Favorite uyakuthanda enye - into omele uyenze? Kuthekani ukuba intanda uthanda omnye?

Uthando ... Yintoni sonnets ngayo, ebhalwe mangaphi namaculo, wadala njengoko bhanya, iincwadi, kunye neminye imisebenzi yobugcisa. Kwaye ebomini, ngamnye kuthi ubuncinane kanye ebomini babo, kodwa kwale imvakalelo kabuhlungu amnandi. Nangona, ngokutsho bengqondo ezininzi, ukuba uthando lwenza umntu ubunzima ze benze izenzo nokuphololoza, ke ukumthanda kwaphela, kodwa uhlobo endaweni - uthando okanye kunokutshiseka. Uthando lokwenene luboniswa kukuba nokuba oyintanda uthanda omnye, oko ukuvise intlungu. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, kukho umnqweno ukonwaba ukuba bobabini ngokwenene ... baza babandulula ngoxolo.

njengephupha

Ngokubanzi, Kakade ke, umntu uthando akukho lula ukwahlula uthando kuthando eyimfama. Xa bobabini kunye; ezintle xa zizele amahle, xa ngengqiqo emitsha yelizwi akakwazi uphefumlele enye kwenye, akukho naziphi na bacinge malunga umahluko.

Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo na. Uthando onokufaniswa ephupheni, imilingo kunye mnandi. Ndinqwenela ukuba abupheli, kodwa ngelishwa, oku kungenzeki.

ukuvuseleleka

"Le iphenyane uthando ikhubazekile nxamnye ubomi" - ncwina Mayakovsky. Ewe, kwenzeka. Kuyinto kuphela uthando kunye neencwadi ahlale sengqondo intlonelo omnye komnye kubo bonke ubomi babo, enyanisweni, imeko thile ezahlukeneyo. Nkqu neemvakalelo kakhulu, oko kuyenzeka, kupholile, yaye kuza uhlobo wokukhanya okanye ukuvuseleleka. Iingcali zengqondo wabonisa ngokucacile, ebiza lo mzuzu kwixesha lentlekele okanye "akramnceleyo". Awu, ngeli xesha, mfazi ngesiquphe esiziva kunye baqonde ukuba oyintanda uthanda omnye.

Kwenzeka ntoni?

Lo mbuzo uye ubuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokwakhe kwisiqingatha entle abantu, ubusela nhla esipilini.

Kubonakala ukuba umyalelo ngeesentimitha eziyi-excess esinqeni ayifumaneki, iinwele elithembekileyo neliyingqondi make-up abakhoyo, ngubo, kuquka olusondeleyo, zihlaziywa rhoqo. Ngoko ke kutheni ngoku koko ndeva iintsimbi alarm ka mianakanyo? Kutheni ngoku uze ube ingcamango eyoyikisayo ukuba guy oyithandayo othanda omnye? Kwaye abahlobo kunyusela 'ngehamile "yaye" akukho umphunga "- abo, ukuba thina, ukuba nazi, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba lowo uthandwayo nalowo waba eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kuphela?

utshintsho

Hayi, yena ubiza ukuba umhla, Ndisonwaba nangoku izipho, nangoku imema ngempelaveki ndaweni ithile ngaphandle komzi. Yiloo nto kanye bacinge ukuba phakathi abathandi ababini, abo ke babedume ukuba kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo ukuqonda komunye shazi, ukwanda udonga uba ziyatyeba kunye ziyatyeba.

Favorite omthandayo omnye - uzeke umfazi, evakalelwa ukuba kancinci kakhulu, yaye olu donga ezingabonakaliyo ziya kuba obukhulu kangangokuba kunganzima ukuba beva, nokuba overstrain imisipha. Uba ngakumbi kwaye nochuku, oko liya kufuneka lekhusi, kwaye ekugqibeleni ebuya emke ukwenzela ukuba Kukhethwa ukuba tirhisa-veki kuphela, kunokuba Elucweyweni umntu oziphatha xa ekhonza umsebenzi wakhe.

"Mna ityala ..."

"Lowo uthanda omnye," - ibetha ngamandla ezingqondweni ingcinga mnandi, yaye, njengoko kudla ngokwenzeka ngexesha neurosis, kokukhona siya sitshutshiswa kude kuye kuye, kokukhona isihange kuthi. Ekugqibeleni, nathi nochuku, hypochondriac kunye whiny.

Umntu lowo, njengoko nisazi, ndineenyembezi yomfazi - bemthandele nje yenkomo, yaye ngaphandle uziva unetyala, impendulo axakane. Leyo ingxabano. Last? Lutho. Le ndoda - sisidalwa obengo, nkqu umtshiso buhlungu kunye nothando omnye umfazi, ngamana iminyaka amanyathelo okuzama bona bobabini ngothando naye ndoninika. Njengoko ngokuba uthando lwakhe unelishwa, yena, wayevakalisa ngoxa nantoni ecinga kabuhlungu eqala ukufuna ngaphandle iziphako wena. Lohlaselo kakhulu kukuba akukho yaziwa ngubani na imbangi abonwabileyo, awukwazi ukuqonda oko zinezibonelelo nokuba kukodwa kufuneka itshintshwe.

Ukufumana izisombululo

Xa umntu omthandayo othanda omnye kwaye Asinakukufihla, eyona nto ibalulekileyo - musani ukuphakuzela kunye hysterics. Nangona, unikwe ukuba abafazi - ukuba ngokweemvakalelo, oku mhlawumbi yeyona nto inzima. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba, ukuba ukho apha kwaye abazange, kufuneka uhlale uzolile. Oku kuyimfuneko zombini kuba kuphela zikarhulumente quiescent unako ukufumana isisombululo eyaneleyo. Njengoko for the lover engalunganga, aniweva ekhala kunye kukuphathwa kakubi, nje iinyembezi ebusweni adumbileyo ezake kwabonakala kuye amahle kakhulu ehlabathini, uya kuba nako ukuzisa iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zabo ukuze baqonde oko ufuna ngokwenene.

