Indlela ukulibala umntu ...

Uthando ... I imvakalelo esibonakaliswa ngamnye ngamandla akhe. Kodwa kuxhomekeke iimpawu ezifanayo yonke: nokubetha kwentliziyo ubadlisa ubomi kwi emehlweni into, uyakwazi ndiphefumle yomntu, bengcangcazela ziqala iminwe bonke phezu ngokubila umzimba yimincili yaye ukunyuka nokukhawuleza lobushushu. Zonke iimpawu zesifo apho. Iindlela okudluliselwa: emehlweni, iziselo, charisma. Unyango akuyomfuneko ukuba into yokunqulwa wosulelwe yintsholongwane efanayo.

Uxolo ngokuba isabelo uburharha. Kodwa ngokwenene umntu sifumana i aph kunzima ukwimeko luthando. Kakade ke, ukuba Yinto efanayo. Ihlabathi liphela buye bungabonakali xa sibona omthandayo. Kwaye ngaloo mzuzu, siyaqonda ukuba ngakumbi akuyomfuneko.

Kodwa kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba ihlabathi liphela liya kwenziwa mnyama, xa ulwalamano kupheza ngesiquphe. Phambi izolo tsakela ku bespamyatsva kuvele Awekho logic lo mbuzo: "Indlela ukulibala umntu?" Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isizathu. Indlela ukulibala oyintanda umntu lowo links ezininzi? Indlela ukucima iinkumbulo nemifanekiso? Indlela khohlwa loo mazwi yakhe yokuqala uyoyika uthando? Days nobusuku bachitha kunye, izicwangciso zexesha elizayo, iphupha entle ... Yonke ngesiquphe siyabutyaka kwaye kubonakala ukuba akwenzi ngqiqo ukuze baphile. Ngaphandle kwakhe. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukulibala umntu omthandayo?

Impendulo Kuyadanisa: akukho. Iya kuhlala nawe. Intlungu iya kuthotha kuphela ixesha. Musa ukucinga malunga nendlela ukulibala umntu omthandayo. Ukufunwa iindlela hayi ukunika iziphumo. Nje uzama ukuphila ngayo. Kukho umboniso apho unyana onesifo uthando Ndaphelelwa lithemba, kakhulu bathuthunjiswe umbuzo ukuba ndiyilibale loo mntu. Ucela uyise: "Ndiya kwenza ntoni ngoku?" Uyazi ukuba yintoni na impendulo wanika uyise unyana? Lilungelo: "Bayekeni!"

Indlela ukulibala umntu ngaphandle iintlungu, nasekudaneni iimvakalelo, intlungu eziKhawulezayo kunye nosizi? Yinto engenakwenzeka.

Kwakhona kuyenzeka ukuba intlungu aye kuba kumgca ethile xa umntu eqalisa ubunzima, kakade ndavuyiswa intlungu yakhe. Olu hlobo masochism. Le ndoda luvalwa nge ukukrazula yayo intlungu uthando, bexhamla ubuncwane kubo, ukungayiqapheli nabani, ukonakalisa ubukho, kodwa nabantwana bakhe kuphela babo ababathandayo. Ngenxa neurosis elide ebangela abanye babe njengokugula: yintloko, niphele, izilonda, ukwanda okanye ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ... uluhlu alupheli elide. Akumangalisi ke bathi unobangela zonke izifo - imizwa. Akhuliswe olungenayo ingqondo. iisayikholojisti abaninzi bayavuma: kuba uthando lifike kwezifo ezifana ezifana nokuba likhoboka leziyobisi kweziyobisi kunye nokusela utywala. Nkqu amagqirha yamandulo ngayo uthando nexhala. UAvicenna, lowo nguyise ka amayeza Arabic, wathi: "Uthando Tags sisifo :. ukudangala, amehlo ezomileyo, ezibuhlazarha, ngakanye kwaye qho imibongo iphefumla ukuva ngothando, ekhala yesijwili, akukho umyalelo zokuziphatha; imifino mdaka yaye ezimagqagala njengoko unembulaleko odandathekileyo ... "

