Kubuhlungu ukuba kubeleka okanye ibali elifutshane iintlobo ezintathu

amantombazana Dear, abafazi uceba ukukhulelwa, kwaye sele enxibe i "isiqhamo uthando", ukuba ungakhangela ngapha olu hlobo nqaku, kuba mhlawumbi uluvo malunga nokuzalwa sele kwasekwa, kwaye ngendlela engalunganga, kodwa ethile ngaphakathi, ehleli uthi zakho umfazi elibalulekile, "akufani".

Kweli nqaku akusayi kufumana inkcazelo yezonyango rhoqo amalungu inenimba. Kuyo kukho amava yam siqu kuphela. Mhlawumbi izinto zokufunda ezinikiweyo ziya kukunceda ukuba isigqibo sokuba kuzala ziintlungu.

yokuqala yokuzalwa. Kubuhlungu ukuba kuzala, xa ufikileyo ukulungele nto, kwakunye umntwana?

Ndineminyaka engama-19 ubudala. Ndihlala nomyeni wam, Lieutenant, abazali kude. Ndifuna usana, kuba kum kubonakala ukuba imbonakalo yakhe - yinto zokubonisa uthando lwam. Iintsuku ekupheleni, omnye mna ndidikwe, kodwa hayi ezimbi. Malunga ukuzala musa ukucinga njalo. ukukhulelwa iiveki My 38, into ngesiquphe ukuvuza. ubusuku bonke elinde "intlungu eyomeleleyo qho", ekuthiwa imilo, akukho nto. Ewadini kubeleka ngomdla ujonga umfazi ubuso ngokumileyo, uncumo (isimo eziphakamileyo, kuba kungekudala uza kufumana umntwana), akukho nto ibuhlungu. Oogqirha kudala savuma, ngoko isigqibo ukukhuthaza abasebenzi. Ndakunika dropper.

Kubuhlungu ukuthi lokuzala? Impendulo: "Ewe, ewe"

Iintlungu, iintlungu ... inkungu ebomvu ziqina ingqondo, yena bengene emlilweni Hyena, wavula amehlo akhe, wakhangela iwotshi yakhe, "kangakanani ndingaba ubunzima," - kwabaneka ingcinga, kunye intlungu kwakhona. Wahlatywa iqamza. Daba imizamo. Bathi, "Hlalani." Ndingenza njani I ukulinda? Amaphaphu sekudlule. Wazala, xa uvuza esandleni ngasinye, andizange kumva ekhala, kodwa ndiyeva ukuba mfana. Empumlweni banxibe iimaski, Esiwa phantsi, bubuthongo.

kweeyure ezisibhozo emva kokuzalwa abantwana, zingcakacile kancinci, Ndinjengentaka.

sokuzalwa yesibini. Kubuhlungu ukuba kuzala ngendlela benzululwazi?

Ndineminyaka engama-23 ubudala. I kufunda ziko. Ndiyayithanda unyana omdala uthando bunini, kodwa ufuna ukuzimela. Kunjalo senza ntoni ngaphandle nootatomkhulu. Funda uncwadi oluninzi, ndiye ndafunda indlela noko ukwenza, xa ukuphefumla, xa musa uphefumla.

Igama elithi lonikezelo imihla yokuqala ka January, akunjalo ngokupheleleyo isuti (New Year efanayo). Xa Ukuqalisa izishunqulelo ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi eyomeleleyo (13 Disemba) ndaya esibhedlele. Emva kweeyure eziliqela yonikezelo uhlobo bayeka. Sibeka phezu ukulondolozwa kunye nendlu yam nomyeni wam nomntwana omncinane. Wawaphepha esibhedlele, wahlamba unyana wakhe omncinane waza waya kuzala. Oogqirha bathi wayengayi andaphuma kwiwadi kubeleka de ebusweni! Wahlatywa iqamza fluid. Lonke elo xesha, nto leyo yabasebenzi, waza wazala usuku olunesiqingatha, ukuze kuphunyezwe ngokubonakalayo izindululo koogqirha kunye nababhali beencwadi. Ewe, kwaba buhlungu, kodwa kunjalo - nto yaba elide, sibalekela imiqobo. Ndaziva ngathi njengegorha ukuze siphumelele. Omakhanywa, ngoko ke andazi ukuba njani amandla aneleyo ukuba amsunduze ngaphandle usana. Xa kubelekwa kwacaca ukuba usana Uyayikhaba. Ndathi ukuphulaphula oko utsho ugqirha ngokuchanileyo enze, okanye ngunyana na ayizange. Apha ke wazala: ilandelayo ngokucacileyo imiyalelo. Emva ekuzalweni, kwabakho enye imvakalelo - ukudinwa, kodwa kwaba sekunjalo kubanda.

Efimkov wahlamba, lisongelwe, abekwe ngapha nangapha. Yena gulil.

izizukulwana wesithathu. Ubuhlungu ngokwemvelo zokubeleka, ingaba ikhona?

Ndineminyaka engama-29 ubudala, sonwabile emtshatweni. Usana wamkelekile kakhulu. Kwiinyanga ezimbini phambi kokuzalwa Waya kuninazala, kunye nabantwana owuthandayo kubeleka ngokukhuselekileyo siqiniseke ukuba amakhwenkwe aya kuba konke kulungile na iimeko. Ukuphumla, ubomi bumnandi! Kwinyanga ngaphambi kwamaxesha unikezelo yaqala yaye ekulweni maloboleznennye. Yazala phantse kanye ngexesha. Ebudeni imini, ebusuku, xa baleleyo abantu, ngaphandle yencindi iplagi. Ndakubetha ewadini kokubeleka. yonke imini ndihamba esitratweni, Ukunaka ishishini lam. Zingafanelekanga, kodwa abazange nqanda ndizive mkhulu. Ngokuhlwa, a izishunqulelo ezimbalwa kakhulu strong yena waphula bubble fluid. Ndaya kwiwadi lokubeleka kunye ingcamango nzima, ngoku kuya kufuneka alinde. Kwacaca wesibeleko sele lugqityiwe. Ukuze athi Ndamangaliswa - ukuba asingethi, kudane, ndandonwabile. Emva kweeyure ezimbini esifubeni sam kubeka itakane emangalisayo. Imvula yayisina, oogqirha into esiya (akakukhumbulanga na yokugqibela ukuya), kwaye ndaziva ingqiqo enjalo imincili, sindiso, abangancedekanga abanamava mhlawumbi ngaphambili okanye ukusukela, ngonaphakade.

Elokuphetha Ndifuna ukuthi ukuba abaninzi amantombazana akazange afune ukuba babe nabantwana, becaphula intlungu zodumo zokubeleka. I inamabini Poswayo isisu phambi kokuzalwa wesithathu, bawuphose umhlaba - oku kulingana isisu. Ngoko ke, ekuphenduleni umbuzo othi "enoba kuzala ukuba buhlungu?", Ndithi, ukuba akukho ubuhlungu xa umsebenzi ayikwazi kuthelekiswa xa ulahlekelwa umntwana.