Ngaba uyazi ukuba umzalwana umyeni wam - umntakwabo-in-mthetho wakho?

Yonke intsapho Russian isebenzisa kubomi bemihla ngemihla nje iinkcazelo ezimbalwa ukusuka kwisakhiwo, kuncothulwa nzulu kangangeenkulungwane lwesigama nomini. Ngaphambi nje kokuba Februwari Revolution, uninzi iintsapho yoBukhosi baseRashiya yayimikhulu kakhulu, phantse zonke izalamane abahlala kunye phantsi kophahla olunye okanye kufutshane omnye komnye. Namhlanje, le meko ikhangeleka ngokupheleleyo ngendlela ezahlukeneyo: i zemveli amaxabiso usapho eRashiya lwale mihla yonke imihla ngaphantsi.

Kwaye namhlanje, abaninzi kuthi kunzima ukuqonda ukuba ngubani na umntu lowo. Ngokwezi iintsapho zomthonyama Russian sele iingqameko kakhulu, kunye nezihlobo simbiza sele "amanzi phezu ijeli wesixhenxe" asikwazi ukuchaza ulwalamano lwabo, ezibuza: "? UMzalwan indoda - ngubani na kum".

Ukuze ukhumbule ngokulula ngubani na ozalana nendoda yakhe okanye udade wabo, umfazi wakho, kufuneka uqhelane kunye nenkcubeko omdala kubudlelwane nosapho phakathi kwezihlobo-nemithetho, iyileyo wafumana igama layo in Russian. Kunika umdla ukwazi ukuba igama elithi, "mzalwana-mthetho ngo-" weza ngeelwimi zaseYurophu Indo-usafunda nesiSanskriti, igama elithetha "le ndoda iyiyimbi," kuba ukuba umfazi ngaloo mihla yaba ngumhlolokazi inkxalabo wakhe wathabatha emagxeni akhe, umninawa wakhe, waza waya kuyo a ekhaya yonke inzala yakhe.

usapho yendoda kunye omtsha kamasipala

Emva kokuba isibini sitshatile Wabhambathisa abe kunye de ekupheleni kwemihla yakhe, iyunithi entsha oluntu, iintsapho abaselula, entsha elinye kwelinye icala. Ukuze kujongwane nalo koko, igama umzalwana okanye ezinye izalamane indoda leyo, wafumana emtshatweni, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba usapho, esavela abaselula emva komtshato, ngokuba ku-mithetho, oko kukuthi, izalamane ngomtshato, kungekhona negazi.

Ngokutsho yamandulo yasekhaya, unyana kufuneka mayimzise umkayo kwindlu yabazali bakhe, umiwe phantse yonke intsapho yakhe. Ngoko wa kuba yinkosikazi oselula? Uninzi oselula uyazi ukuba abazali umyeni wakhe - uyise womkaMoses nonina emthethweni, kwaye ngumfazi wonyana wakhe ngabo - intombi okanye umolokazana noninazala. In-mthetho - umyeni entsha udade, kodwa umzalwana lomyeni - umzalwana-in-mthetho ngenxa umfazi wakhe.

Emva kokuba abantwana baqalisa ukuqonda entsha amaqhina eentsapho kunye nomini nesigama bafunde ngeentsontelo, ke akukho kuphinda kumangaliswa imibuzo efana nale: "? Lo mzalwana yendoda yakhe - ngubani na lo" okanye "Yintoni udade nomyeni wam?". Ukongezelela, abaninzi kwabo kakhulu abanomdla kulo mbuzo, zikhanyise umnqweno ukwenza yabo umthi usapho epheleleyo entsapho.

Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba sigcine uxolo entsatsheni

Kukho iimeko xa abazali, udade okanye umzalwana, umyeni - yinto ebuhlungu ngokwenene umfazi oselula ogama ukuhlala nosapho indoda yakhe endlwini enye. Kulo mzekelo, akukho mfuneko yokuba sibe sibi. Kufuneka ukuzama ukusombulula ingxabano ngoxolo kwaye cwaka, kwaye kungcono ukuba nomyeni wakhe kuthiwa eyahlukileyo, kukho ithuba elinjalo.

Musa ukulibala ukuba iimeko ezinjalo abalahlwanga kunye neentsapho abaselula kakhulu ukuqala ubomi ozimeleyo, kungekudala emva koko baya kukhumbula izalamane zabo-imithetho baqonde ukubaluleka ubuchule ukuvana kakuhle nge e-mthetho, umzalwana-in-mthetho kunye uyise womkaMoses. Bonke ke baba oomawokhulu, oomalumekazi kunye noomalume, yaye yintoni enye into ebaluleke ngakumbi abazali abatsha ngaphezu nentsapho enkulu nezinobuntu leyo iya kukhula itakane encinane?