Ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano

Indoda yintlalo yentlalo, nto leyo ithetha ukuba ininzi yobomi bakhe inikezelwe ekunxibelelaneni.

Ukunxibelelana, sinefuthe komnye nomnye, enokuba yinto elula (yokucela) okanye enzima kakhulu (iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokusetyenziswa).

Ukususela kwindlela esiyazi ngayo ubugcisa bokunxibelelana, impumelelo kwimicimbi eyahlukeneyo ixhomekeke kumlinganiselo omkhulu.

Ukuze ufunde indlela yokusebenzisana nabantu ngokukhawuleza, awudingi kuphela ukwakhiwa ngokufanelekileyo kwamabinzana kunye nentetho epholileyo, nangona oku kubalulekile. Ubungcali bokunxibelelana kubandakanya ukukwazi ukuva udibaniselwano, ukuyiqonda nokwakha intetho yakho nokuziphatha ngokuhambelana nale meko.

Cinga ngolu hlobo loqhagamshelwano. Iingqondo zanamhlanje ziqwalasela iinkalo ezintathu zenkqubo:

• Uqhagamshelwano olunxibelelwano - ukutshintshiselwa kolwazi phakathi kwabathengisi.
• Icala lokuqonda - imbono yabathintana nabo, ukudala umoya wokuqonda.
• Icala elibandakanyekayo lithetha ukudala iimeko zokuba abantu basebenzisane.

Ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano kubandakanya ukufunda indlela yokudlulisela iingcamango zakho kwi-interlocutor, ukuba uqondwe. Kubalulekile ukuchaneka apha. Iiphoso ezinokwenzeka zidla ngokudibanisa nobunzima beengqondo, ezifana nokuzihlukanisa, ukunyaniseka, ukuxhalabisa.
Le miqobo yokubonakalisa inkululeko yeengcamango zabo zidla ngokuba yimingcele yokuthetha.

Kodwa kufuneka kuphawulwe ukuba izakhono zokuxhumana azikho. Nabani na umntu onokuzibonakalisa kuye, ukuba wenza umzamo.

Okwangoku, kuninzi ukuqeqeshwa kwengqondo kunye neeklasi ezizodwa ezinokukunceda ufunde indlela yokuthetha ngokulula nangokukhululekile.

Ukuqeqesha okujoliswe ekuphuhliseni izakhono zoqhagamshelwano kubandakanywa amanqanaba amaninzi. Oku kukwazi ukuqinisekisile umnxibelelwano, ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono ezingengomlomo, kunye nokukwazi ukuphuma kuyo nayiphina imeko yenkqubela kunye nodumo . Maxa wambi amanye amanyathelo afakwe.

Ukuba awukwazi ukuya kwiiklasi ezinjalo, iziphakamiso ezilula ziya kukunceda ukunqoba izithintelo zokuxhumana kwaye uphumelele kuyo nayiphi na imeko.

Thina sonke sisuka ebuntwaneni sinokuzisebenzisa izakhono ezisisiseko, ezifakwe kwiingqondo zethu ngendlela yamaphetheni athile. Lo mbuliso, ukulungelelana, uvelwano, ukuxolisa, ukwenqaba, isicelo, imfuno kunye nabanye.

Njengomthetho, ukuba sisebenzisana nabantu abangaziwayo kwizinga elingenasiphelo (umzekelo, kunye nomthengisi kwisitolo), ezi iisampulu (izifanekiso) zanele. Kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, zenziwa kwi-automatism, asikwazi ukufumana ubunzima bokuxhumana.

Baqala apho kukho imeko entsha okanye enomdla. Umzekelo, xa uqeshisa, okanye xa ufuna ukucela umtshato. Yilapho izithintelo zonxibelelwano ezahlukahlukeneyo zisilindele, esizichaza ngoku ngamazwi "ulwimi lwalususwe", "andiyazi ukuba uthetha ntoni", "ndandingumngqindi" nabanye. Kamva siyaqonda indlela esifanelekileyo yokuziphatha, oko kuthetha, nokuzisola ngokukrakra yethu imeko. Ukukunqoba ezi ngxaki, izakhono zonxibelelwano kufuneka ziphuhliswe.

Kutheni oku kwenzekayo kunye nendlela yokujongana nale ngxaki?

Ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu sokuba asinakukwazi ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kunye nabani na kunoma yimuphi umxholo into ebizwa ngokuba yintloni. Umntu ufumana ukwesaba kwaye, njengokuba kunjalo, ngaphakathi "ukufihla", ukuvalela iimvakalelo zakhe.

Umntu onamahloni akakhathazeki ngokungabalulekanga ngendlela ajonga ngayo, oko abanye bacinga ngaye. Uhlala engaqinisekanga ngoluphi uveliso aluvelisayo. Isiphakamiso esihle kakhulu kule meko kukujonga ngokwakho ngaphandle. Ngayiphi indlela? Umzekelo, unokurekhoda kwikhamera indlela othetha ngayo, hamba, uhleke. Emva koko, emva kokukhangela umphumo, tshintsha into ongayithandiyo ngawe. Isilumkiso esibalulekileyo: ukuba awuzange uzibonele ekurekhodeni, unokutshatyalaliswa. Oku kwenzeka kubantu abaninzi, kuba umfanekiso wethu wangaphakathi uhambelana nendlela abanye abasibona ngayo. Ngoko ke, musa ukufumana izigqibo emva kokuhlolwa kokuqala. Fundisisa iirekhodi eziliqela kwaye uhlalutye i-pros and cons.

Inqaku elilandelayo: funda ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho ngokukhululekile. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ngamazwi, qalisa ngokuhamba. Umdaniso ulungele oku. Ekhohlo yedwa, vula umculo onomdla kwaye udansa ngendlela oyifunayo. Vumela ukuhamba kwakho kungabonakali okanye kwintlango, ungabi namahloni, kuba akukho mntu uyakubona. Ngomnxeba womdaniso ngokuzenzekelayo uya kuqonda kakuhle, ezininzi "zangaphezulu" ziza kuhamba.

Kukunceda ukupenda iimvakalelo. Le ndlela isetyenziswe kwi-psychotherapy kwaye inceda ukususa izithintelo.

Ukuba kunzima ukuthetha, zama ukubhala kuqala. Ukuvakalisa iingcamango kwiphepha kuya kubanika ukucaca nokugqiba, okuya kubonakala kancinci kwintetho.

Ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano kungaquka ezinye iindlela. Unokukhetha enye enokuyithandayo.

Ekugqibeleni, ndiyakongeza ukuba nayiphi na ingozi yokungena ngaphakathi, unako ukutshintsha, nangona ngamanye amaxesha umendo wokuphumelela ude kwaye unameva. Into ephambili akuyikuyeka!