Isigqibo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kwazi ukuba eyimbangi, akuyona indlela engcono. Okokuqala, oko iya kuba yinkcitha xesha, yaye okwesibini, kuba akukho izakhono Hercule Poirot okanye Sherlock Holmes, zicwadi kunzima kakhulu ukuba kuhlatywa, bangayeki ngokwakhe kude ngexesha esweni. Kwaye Ewe - kude. Ukuba ozithandayo eluthandweni nenye intombazana, yena iba onekhwele ngokwenene ngokuphathelele kumntu yakhe kwaye ugcina ngenyameko yabucala yakhe. Ukuba ifowuni ephathwayo ekhohlo esesiphelweni etafileni, yeyona ndlela yasiwa icala, kunokuba, yaye akayi kubangela imibuzo angazithandiyo kwi isimbo: "? Ngaba uthathe" Kodwa ke into yokuba engekho mfutshane inkanuko, nto leyo ngokucacileyo malunga into uqikelela, unokuze ukufunda engenayo SMS-ki, okanye ubhale i iindwendwe ezimbalwa ukuya egumbini lakhe, evaliweyo engqondweni yakhe. Oku kuthetha ukuba lommangalelwa kuqiniswe, udonga ongabonakaliyo iba banzi, kunye yonke waba umsele ngengqondo dig.

Yintoni ukwenza ntoni?

Ke namanye amantombazana, nangona ubungozi, kodwa bayakwazi ukufumana i "utshaba" ebusweni. Ngoko, xa uba kwaziwa ukuba umntu omthandayo othanda omnye, mandenze ntoni - akucaci.

Zonke qhinga, nolwathi lwaphuhliswa phambi mzuzu wenyaniso siyabutyaka, iwisa, yaye ndifuna enye into - ukubulala okanye zombini, okanye ukwaphula ngonaphakade bonke abanginizayo. Ondele kubo, abonwabileyo, behleka, akazange afune ukuya evenkileni ukuze "oyibone 'ezitsha, nto leyo eya ngokuqinisekileyo wonwabe okanye ungonwabi. Musa ufuna ukutshintsha iinwele zakhe, awufuni ukuhlakulela ukupheka: kutheni, nini, naye ke ukuba omncinci okanye buhle, kodwa nje elinye ...

Phela, a impazamo eqhelekileyo abafazi abaninzi - kulindeleke ukuba, xa umntu omthandayo othanda omnye, na, lo omnye, ngokuqinisekileyo xa into engcono. Ewe, maxa wambi ngokwenene kuyenzeka ukuba indoda isebenza kude uthando bakhe bobungayi ngochuku, ngaba zilinde kuyo, kufuna ingqalelo. Kodwa kunokuba kukho iimeko xa ithenda yokuqala kunye nomhlobo othembekileyo waya umfazi ngenxa nje yokuba akazange akafani ex-lover. Ngelishwa, sele ngenkankulu ukuba nawuphi na uncedo. Kwaye iyavakala ukubuyela ingqikelelo uthando ukuwa eluthandweni. Ukuba wayemthanda ngokwenene, akuthandeki ukuba angaqwengwa kwicala ekhangela ukushukumisa ezintsha. Ukuba babemthanda ngokwenene, ukuba kuza kuthatha nayiphi na umnqweno ukuba balandele oyintanda ndibabandezele kuye nomona. Nakuba, Kakade ke, ukusa kumkhamo othile, uthando yokuzingca.

"Yonke intsapho ungonwabanga kuba ungonwabanga ngendlela yaso"

Xa wawuqala isibini abangatshatanga, umsantsa zingaphunyezwa ngaphandle naziphi na iingxaki. Ewe, kubuhlungu, kodwa ekugqibeleni, noko ekupheleni kwehlabathi, kwaye nokuba oko kuyimfuneko ukubambelela umntu wamngcatshayo, laza lawunyhasha iimvakalelo ukukhanya? Kwaye akukho siqinisekiso sokuba razluchnitsa iya konwaba kunye nayo. Njengoko yaziwa, loo boomerang usoloko ubuyela, yaye "wangcatshwa kanye - kundingcatsha kwakhona." Enye into, xa umyeni wam othanda omnye.

Apha, ingakumbi xa intsapho abantwana, nentlungu ukuba kwenzeke. Noko ke, ngenxa yokuba ubomi a ezithiyekileyo (ewe, sibiza umhlakulo umhlakulo) kunye nomfazi wakhe, nangenxa yabantwana akukho uvuyo nangabantu bakhe, nabakrexezi, Kakade, ndivakalelwa kukuba indlu into njengabantwana ngenkankulu kuya kunceda yokugqibela. Practice lubonisa ukuba abantwana abakhula kwimeko luvo, singamangqina umkhaya uxabana, nkqu usapho epheleleyo ukhule izakhiwo kunye ukucalulwa. Ngoko ke, musani kuba ngcono ukuba andulule umfazi intanda abhabhe ngokukhululekileyo, okanye anikele ixesha abanye ukuba baphile ngokwahlukeneyo? Man, kungakhathaliseki abe uthando kunye nenye, ezininzi incamathele kusapho. It ezifakwe zemfuza, kwaye kukho akukho ukufumana ngeenxa zonke. Wahamba ecaleni, mhlawumbi hayi nodla inyanga, uya kuba nako ukuqonda kunye nekhaya wayesamkela umfazi wakhe, elibonelela ukuba uyakwazi ukuqonda uxolele, sikulungele ukwamkela indoda wolahleko umva.