Ukungathembeki Madoda, okanye Indlela yokusinda ukungcatshwa umyeni wakhe?!

Waltz Mendelssohn, amathemba zothando kunye namaphupha kamnandi neyayanyaniswa omthandayo - kubonakala kutshanje nje kwaba yinyaniso. Nantsi ke umphumo - intlungu, intlungu kanye Ukufuna impendulo mbuzo: "Indlela yokusinda ukungcatshwa umyeni wakhe?".

A mzekelo eziqhelekileyo, akunjalo na?! Ngaphezu koko, hayi nje eziqhelekileyo, kodwa yinto eqhelekileyo. Ngokutsho manani, ubuncinane 60-70% amadoda ukutshintsha abafazi babo. Izizathu zoku ezahlukeneyo kakhulu, kodwa umphumo rhoqo ilula kwaye banal: iinyembezi yomfazi, umona, umgubo nangeengcinga yokuthuthumbisa: "Indlela yokuphila emva yokungathembeki umyeni wakhe?".

Ayifane ethile ummeli ababhinqileyo emva ukungcatshwa indoda yakhe ukuba lo mba. reactions Okokuqala udla wayenxanelwe umtshato ngumngcatshi. Ukuba buhlungu kuye yaye ubangele ukuba azisole isenzo sakhe. Kodwa umfazi onengqondo kufuneka bakhokelwe iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Solution, ngakumbi ukuba siwutshintshe yonke yobomi Kufuneka ulungelelaniswe, qiniseka ukuba ixoxe. Akukho mfuneko ukuwushukuxa lo mba ngendlela ngumsindo, njengoko ubomi esitshatileyo sisiganeko engasi ukukrexeza - hayi ukuphoxeka kuphela. Ezincumisayo ebomini, kukho kwakhona imfuneko yokuba bakwazi ukuyifumana kwaye ngenene ukukhangela kuye. Mhlawumbi esikalini nangoku luyazedlula ngayo nokulondolozwa kwamaqhina entsapho?! Yaye isibakala imbuka Nditshonile ehlotyeni okanye elidlulileyo? Kodwa ukuba kunjalo, yintoni eyenzekayo kuhlala yokwenene, yaye amanye amacebiso akayi kuba akufuneki yokusombulula ingxaki: "Indlela yokusinda ukungcatshwa umyeni wakhe?".

Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuba ukuzama ukuba 'ukutsala kunye ngokwakho "kwaye uyeke ukucinga ukuba yintoni na malunga - isiphelo amaphupha ukuwa ngokupheleleyo bonke ubomi. Makube lee oko. Ubomi indoda okanye hayi - oku kuyenzeka kusoloko ukufumana namacici yayo. Kwaye ukuze aphelise ebomini bakhe emva ukukrexeza umyeni wakhe angafanele ngayo. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, kufuneka nje 'nesidima "look at izinto.

Okokuqala, ngumbono olungileyo ukujonga umyeni wakhe, isihlobo sakhe ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kwaye zama ukufumanisa malunga izicwangciso zakhe elizayo. Licebo, kakhulu, yahlukile. Kunokuba ube nexesha-enye ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Uyasinda utshintshe nje lula kakhulu enye. Ngubani na iimpazamo esikhethekileyo?! Ukuba indoda uyazisola ngokuphandle into eyenzekayo, simcele ukuba asixolele, kufuneka uye kumkhawulela?! Kwathi ngelo xesha uzame aze okunene khangela izinto uze uzame ukuseka unobangela wale siganeko mnandi, ukuze siqhubeke ukuthatha inyathelo iconjululwe. Ngoko ke, umnqweno uxolele yaye ukushiya yonke indawo apho, kodwa apha kukho catch: "? Kwaye indlela ukulibala ukungcatshwa umyeni wakhe". inkumbulo yethu - into engaqhelekanga kunye neenkani, akukho - hayi, uze ubuyele ubuhlungu. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - hayi "wawuxhoma" phezu kwawo ukuba sibe sibi. Emva ngazo umyeni wam kanye ingxaki, azisoloko sibuyele kulo. Ayizi kuzisa isiqabu nokuba wena okanye yena. Kwimizuzu 'ukubuyela kwangaphambili "kufuneka enze iinzame ukutshintsha neengcinga ezimnandi khumbula ezo zihlandlo ezintle ukuba uye nalo mntu. A ukhetho ezilungileyo kuba ukongeza ubuhle nomnqweno ebomini bakho; kanye kwakhona ngokuhlwa yothando, ahambe yedwa kwaye ukuba ukukhumbula bamaxesha angaphambili zobutsha, kuba ezimisele ukukholisa indoda yakhe ubuhle akhe, ekwenzeni ayisiqinisekisa - nkqubo yonke imihla rhoqo. Ezinjalo izinto ezincane kuya kunceda ukuphazamiseka iingcinga udakumbile nibubuyise ubomi siphinde sabuyel 'ekhondweni.

Uhlobo lwesibini lokungcatsha (phindwa) ibandakanya enkulu ngakumbi kunye neziphumo. Olu khetho luhlobo "ikrele kabini-mbini": indoda ungatshintsha rhoqo kunye namabhinqa ezahlukeneyo ngaphandle abafumana kuzo sinomsa okhethekileyo, kwaye ngokunjalo lasiwa wayebanga ukuba izicwangciso zakhe ngakumbi - mtshato, yaye akukho ngaphantsi. Kodwa akukho akufuneki ukuze kukhuthazwe. Impendulo yalo mbuzo: "Indlela yokusinda ukungcatshwa indoda yakhe," ngokuqinisekileyo apho. Njengoko kuchaziwe ngaphambili, ubomi indoda okanye ngaphandle kwakhe uye namacici yayo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukwamkela isibakala le umtshato nje ayisoze uzame ukufumana injongo yobomi bakhe kamva, sikhumbule ukuba ubomi ngaphandle injongo - yinkcitha xesha. abantwana njongo ingundoqo wakho abe kule meko. Balungisa uhlobo kubuhlungu ulahlekelwe. Ezinye iinjongo isenokuba ilandelayo: "Zonwabise yakho oyithandayo" - ukufumana ngokwakho ikuba elingene kuni, nikela ixesha labo kuyo - kunokuba zombini ikuba kunye nomsebenzi ozithandayo umdla. Yiba nabantu ezimnandi nawe - ixesha elichithwa nabo, ukuhombisa ubomi bakho. Kwaye okona kubalulekileyo - khangela ukuba ezintle ebomini. Yena, nje kufuneka ukuyifumana. Gcina le Khumbula kananjalo ukuba ekufuneni impendulo mbuzo: "Indlela yokusinda ukungcatshwa kumyeni wakhe," ayikho iresiphi olunye zokusombulula le ngxaki. imeko ngamnye ngamnye kwaye ezingathandekiyo zalo ekufuneka ukuba zithathelwe ingqalelo ukwenzela ukuba zibangela intlungu ayiyomfuneko kwaye musa zonakalise ubomi bakho.