Le ulwalamano kokunzima - umzala yesibini

Akukho namnye unako ngabom ukukhetha abazali babo nezalamane. Isiphetho wayalela ukuba umntu uzayo ehlabathini kwaye kwangoko yinxalenye nomxokelelwane zobudlelwane. On abaninzi kubo, ukuze nokumazi. Kwakukho iimeko xa abantu, waye ke ebehleli kwiminyaka engu ebumnyameni, ngesiquphe wafumanisa ukuba izihlobo, ngokupheleleyo abeva ngaphambili. Kwaye ngoku, ukuba uvuyo efanayo emntwini enye ibhengeze enesiqingatha-nodade, okanye unyana umzala kunye nosapho omkhulu, sikulungele ukwabelana ukufudumala ubuhlobo kunye isalamane entsha.

Family - aba bantu abakholelwa ukuba ngaba uthando, ngoko ke ubuncinane intlonipho futhi siyibulela. Vala kuthi na iingcinga neembono ebomini, njengoko abahlobo, kodwa igazi. Ngenxa nokulondolozwa amaqhina eentsapho, sinako nethemba lokuba kukho umntu osoloko bazimisela ukuboleka kuwe isandla esengxakini.

Ekuqaleni intsapho athathwayo ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana abaninzi. Xa ekhula, zaba ngokwabo indoda nomfazi, ngoko kuhlala kufuphi ekhaya. Ngokufuthi kwabonakala ukuba yonke le lali yajika ezingahambelaniyo. Yaye lisoloko phantse lonke, wonke umntu wayesazi ngubani kubani kwaye ngaye akhawunti. Kwindlu ohlala owayemele, umhlobo, umzala okanye umzala yesibini.

Ngoku amaxesha ziye zatshintsha, kunye izizalwane zixhasa amaqhina bonke. Siyazi izihlobo zabo - abazali, bazalwana noodade, oomakhulu kunye omkhulu. Kodwa xa ulwalamano-elide umgama, abantu abaninzi badla wabhideka amandla akhe. Ngokomzekelo, kubhaliwe ezinxulumene umzala wakho wesibini? Asinguye wonke umntu oya kuba nako ukufumana ngokukhawuleza uze uphendule, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo. Ukuze ufunde ukubala indlela amaqhina entsapho, kuyimfuneko ukuba memory ephuhliswe kakuhle. Kakade ke, kulula kakhulu ukuba anihlolele indawo kunokuba ukuba ukukhumbula ukuba eli unyana ka enkulu-anti okanye uyisekazi.

Ukubala uya kufuna ulwazi olunzulu ngakumbi. Ngokomzekelo, omnye umzalwana - unyana abazali bakho okufanayo. Umzala - uyisekazi umntwana okanye umakazi (oko kukuthi, umzalwana okanye udade omnye wabazali bakho). Ke unyana umzala okanye umakazi kuba nje umzala yesibini. Uyisekazi efanayo kunye umakazi ziya kuwa umzalwana umzala okanye udade utata okanye umama wakho.

Omnye umzekelo. Ukuze uqonde ukuba yintoni na unyana wabazisa ukuba umzala, ukuba ukukhumbula ukuba wonke umntwana nayiphi na abazalwana okanye oodade (ngisho nezihlobo, nkqu abazala, izihlandlo ezithathu isusiwe, njl) kufuneka ukuba umtshana ezichaphazelekayo isidanga phakathi kweentsapho.

Ndiyavuma, mna waye nezo wokuzalwa ezifana lula ukuba kulahleke kunokuba ukuqonda. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na ixhegokazi evela emaphandleni ubudala ngokubukekayo kum kwimibandela phakathi kweentsapho. Kodwa akukho kumangaliswa - usapho lwam yenye kwabo nzima ukunxibelelana nezalamane ezikude. Ngesiba for rapprochement zange kwicala lethu okanye zizalamane ezikude. Akubuzwa malunga nemibhiyozo usapho wonke okanye nobu grand, apho "bonke bakhe." amasiko yaMandulo uqasha asizange hamba kulo, njengoko bazisole ngamanye amaxesha.

Ndiyazi ukuba nomzala yesibini mna, nangona akazange aphinde wambona. Nabazala nabazala yesibini, abatshana nayo iyafumaneka. Nokuba lixesha lokuba ayeke ukuzisizela malunga ndizilibala, kodwa endaweni zama ukufumana izalamane kunye nokusungula unxibelelwano?