Ukugqibelela - eli inzuzo okanye ilahleko?

Ufuna izinto ukugqibelela? Wena uchitha ixesha elininzi uphuculo oluqhubekayo: imbonakalo kwindawo yomsebenzi wenu, abahlobo nezalamane? Ungacinga ukuba akuyi kuba 'non-bumnandi "na uthando? Ukufuna ... Le isidima okanye ingxaki enkulu? Ingaba kulungile ukuba ukukhuthaza ulime, okanye kufuneka ukujongana nayo?

Uninzi lwethu esizibekele yona ezithile, ngokufuthi imigangatho ephakame gqitha. Ukuze abanye abazali ukususela ebuntwaneni wafundisa ukuba kufuneka silwe uthando, ukuba ibe ngcono, ngobuchule, ukhuthele. Umntu usoloko uzama ukuba akhuphisane nabanye abantu phambi kwabo bonke, belambile ukuqatshelwa imvume. Ukugqibelela - eli kulwela ngokugqithisileyo ukuba oyinto alinakuzuzwa. Bekuya kuba inzuzo (kwaye lusoloko emehlweni zabanye abantu, abazibona iziphumo esiziphumezileyo okanye umsebenzi), ukuba oko akuzange kubangele uxinzelelo lwangaphakathi kakhulu.

Njengoko isigqebelo njengoko kuvakala unakho, ukugqibelela - sibe yimiqobo ekufezekisweni isakhono sethu oyinyaniso. Kutheni? Ngesizathu esilula ukuba ukusukela kwimfezeko, ngamanye amaxesha silibale ngayo into eziphambili: malunga nobomi, malunga injongo yomsebenzi wethu zisukela. Siye ayisasebenzi. naxa thina ndiwugqibe umsebenzi omnye, siqhubeka esiza emva kuyo, ukubona ukuba yintoni na okanye iza kutshintsha. Ngenxa yoko, nathi awunayo nemvo wanelisekile, kwaye iprojekthi ukuba Corp. ngaphandle ekupheleni, yaye "abangafezekanga". Sichitha ixesha elide kwi ishishini lethu yaye umsebenzi kunokuba kuyimfuneko.

Ngamanye amaxesha intuthuko nje konakele oko uye wakusebenzela, kodwa kwakhona kakubi kwiinzame olungekazalwa. Umzekelo ibiya kuba, bathi, intshumayelo yeprojekthi. Sicinga ukuba isihloko ukutyhilelwe kodwa ngokupheleleyo, siya obukhulu phantsi iinkcukacha ukudibanisa iinkcukacha, iimbekiselo kunye nezicatshulwa obungunaphakade. Ngenxa yoko, le projekthi ulahlekelwa elubala kunye nokucacisa. Khumbula ukuba kubhetele kakhulu - utshaba yokwenene okulungileyo.

Ukugqibelela - isoloko elinde mzuzu "ukufezeka". Ntoleyo, mhlawumbi, akasayi kuza, kodwa ngaphandle apho asikwazi ukwenza izigqibo. Oku kungenziwa xa kuthelekiswa ibinzana elithi 'ukuba silinde ukuba imozulu elwandle. " Kuya kusoloko kukho kuwe ungakhalaza yeyiphi ngayo: kuba lisibekele kakhulu, iimfama ilanga, ngoko kubanda kakhulu, isimo eshushu. Ebambelele zinto zincinane, siphulukana phambi komfanekiso nombono obanzi.

Yintoni enye entsonkothileyo yenza ukugqibelela? Le uxinezeleko zanda. Silindele ukubona iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba okunene kwenzeke ngokuphakuzela ukuza nezisombululo kubo. Irubrikhi phithi ukuthintela iingxaki kunokwenzeka. Noko ke, inkoliso iingxaki mhlawumbi zange ukuvela okanye mncinci. Ukugqibelela bengqondo ingqalelo ngokukodwa ngokwembono uxinezeleko ixhala kungenisa. Nangona olu phawu kunceda ukuba nizame rhoqo ngenxa yemigangatho eliphezulu kwaye baba ngcono, unxunguphalo ayinakuphepheka. Kwaye kulandelwa unxunguphalo, imvo akabalulekanga, ukulahlekelwa azithembe.

Indlela ukujongana ukuphelela nokuba ukukwenza oko? Ukuba ipropati ezifumene umlinganiswa neurosis obsessional, Unyango enokunceda abanye. Noko ke, umntu uya kukwazi ukwenza lukhulu ngokwabo. Kodwa musani ukuyeka ukwenza izinto ngokugqibeleleyo, uze ufunde ukusebenzisa indlela isimo sabo.

Funda ukujonga yonke mfanekiso, ekwahluleni nto ibalulekileyo. Zama ukulandela ngqo esi sicwangciso. Umzekelo, ukuba ukubulawa zeshishini ukhetha iiyure ezi-2 emva kokuba bathathe ikhefu, musa ukuvumela iinkcukacha ezingeyomfuneko yaye isila nehlankomo nawe nesiqingatha suku. Funda uze uthi: "Yekani." Ewe, wena uyazi ukungafezeki yezinto okanye kweprojekthi kwaye ungakwazi ukudibanisa into nokuphucula. Kodwa chasanisa izinto ozifumeneyo kunye kufunwa ngumbumbi. Ukuba yenziwe kwi engundoqo, zama ukucima uze wenze enye into. Mhlawumbi umsebenzi bephosa iliso entsha, ufumanisa ukuba yonke into awayesele eyenza kakuhle ngokwaneleyo.