Nekhwele yangaphambili - udidi okanye zokugula?

Ngokusekwa ukuba nekhwele - uzive buhlungu, etshabalalisayo, bambalwa akukho. Noko ke, abanye kwengqondo iyasiqinisekisa ukuba umona ibonisa ubuthathaka lomlinganiswa, ukungazithembi, oko - ngezifo. Kodwa enjalo sigqibo kufuneka bet.

Asiyi kodwa ukuthetha ikhwele lwezidumbu ngenene, zingenasihlahla. Kodwa ukuze baxoxe ngalo mbuzo: lo Nekhwele eyayisakuba cohabitants, amaqabane okanye nezalamane namhlanje kubini abantu babe nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okanye ngaba - ipateni?

Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu ngamnye sifumana ndiziva ngayo intanda yakhe. Omnye umbuzo, ngokusekelwe koko umona. Ngaba ukoyika yokuphulukana umphefumlo iqabane lakho okanye ukusilela bomntu, ukuba ukuthi le ndoda ngokwayo? Ukuzama ukuba kuvunwe ekungakwazini okanye nokungafuni idini ngenxa yothando lwakhe kwezinye izinto, iziseko, ihlabathi?

Amazwi "andikhathali malunga ulwalamano lwakho elidlulileyo, andinamdla ngubani na waba phambi kwam yaye yintoni uhlobo lolwalamano nawe ahlangene nomntu xa kunyulwa okanye ezikhethiweyo noogxa bakhe '- ubuxoki, kukho uhlobo yokhuseleko ngokwasengqondweni ukusuka wobukhwele, kodwa hayi ukungabi nayo. Ngapha koko, eneneni Nekhwele yangaphambili - impi elidlulileyo, akukho kuphinda ukutshintsha, umlo kunye nephiko, umshologu, leyo, yeha, lingayifumenanga. Ngoko ke, ukuze wenze le nto kwaye senze ngayo.

Nangona ingqondo ngokuyimfuneko ukufumana entliziyweni yakho, nkqu, kwikona encinane. Ke ukuba yokuphila Kwenzeka oko ukukhethayo, ngelishwa, sele amava efanayo, kufuneka ufunde ukukwamkela oko njengoko kunokwenzeka wokwenene ngakumbi: wena kunye nam ngoku, emihle, kwaye Nekhwele elalisakuba nga kukubhunyula oko sinako ngoku nje.

Nangona amaninzi ukuthandana entsha nangoku lungasebenzi ngenxa yokuba ubukho yalo yokugqibela. Nanku umzekelo wobomi. Le ndoda wahlala inenekazi, ulwalamano usapho ngakumbi njenge kwisigxina "daddy-intombi" kunokuba "umfazi ngokulinganayo."

awayeza kutshata besibini malunga ngokupheleleyo lokuqala: an, "ukukrwitsha" ezimeleyo, Yomelela-unothanda, wayengase. Kubonakala ukuba umntu umele ngoku Babephila oyithandayo. Kodwa akukho! Phambi kokuba Year New, nguye endlwini kunye nomthi weKrismesi. umfazi New ngokuziqhenya ubonisa sele zinokuhonjiswa umthi Christmas, leyo yena wayithenga, wayizisa, ifakiwe. Ke indoda ukushwabana, neentloni kunye uxelela umfazi ukuba umthi weKrismesi wayithenga ngenxa yakhe ex-ngumfazi.

"Yena ke onjalo elingatshintshwanga ... iya kuhlala kuNyaka oMtsha ngaphandle imithi iKrismesi ..." Ngenxa yoko, indoda iya athi umthi ekhayeni lakhe endala, apho uhlala ngonaphakade. Umbuzo: Ngubani na elungileyo yaye ngubani na ephosakeleyo, ebinokuthi yenze lo mfazi entsha Badidekile iimvakalelo zabo amadoda - azikho. Kuba akukho Nekhwele yangaphambili okanye amalinge ukuthintela komsipha ubudlelane ezintsha kwezi meko kuba nako ukutshintsha nantoni wayeza. Nje iimvakalelo endala bomeleleyo kunathi kwabonakala xa efika kuqala.

Ezinye iintsapho, ke engaqhelekanga ukuze iba ngenxa yokunqongophala ngokupheleleyo nekhwele. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ulwalamano efanayo ekumda kwi ukungakhathali. A bit wobukhwele eluthandweni - oku kongezwe zizinongo isidlo ityuwa neswekile. Ngaphandle kwalo, ubomi iba IiReggaeton obungabangeli mdla.

Kodwa ke, kusekho-kuthiwa ikhwele zophendlo lwezifo - kungekho sizathu, ngaphandle ngapantsi ewolo. Yiloo imvakalelo nje sisifo, a aberration engqondweni, uthi hayi, nditsho ukumemeza ukusilela kwabantu, yakhe nokuzixabisa elisezantsi.

noku kutenxa kokumiselweyo rhoqo ngendlela yokwenene amanyundululu, ndisilwa, isimo sengqondo olungumbandezeli ngayo revnuemomu. Ilinge walala phantsi umntu onesifo onomona lwezidumbu, singakwazi ukudlala a joke embi.

1. iqabane bahlukunyezwe efuna intuthuzelo kwicala, ukuguqulela ukusebenzisa ezo neminqweno nomona okanye revnivitsy apho ukungcikiva ngokungekho sikweni.
2. Ngexesha ingxabano elandelayo nomntu ngogonyamelo wonzakele okanye nokubulala esaqungeni apho.
3. Ukuzibulala kwenzeka nge iqela elinye okanye elinye.

Phi akhule kweli lizwe, kuyimfuneko, kwaye iimvakalelo yingozi? Njengoko bathi loo iisayikholojisti efanayo, zonke iingxaki zethu - ukususela ebuntwaneni. Xa intsapho, abazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni unobangela inokuba, umntwana efana ngaphezu kwabanye. Ingaba self-kuyabonakala ukuba umntwana oye sikhatyiwe uthando lwabazali, liwuthuthumbisa, onekhwele, ukuhlupheka, engazi ityala lakhe. nokubangisana Umntakwenu kunye nobudala aziyi kupheliswa: ikhula nalo mntu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha - ngokukhawuleza kakhulu khona, ngokuzalisa yonke into.

"Nedolyublennosti" abantwana badla - oozwilakhe ezininzi ezigwenxa. Kubo kamva izikhathi ugonyamelo nomona, maniacs, ababulali okanye ng anxile.

Unobangela yesibini kubudlelwane nosapho engonwabanga apho kukhoyo umona, ungukumkani kwaye uyala zonke izivamvo, kwakhona, kukuba amava ubomi bentsapho njengomntwana. Kuphela apha le nto kubalulekile ukuthetha malunga nesifo kunye malunga umzekelo ezimbi umntu uthatha nentsapho yakhe, isicelo yona wena ephawulekayo nezinye yakho.