Ukuhlelwa kweeholide yabantwana yayinomgangatho ophezulu, kufuneka iphathwe kwiingcali zayo

Kubazali abanothando, umbutho weeholide zezingane ngowomnye wamathuba okubonisa uthando lwabo olungenammangaliso ngomntwana othandekayo, ukumnika inxalenye yolonwabo, ukubeka esinye isitena kwisiseko esingenakunqamka sokuvuya apho ixa elizayo lomntwana lwakhiwe khona.

Kwabazali abaninzi banamhlanje, yinto yokuhlonipha ukulungiselela iholide yomntwana kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo, ukuze aqonde ukubaluleka kubalulekile kwintsapho yakhe. Kukho ezinye izizathu ezifuna ukuba ukubhiyozelwa komntwana kubanjwe kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo:

• Ubume bentlalo yentsapho;
• Iinjongo zemfundo;
• Ukuvunyelwa komntwana phakathi koontanga, njl.

Siphila kuluntu apho kukho imithetho ethile kunye nezithethe, ukugcinwa kwinto evamile. Xa uhlela iholide yabantwana, khumbula ukuba wonke umntwana ukhona kwilizwe lakhe elikhethekileyo. Umbhiyozo, olungiswe ngokuhlonipha inkunzi, kufuneka uhambelane neli lizwe kwaye ngexesha elifanayo lihambelana nezithandane zezithethe.

Indlela yokwenza iholide njengawo wonke umntu

Akukho mzali ngamnye okwazi ukulungiselela umcimbi omeleyo kumntwana wakhe. Kwaye akukho malunga nokungabikho okanye ubukho be talente. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abanalo ixesha lokulungiselela umthendeleko wokwenene umntwana wabo. Kodwa iholide yanamhlanje yinkqutyana yexesha elingafuneki kuphela iindleko zenyama, kodwa kunye nendlela yokudala yokudala. Ngoko ke, kwiintsuku zethu, umbutho weeholide zezingane udla ngokugqithiswa ngcali. Iholide leentshukumo zezingane zanamhlanje ziqwalasela iinkalo ezininzi, oku:

• Ubudala bombhiyozo kunye neendwendwe zayo;
• Isizathu sokubhiyozela (usuku lokuzalwa, usuku lwengelosi, ukuya esikolweni, njl.);
• Izintando zomntwana ohloniphekileyo isiganeko esilungelelanisiweyo;
• Iimpawu zonyaka, njl

Iingcali kuphela ziyakwazi ukuqwalasela yonke into, nokuba yintoni abazali abangayaziyo. Ukuqonda kwanamhlanje, iholide yezingane akukona nje isimemo samakhlowns kunye nabalinganiswa beefeythi, kodwa kunye nokucwangciswa ngokucophelela kweholo, indlela efanelekileyo, enzulu kakhulu yokukhetha izitya eziza kuba phezu kwetafile kunye nesakhiwo sokuqala sendawo apho kuza kugubha khona umbhiyozo. Uninzi lwabazali banethemba lokuhlelwa kweeholide zezingane kwiarhente ezikhethekileyo kumaqela abantwana.

Kutheni ieholide zezingane zifanele zithembeke yiingcali

Ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-XXI, ezininzi iinkalo zomsebenzi wabantu zaqala ukuphathwa njengezobugcisa. Ukongezelela, indlela yokwenza okobugcisa ishintshiwe. Ngokuphathelele kumbutho weeholide. Kubazali abafuna ukuvuyisa umntwana wabo, kubalulekile ukukhetha i-arhente elungileyo. Amaxabiso ombutho weeholide zezingane sele efana nendawo yonke, kodwa kungekhona zonke i-arhente ezineengcali kunye namaqabane afanelekileyo.

Iholide kwimeko yangoku, kwaye ngokukodwa abantwana, luhlu olungapheliyo lwezihlwele ezifanele ziqwalaselwe. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukwazi i-psychology yengane kunye nokukwazi ukuqhuba ngokufanelekileyo umcimbi, ukwenzela ukuba wonke umntwana eziva ekhululekile kwaye ngexesha elifanayo isalathisi esiyinhloko sasiyi-culprit yokubhiyozela. Abantwana banamhlanje abayi kuhlaziywa kuphela ngeengubo kunye neentlanzi zokuzonwabisa. Badinga okungaphezulu. Yaye oku akuyi kuphazamiseka. Namhlanje, abantwana banengqondo kunokuba ngaphambili, ukuze sibakholise, kufuneka sizame.

Ngokukhetha okufanelekileyo kwe-arhente yentlangano yamaqela abantwana, abazali abayi kuba nexhala malunga nantoni na. Umsebenzi wabo ukubonisa zabo iimfuno kunye nokuhlawula iinkonzo, zonke izinto ziya kwenziwa ngokukodwa ukwenzela ukuba zonke iindwendwe, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, umsunguli wokubhiyozela, uzive ephezulu kwinjabulo.