Andikwazi kukuxelela indlela bayakulibala omthandayo, kuba ngokwenene akayi kuba nako ukulibala. Kodwa sehlise wabuyela ebomini iintlungu, sisenako. Kwaye apha kufuneka sijonge ezinzulwini umphefumlo, ngokunyaniseka umoyisele zonke ezishelfini. Ngapha koko, uthando bazimilise nezinye iimvakalelo. Le ingqondo yobango (kunye ukufuduka kwabasebenzi), kunye nabachaphazelekayo ukuzithemba, kunye noloyiko lokuba wedwa, okanye kakhulu low self-esteem. Kuphela xa bafunda ukuqaphela ezi mvakalelo, ngokuwahlula uthando lokwenene, wena wenze inyathelo lokuqala kwindlela alulame. "Kubo amakhulu ezinamagqabi ukufumana nethontsi ioli, amakhulu yokukhathazeka -. Nethontsi ubulumko" Indlela leli lizwi!

Zama ukuba uthathe iphepha uze ubhale kuyo ibali uthando lwakhe. Ke ekugqibeleni, ngokungathi kwisigqibo, isibuzi ibinzana elithi "Kwaba." Burn lo mbhalo, leyo ngoku ibhulorho phakathi elidluleyo nangoku.

Umphefumlo-ubuphanda self-yoviwo uyinandiphile ngokwaneleyo. Ngoku lixesha lokuba 'bakhothe "inxeba. Musa ukulibala elide kakhulu ebhedini. Vuka ngenkuthalo. Ube emane kusasa okanye bahambe inja. Zonke oluthandayo kunye nobuchule bakho. Qala ukuya zokwenza umthambo, swimming pool. Bahombise ihlabathi, abanye ndikujonga uncoma kunye ngomona. Tyelela i inwele, a manicure, ukuya ezivenkileni. Lixesha ukutshintsha umfanekiso. Misa ezinde kunye nabahlobo kunye phezu naziintuthumbo ngeentuthumbo ngesihloko usapho. Gxwa ngenyhek isifundo, umsebenzi. Cwangcisa ubomi bakho ukuze ukunciphisa kwisiphambuka se- owayeyintombi. Yaba wangaphambili. Uqinisekise ngokwakho ukuba isimo. Khumbula la mazwi adumileyo: "iindlela zikaThixo azilandeki." Ngubani na owaziyo, mhlawumbi iimvakalelo nje olunamandla namhlanje kuphela Njengengabula, kukho uhlobo yokuziqhelisa phambi entsha, namandla ngakumbi uthando onyanisekileyo?

Jonga wena nomnye ngesandla. Kuchazo omnye apho ubona abasemzini. Kholwani ndim, ukuba ayinyamezeleki. Musa ukubavumela abanye abantu ukuba nosizi wena, ngokuba nofefe womisa ngokukhawuleza kakhulu kwaye kwafakwa namdla. Wretch ayikwazi yomelela. Accustom ukuba ingcamango yokuba ntlekele nazo namhlanje ugonyo eya kunika omzimba ukungaphumeleli kunye nokuphoxeka iminyaka emininzi, akayi kuvumela kwakhona ubunzima umbuzo ukuba umlibale umntu ...

Kunye namagama ambalwa kumqukumbelo ... Literature, yaziwa ukuba amandla angaqhelekanga. Yabona, xa unalo ixesha free. Kuphephe imini ezibuhlungu "Butterfly", ebhalwe ngokomyalelo ngabavakalisi. novelettes kunye rasskaziki okunjalo olubhaliweyo lusekelwe abaphulaphuli ezibuthathaka ebehlelwe okanye yintlekele nje namava. Kuchitha iincwadi ezinjalo ngoko nangoko. Musa ukuvumela ababhali cheap imali kwi iimvakalelo zakho uze uthathe kwi lweFIFA yakho. Kodwa ... Kukho into enye ingoma emnandi iimvakalelo epheleleyo ukuba kusekho isiphakamiso kakhulu ukufunda: umbongo "Moscow - Petushki" (Yerofeyev). Lo msebenzi uza ngokwenene enokukunceda ukuba uzigqale ukusuka kwelinye icala wenze ngokutsha le meko.