Indlela ukulawula abantu: amahlebo orhwebo

Wonke umntu uzama ngandlela zonke ukuphumeza impumelelo ebomini kunye nomsebenzi, nokuba bayazi okanye kuva ufuna ukufunda ukulawula indlela abantu shiyana. Indlela ukulawula abantu ukuboyisela ukwenza into elungileyo kuwe? Kweli nqaku siza kukunceda ukuyichonga ukuba yintoni.

Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka isigqibo ngoko afuna ukufikelela, yintoni umphumo yokuntlokothiswa, ulindela. Kwi injongo kunye kuthetha zixhomekeke.

Inyathelo elilandelayo indlela ukulawula abantu, kukuba ukuqokelela imali enkulu ulwazi malunga umntu lowo uza zokuzisebenzisa. Kufuneka ufunde kangangoko iinkcukacha kunokwenzeka malunga izinto zabo, izinto ezithandwayo, isangqa lwentlalo - ngokufutshane, naziphi na iinkcukacha eziluncedo ingaluncedo Usihlube awohluke bobuntu bakhe. Khumbula ukuba, ndakuqonda malunga allegiances bakhe, mhlawumbi ngempazamo wenze kunconywa okanye ukuthetha ngalo mbandela. Olu hlobo ingqalelo liya kuba ngokunyanisekileyo uze wenze unxibelelwano lwakho closer lula.

Ukuze ufunde ukulawula indlela abantu, ngezengqondo njenge inzululwazi uthetha ngokweenkcukacha ezinkulu. Bakholelwa ukuba umntu umele kuqala zonke ukuthatha unonophelo womfanekiso wabo kunye nenkangeleko. Njengoko bathi, "ukudibana impahla ...". Kuyinto elungileyo kuphela, ekubeni kwatsala ingqalelo lesixhobo kakuhle axholiweyo, eliqaqambileyo. Emva koko ke kuya kufuneka ukuba sivandlakanye kunye esweni ukuvela. Ngoko ke ukuthatha unonophelo ngokwakho!

Ephendula umbuzo wakho malunga nendlela ukulawula abantu, musa ukulibala ukuba ngamnye kufuna indlela ngamnye qhinga ethile. Ngoko ke, njengokuba kuthiwe, kuqala simazi kufutshane with "ulixhoba" wakhe, ingakumbi xa umntu engekho.

Ngoku, ukuqokelela ulwazi, kufuneka bafunde ukunxibelelana ngayo, ngokuthumela interlocutor kwicala elifanelekileyo. Xa ukufunda njani ukulawula abantu, kunokunceda la macebiso:

1. I enzima kakhulu lokuhanahanisa inzululwazi - kukuthi, Isimanga ngokwaneleyo, ukuze afunde ukuzibamba kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Funda ukuba ukwenza njani oko kukhawulweyo kwaye ulahle ishishini siqalile, yivusa kuse ekupheleni.
2. Unxibelelwano kuyimfuneko ukuqala izicelo ezincinane ( "Yiza, nceda ...", "Vula, ukuba nceda," njalo-njalo). Xa umthombo sele kuzaliseke oko yokufuna kwenu, ndibulela kuye, enze kunconywa ngokuphathelele inceba yakhe. Landela njalo ukubulawa izicelo okuncoma. Zona - isikhali singanyangekiyo okwenza umntu azive ngokubaluleka, yaye oko kuya kuzama ukukunceda.
3. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka uthethe kakuhle abo bantu ukuba ungabi sisizekabani ukuba neemvakalelo ezinjalo. Vice versa. Umntu ngendlela yokuba, ukuqala ukuthetha umntu olungileyo phambi kwakhe, uqala ukubheka kuva iziphoso zakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukucwangcisa i omnye ngokuchasene nomnye, bethetha ngale ngakumbi yokugqibela ngaphezu kokuba iintetho ezimnandi kunye okulungileyo, mayela nempumelelo kunye nobuchule bakhe.
4. Xa inzululwazi indlela ukulawula abantu, ixabiso elikhulu ukudlala "imisebenzi emihle" amancinci Zisani elinye iqela kunye nekomityi yekofu ikeyiki okanye amnike nayiphi na umsebenzi oyimfuneko ukulungiselela trinket. Lo ukujika indoda ibe sizana yakho. Khumbula ukuba abantu basoloko bekukhumbula abo okulungileyo kubo, yaye kuva aqale sizigqale abantu abalungileyo kunye nice.
5. Ukuthetha ukukhuthaza interlocutor wavakalisa amagama uluvo afana "Obalaseleyo", "ingcamango kakhulu!", "Ngubani na ndacinga!", Njl Le ukwanda kwinqanaba yabantu ngesiqu kunye nokuzixabisa. Emva koko, ngobunono ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho, ungenza sele ukuthumela yona indlela ofuna, yaye uya kucinga ukuba ingcamango ngokupheleleyo yakhe.

Xa ndiqukumbela, kwimizuzwana engamashumi umntu unako ukuba baqwalasele into enye ukuya ubuninzi. Ngoko, ukuba andinamdla kuye, wathi watshintshela into enye. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile kuwe isiqingatha umzuzu ukuba babe nesimilo ehlala ukuba usebenzise zonke iimpawu zayo: inkangeleko, incoko, nembonakalo yobuso. Kwixesha elizayo, impumelelo liqinisekisiwe.