Iintlobo zemfundo yabantwana - akukhona pedagogy nje

Amaxesha amaninzi, xa zokujongana abazali bomntwana bayabanjwa ndizibeke phezu yokuba abazi ukuba mabenze ntoni. Kuxhomekeka imeko iintlobo zemfundo aya kukhangela ezahlukeneyo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngexesha elifanayo ukuba ufuna umntwana ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuyenza.

Yinto elula! Ukuba umntwana wakho ucela into iqhubeka, oko kuthetha ukuba ngenxa yesizathu esithile Liyafuneka. Ukukhetha uhlobo olufanelekileyo lwemfundo kunye neendlela zokufundisa azinampembelelo umntwana, abazali kubalulekile ukucacisa - yintoni. Ngale ndlela, abazali ayila izizathu kuyinyaniso ngezenzo, nto leyo kamva akayi kuvumela umntwana ukwenza iimpazamo mzuzu xa uya kusala kungekho mntu ubabeke esweni kunye neengcebiso. Ngaloo ndlela kuyafikelelwa yaye owona msebenzi ubalulekileyo sithumela komzali nomntwana kunye neendlela self.

Kwelinye icala, ukuba uhlobo ebuncwaneni intanda yakhe ezixhasayo ichanekileyo (ungafowunela ngayo isazela, kukho uluvo lokuba izazela - lo sikhokelo yethu), abazali abaninzi kufuneka ukuba nosukelo olucacileyo
ngobuchule ukuchazela umntwana wabo. Kule meko iindlela zemfundo yabantwana kunye nendlela kubo abazali ngokukhawuleza ukuba iintliziyo zabo onothando.

Masithi ukuba usukelo lwakho - ukukhulisa ndonwabe. Hayi, uyolo lomntu oyaziyo uthando ngayo. Ngokuba ngubani na owaziyo ukuba umthande indlela umntu kudla wayeyoliswa kakhulu abo iyayijikeleza. Imigaqo ye komyalelo yehlabathi, efana ne "Ayikho into ethathwa esithubeni," yaye "umthande ummelwane wakho njengoko uzithanda ngako" nangoko kwabangela ngokungqongqo: lowo onika uthando lwakhe, olu thando ibuyiswa nakanjani. Yaye apha, kunye nolonwabo.

Ngoko, sifundisa umntwana ukuthanda baze bonwabe. Becela ukuba ipeni? Sizama ukuqonda - kutheni. "Nje yiyo" - hayi ingcaciso. Ngenxa nje enolaka, ukuba abakwazi, umgaqo, ukuba ke amava aya bafundise inxaxheba ngqo umzali. Ziimfuno esemncinane akakho, kukho imfuneko ukufuduka kwabasebenzi. Umzekelo, imfuno umzimba zoqhagamshelwano. thina sonke wazalwa nale mfuneko. Ngendlela efanayo kunye nemfuneko ukuba badle, basele, balale, siyashukuma, siphefumle umoya omtsha, ukuphumla emva komsebenzi kunye nezinye nabanye. Yaye akukho namnye uya uphupha landula umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwesizathu kwi ukutya okanye uhambe. Ngokufanayo, ngaphandle kwesizathu kufuneka ukuba siyamkhanyela imfuneko yakhe ngakule umntu omdala, uthando kunye indoda eyomeleleyo.

Ngaphandle, uyazi, ukusuka phezulu, kubonakala eyahlukileyo kakhulu - akafani ezantsi, umdla kakhulu. Ukubandezana umntwana wakho ukuba abone ngayo ihlabathi, umzali kuthintela ukuba ukwazi ihlabathi ubuhle bayo yonke kunye neyantlukwano. Nakowuphi na umzekelo, oku lususa amathuba ixesha elide.

Kodwa masithi ukuba isicelo ukuba athathe usiba sisasetyenziswayo ekhatshwa zavaleka kunye lunacy. Oku kubonisa ukuba iintlobo zemfundo, ekhethiweyo ngaphambili ngabazali abazange kulungile - oko kukuthi, abazali ezinesiqalelo akazange azame ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni efuna usana, waza wathabatha kwaoko kuye ezingalweni zakhe kumthuthuzela. Oku ngokwemvelo, kuba nzima gqitha xa pipsqueak yaphukile. Kodwa musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuze isetyenziswe ukusombulula iingxabano ngale ndlela, kufuneka ukufumana undoqo kweminqweno yakhe.

Ngoko ke, "ukuba bakhwaze" - oku umzali engalunganga isizathu, nto leyo ke inyathelo kuluncedo usukelo lwethu yokukhulisa ndonwabe. Nimthabathe, nceda, kodwa sichaze ukuba kway-daddy uthando ukuthatha izandla zakho (thatha nje izandla zakho, uze wenze nje uthando) umntwana gay. Bathi xa uyakhala acele ukuba isandla. Thetha fun, nzima, luthando. Buza osule iinyembezi, kumnceda kule - ke itshefu, ndiyibeke eqhiyeni; kulo ilizwi, unqande kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukususela zingqondweni bakhe de izisombululo agqume imenza oyifunayo. Laugh, gavknuv myauknuv okanye nantoni na ofuna, wazi ngcono, ukususela oko umntwana wakho zihleka yaye ziziphi iintlobo zemfundo ezifunekayo kule meko. Kwaye uyahleka xa - uze umsuse ezingalweni zakhe. Uvuyo nothando. Ezininzi kwezi exercises, yaye efunda ukuba osule iinyembezi, phambi kokubuza iingalo zakhe. kuya kuba lula kancinci wonke.