Ukubiwa - ntoni na, okanye ukukhusela njani umntwana wakho embandezelweni enkulu?

Kucacile ukuba le zinzima kakhulu kwaye ephantsi, kodwa kwangaxeshanye ulwaphulo-mthetho kakhulu ngempumelelo. Kutheni? Ewe, ngenxa yokuba inengeniso kunokuxhwilwa ngendlela ebanzi kakhulu - lo nokuxhwilwa (ukusuka igama IsiNgesi ukuba thumba - "ukuba"), kodwa ke ngenxa yokuba ingcambu itakane ( "umntwana"), ixabiso lale njengengqiqo luthe iingqameko ukuba ixabiso "eba." Kwaye kusenokuba abiza abazali nabantwana? Zonke izinto zawo emva zokuhlula Ukuxelenga zabazali (zokuhlala, iimoto, nemiqolomba, beneengubo ngoboya, izacholo, izabelo, ifanitshala kunye nezinye izinto eziphathekayo) akayi kuba kuthelekiswa nesibakala sokuba nje akunakwenzeka ukuba umlinganiselo imiqondiso imali, - ubomi kwabantwana babo. Onothando umzali, Ngubani na ongaba nokuma ukuya intlungu intlungu ngokwasemzimbeni, sime i nxaniso kusisisongelo kubomi umntwana wakhe. Injongo nokuxhwilwa elula - mali.

Yintoni injongo?

Eyona njongo ephambili kakhulu-mthetho - nkutsulo kule ndawo ukuza into "kungcono" akunakwenzeka, ngaphandle ukhuphiswano - nokuxhwilwa. Ukuba le intlungu yoyikekayo abazali, izaphuli musa ukucinga. Ukuba imbi, kodwa hayi kodwa ezibalulekileyo. Redemption ibandakanya kunye nokuxhwilwa zoqhagamshelwano ethile (ubuncinane, injongo iindawo transfer imali) kwaye siyathemba ukuba umntwana uya kusinda. isakhiwo Power (amapolisa, njl ...) Kule meko ke kungcono ukuba ukuphazamisa - ukuze kokwaphula nto. Okwesibini, yi-manani ebuhlungu, xa nokuxhwilwa - na ukubuya umntwana omnye bekuya-kuba abazali, njengoko umthetho, emva komtshato. Yeyona ephephile yazo tyala umntwana. Apha kuyimfuneko ukuba uyavuma na (ukumangalela, ukuba uhlunguzele phantsi ulwalamano unclarified) ne ex-nendoda (nomkayo). Eyona njongo kakhulu kakhulu kwaye ayingozi nokuxhwilwa - ukuba ubundlobongela ngokwesondo, nkqu nokufumana izibilini kwakunye nokuthengiswa abantwana labahluthayo abazali (ezifana amazwe). Kule meko ke, abaqweqwedisi ukuba uqhagamshelane nabazali, Kakade ke, andiyi kuhamba. Ukuba emini kwakungekho iindaba umntwana kwaye ayikho uxanduva kokukhululwa kwakhe - kulo mzekelo, kufuneka isicelo arhente zokunyanzelisa umthetho!

Ukubiwa: ntoni na nendlela ukukhusela wena?

iindlela zothintelo ukhuseleko lwabantwana baninzi. ukuphunyezwa zazo zepraktikhali, Kakade ke, kuxhomekeke imo yezentlalo kunye eziphathekayo kakuhle-ntle ngabazali. iziinxalenye phantsi kwezihloko ezintandathu Iindlela eziphambili zokuzikhusela eba:

• Xhasa iqela okanye ukuqesha yamafanankosi (eqolo, kodwa eyona ndlela isebenzayo).
• Ukuqasha komfundisi okanye umphathi.
• abazali inkxaso njalo.
• Ehamba izihlobo, abahlobo, abantu obaziyo.
• Ukuya kwi iqembu labantwana.
• yokucupha Technical uhlobo (umzekelo, umntwana wakho kufuneka ibe ifowuni kunye imodyuli GPS kunye inkqubo likuxelela apho ibekwe umntwana).

Kodwa ke ngaxeshanye asifanele silibale ngayo amanyathelo ezingundoqo othintelo xa kukho urhano nakancinane a nokuxhwilwa kunokwenzeka.

izinto eziziziqalelo kodwa kubaluleke

Kukho ithuba zonke nokuthintela ulwaphulo-mthetho ezikhoyo, akukho ngaphandle kunye nokuxhwilwa. Yintoni na? ukunakekela ngokwesiqhelo! Amaxhoba abaqweqwedisi isoloko abantwana ngoyaba imithetho yokhuseleko kakhulu engundoqo. Zama ukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga izinto ezisisiseko, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu:

• Awukwazi ukuthetha nabantu ongabaziyo kwi esitratweni.
• Swi nga ha endleka ku zipho ezingaqhelekanga abadala.
• Awukwazi ukuya naphi nabantu abangabazi.
• Xa ingozi, umntwana kufuneka akufuneki lenze imikhwazo "Nceda!" (Oku kudla waqonda ngabanye njenge ingxabano yintsapho eqhelekileyo), kwaye "Oku ubawo! Andimazi loo mntu andazi! ".
• Ukuba umntwana ubasukelayo, asifanele uqhutywe kwi-nasezirhangeni emnyama okanye ukufikelela yokuqala ekhoyo, yaye, kwindawo kawonke ezele: shop, cafe, sebhasi.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ukwenza nto imbi!

kubaluleke kakhulu: i mfuneko yokuba ithwale ingxoxo othintelo ukuze lo mntwana engazange nokuphuhlisa naziphi na uloyiko kunye ukucalulwa. Ukushiya le ndlu, umele Musani ukuboyika elineentshebe Barmaley azondelele uphuphe bakhe ukuba bebe nidle isidlo sakusasa. Vumela umntwana wakho bade bacinge malunga inengeniso kunokuxhwilwa, yinto nje umdlalo fun entsha.