosapho. Ikomiti ingcali Pre-ilungu ingqalelo kwingxelo ibango kwi kwinkcazelo indawo komntwana yokuhlala, nto leyo sivunyiwe igqwetha ummangali lowo. Imfuneko ukuqhuba uviwo engqondweni ingamiselwa yinkundla ngenxa iintlanganiso zangaphambili. Ngomhla emisiweyo mhla abazali kunye nomntwana bayamenywa ukuba inkqubo iimviwo, nto leyo ethatha iiyure ubuncinane ezimbini.

Kuxhomekeka kubudala umntwana, wafuna zokudlala, iipensile, umyili. Yena iqhatha ngesisa ngexesha le ncoko yokuqala kunye nomzali omnye ke omnye. Abakhi mkhanya ingxelo inqanaba ixhala okwenzeka umntwana, kwakunye umxholo imidlalo bakhe kunye nemizobo, leyo ibhaliwe kwimizuzu. Ukuzimisela yokuhlala lo mntwana ngenxa uvavanyo ezibanzi. Ukuze umntwana kusetyenziswa projective njengobuchule: umzobo Family, Luscher ukhetho uvavanyo umbala okanye ezinye izimvo zeengcali. Lo mzobo umntwana usapho ngokomfanekiso ibonakalisa mzobo engundoqo zimbini kwaye uchaza kwindawo yayo phezu ephepheni. isimo sabo ukuba umama okanye utata nomntwana eveza kunye nomfanekiso umntu kubo ecaleni kwenye, yaye ngoncedo imibala, nangoncedo zentetho.

Testing kunceda abazali ukuchonga amaxabiso zabo, zokucinga kunye nobudlelwane akhuliswe ngayo lomntwana. asifuni njani umzali ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo imibuzo, isitshixo kukuvavanya kunye nengxoxo kunye kwengqondo kuya kukunceda ukuba kuveze ubuhlobo bokwenene womntu kunye nomntwana, kwaye owayesakuba ngumlingane. Ukuba indawo esisigxina yokuhlala yabantwana (ababini, ezintathu okanye ngaphezulu), unxibelelwano lwenziwa wonke. Ukuba abantwana sele wajika iminyaka elishumi, yaye incoko lwenziwa ukugqiba yokuhlala oyifunayo. Kuya kuthathelwa ingqalelo into yokuba abantwana bakwazi ukukhetha umzali ofuna ngaphantsi akwenzi ukufunda akuthethi ukulawula izenzo zabo. Ngoko ke, inkcazelo lwendawo komntwana yokuhlala iya kuba baxhasa kumzali ngubani na ukudala iimeko ezithandwa kakhulu ekukhuleni kunye nophuhliso lo mntwana.

Umntwana mayaziswe ngoko, naye ke abudlayo, unina okanye uyise wakhe, abahlala ngokwahlukileyo, basoloko kuye ngabazali bakhe ngokuzalwa, kwaye unelungelo lokuba ube kunye nabo, ukuze abone ngexesha, nto leyo umiselwa yinkundla. Oku kunokuba veki okanye ngokuhlwa iiyure. Ukuzimisela yokuhlala umntwana akasayi kuba sesokugqibela. Nawuphi na umzali unako kwakhona abe ummangali ukuwushukuxa lo mba enkundleni.

Iingcali bacebisa ukuba abazali ngokwabo nise kuko ngakumbi ulungiso nasengqondweni, nto leyo eya kubanceda ukususa imeko elinzima, cingisisa izizathu mtshato, ekugqibeleni iphele ulwalamano kunye neqabane okanye babuye bahlaziyelwe kumgangatho entsha.