Nonxunguphalo bengqondo: ngokwamanakanibe esingaqondwayo elithi

amagama amaninzi olunye ngolwimi lwethu asetyenziswa ngasekunene nangasekhohlo, nangona ukubaluleka kwabo ihlala azisithelisiwe olutheni. Le nto yenzeka kunye elithi "unxunguphalo", oko ungathanda kakhulu ukuba ukusebenzisa abanye iisayikholojisti practice, ngaphandle ngokunika ingcaciso. Ngoko ke yintoni na unxunguphalo?

Ukumiselwa izandi - "basabela ngokweemvakalelo yenyama ukuba uxhathiso esingalindelekanga-bume engqongileyo." Kakade ke, lo inkcazelo jikelele kakhulu. Phantsi kungenzeka iqondwe njengoko iimeko ezahlukeneyo - abasabela ngayo abanye abantu, iziganeko ezingemnandi. Oko kukuthi, ukuba kukho ukungangqinelani okuthile phakathi kulindelekileyo leyinene, nomntu ulunika ukusabela ngokweemvakalelo, indlela abasabela ngayo iya kubizwa ngokuba unxunguphalo. Ngolwimi Russian ilizwi esikufutshane ingcamango "lihlazo."

Kakade ke, ngokwenkcazelo, kucacile ukuba le meko kungemnandi kakhulu. Nonxunguphalo bengqondo - wayedla elide, kuba iya kuthi ubomi. It ihlelwa unxunguphalo lwangaphakathi nolwangaphandle phezu imithombo ungquzulwano. Zangaphakathi akuvumekile ibe ngenxa yokuba makamise indoda ngokwakhe iinjongo kufikelelwe kuzo ayisebenzi. USatyo kaninzi kwenzeka xa ukunganeliseki ngeenkanuko ezinamandla kunye neemfuno kunye nethuku. Umntu isoloko kulahleka ukuba yokuba uye ifunyenwe, ngequbuliso liyayeka ukusebenzela phandle. Kananjalo umthombo ekruqukile inokuba i bazazi phambi naziphi na izakhiwo, umzekelo, ningoyiki ukuthetha esidlangalaleni okanye ukoyika ukuncokola. Ke imeko ukusilela ngobuso nakanye, hayi kabini. Kwakhona, iingxaki lwangaphakathi bengqondo luthathwa ngenxa yeenjongo impixano yangaphakathi, xa ukuphunyezwa iphupha kuthintela ukuphunyezwa omnye, lo kuthiwa dissonance kwengqondo.

unxunguphalo lwangaphandle bengqondo - kukho ukudideka okubangelwa zizinto ezingaphaya ngamnye. Oko kukuthi, ukuba waxinga kwi yezithuthi - umthombo intlungu lwangaphandle. Okanye ngesiquphe Head kuyimfuneko ngokungqongqo ukuba enze umsebenzi ukuqonda apho umqeshwa. Umbuso wokuqala ukuba loo mntu uya kuziva kwaye unxunguphalo. Nangona ungakwazi ukungena ndlongo, kwaye lujoliswe umthombo, leyo yavusa lihlazo. Ngoko kukho kwimeko ezimpilweni zezifundo: indoda kakubi boss, iqabane ngoko indoda endlwini yophukile, iqabane akufumana koonyana, kwaye wokugqibela kwikhonkco bundlobongela zibe izilwanyana. Yonke le nto yaqala intlungu umntu omnye.

Le meko kungabangela abantu ezahlukeneyo basabela ukungalingani. Buyintoni ubudlelwane ekruqukile kwaye zokhuselo ezisebenza ngamnye? Ukuba izinga ubuncinane eliphakathi yokuqala, eyesibini iquka enyanzelekileyo. Indlela yokuqala - eyaziwa njenge gama yonke ukufuduka. izimo ezingemnandi kulo mzekelo, bayalityalwa nje, kodwa qhubeka bephila kwi abazi ndibabandezele umntu. Ukuhlehla - i 'ukubuyela' yomntu kwibakala lakwangoko yophuhliso, nayo leyo kwenzeka ukuba reaction ngokubaxakanisa. Isixhobo wokhuselo efanayo lesithathu - ukugqithiselwa, le meko ukuba wabona ngaphambili - xa umntu ethatha ngaphandle zingonakalisa amathemba akhe ukuvala (hayi kuphela).

Kakade ke, iqondo elithile ekruqukile eziqhelekileyo kwaye esona sizathu ukuba ziyaphucuka thina, kodwa ukuba walibala ixesha elide, isiphumo ntshikilelo rhoqo ingasenza impilo. izifo ingakumbi eziqhelekileyo ezinxulumene unxunguphalo, kuxhaphakile kulawulo phakathi. Umsebenzi wabo unoxanduva ngokwaneleyo, ukongeza, kufuneka baphendule kwiintloko onesikhundla esiphezulu. Kakade ke, kukho iimpawu ngamnye impendulo kunye njengomqobo zingaphunyezwa, kodwa kufuna ixesha nomgudu. Ukuba umntu oqeqeshelwe ukusombulula ingxaki, ngeke kube lixesha elilandelayo ukudideka. Nonxunguphalo psychology iqondwa njenge yokusabela ukuba kunzima ukulwa, ngoko ukuba kukho umntu ifumaneka nge nzima kodwa gqithi ngokwemiqathango imiceli-mngeni yezakhono, akusoze unxunguphalo.