Makhe sijonge kwincwadi yephupha. Ingxabano ephupheni i-harbinger yolonwabo nothando?

Injongo yamaphupha amaninzi angagqulwa lula ngaphandle kokujonga kwincwadi yephupha. Ukuxabana nomntu othandekayo kuthetha ukuba ngokwenene uya kuba sondele ngakumbi. Ngendlela, ukuba ukholelwa ukutolika kwabantu, izimo ezingathandekiyo ephupheni, ebomini zibhekisa ngokuthe ngqo. Ukubona othandekayo ufile kuthetha ukuba uya kuhlala ixesha elide kakhulu. Le yinto elula, kodwa eyona nto ichanekileyo yamaphupha.

Naliphi iphupha elinombala obalaseleyo wombala lithatha ulwazi oluthile olubaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Ukungaziboni, akunjalo, kodwa uhlalutyo akufanele lusekelwe kwincwadi yokuphupha. Ingxabano ephupheni inokuthetha ukuba ulwalamano lwakho nomthandayo luye lwayeka ukuba kwenzeke. Sinokuyifumana njani intsingiselo yokulala ngaphandle kokuthembela kwimbono yomntu okanye ukutolika kwencwadi?

Ukuze uqonde intsingiselo yokwenene yephupha, iimvakalelo zakho zakho kwizinto ozibonayo zibaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa nangona uvuka ngokuxhalaba, oku akuthethi ukuba iphupha lithembisa ingxaki. Okukhethwa kwindlela enjengeyo ndlela ubuchopho bukukhuthaza ukuba ungagqithiseli uphawu olunikezwayo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukulala akudingi uhlalutyo olunzima, ngokwaneleyo ukukhokelwa ngokuqikelela. Kodwa amaphupha, anentsingiselo ayinakukuqonda ngokukhawuleza, kwenzeka ngokuthe rhoqo. Kule meko, kuya kufuneka uzame ukuqonda intsingiselo yobuthongo.

Kakade ke, akukho mqondiso omnye okanye imeko ethile idinga ukutolika, kodwa uluhlu oluhlangeneyo. Nangona umbala kumaphupha anjalo kubalulekile. Ngokomzekelo, i-predominance ebomvu enobudlova ibonisa umsindo okanye ukucaphuka. Nangona kunjalo, kwimeko enjalo ukuchazwa ngumntu ngamnye. Mhlawumbi, ngokwakho, ubona umbala obomvu njengomqondiso wobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nentanda yakho. Kubalulekile ukuhlalutya kwakhona ukuvakalelwa kwiphupha. Yintoni ozive ngayo ngexesha lohlazo? Mhlawumbi kwakungekho umsindo ongalawulwayo okanye ufuna ukufezekisa into oyifunayo? Emva kokuhlalutya iphupha "ngamatye", uya kuqonda oko kuthetha ntoni kuwe. Abo banomdla kakhulu kwi-psychoanalysis yamaphupha, iingcali zincoma ukugcina idayari nokufaka kuyo imicimbi yexesha lomhla kuphela, kodwa namava ebusuku.

Masibuyele kwisifundo soluqwalasela. Yintoni engayithetha ingxabano ephupheni?
Oku kukuchazwa kwincwadi eninzi ephuphayo. Ingxabano ephupheni kuthetha intsingiselo kunye nokulwa. Ezinye izikhuselo, oza kuzijonga ephupheni, zithetha ukudumala emsebenzini wakho. Siza kuthetha ngokukhawuleza, umbhali wale ncwadi uyazi kakuhle kwaye uyonwaba ukuthembela kwabafundi. Ngako oko, asiyi kubuza ukuchaneka kokutolika, kodwa ngomzekelo wabo siya kuzama ukuqonda ukuba loo maphupha agqitywa njani.

Ukuba imeko iyatshisa, iingxaki zivuthiwe kwaye ukuqhuma kukuphelile , ubuchopho buqilile ebusuku nobusuku. Akumangalisi ukuba imeko ephoxekayo emsebenzini okanye ekhayeni igalela kwiindawo zokuzilalisa. Kule meko, iphupha elifanelekileyo. Ingxabano ephupheni kuthetha ubunzima obubudlelwaneni okanye ingxaki emsebenzini. Kodwa kulo mzekelo, ukulala akusiyo imbangela, kodwa igalelo. Ngokubanzi, awukwazi ukubiza loo maphupha amaphupho. Kuwe, baqaphele.

Oku kukuchazwa "Incwadi yamaphupha yanamhlanje" isinikeza - ukuxabana kwiphupha kubonisa inhlanhla. Incazelo engqiqo ayiyiboleki, kodwa, uyabona, ukutolika kuyamnandi.

Ngendlela, le ncwadi yephupha yinto ebulumko kunazo zonke. Kukho izibikezelo ezimbi kuzo. Ukongezelela, ukutolika kwakhe kufanelwe ukuqonda kunye nendlela yobomi bendoda yanamhlanje.

Ingcaciso engamkelekanga yincwadi yephupho laseFransi. Ingxabano nomlingane wakho othandekayo yiindaba ezilungileyo.

U-Sonnick Hosse kwaye uphikisa ukuba ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe kuthetha umtshato ovuyayo, kwaye ukuxabana nomntu ongaziwayo kukukhuthaza uthando.

Ukuthembela okanye ukungathembeli iincwadi zephupha ngumcimbi wabantu bonke, kodwa kunzima ukucinga. Ukuba intsingiselo yephupha "yokuxabana nabazali" inokubaluleka okufanayo kumntu omdala kunye nentsha. Kuyafana okufanayo malunga namaphupha ophikisana ngayo neqabane lakho okanye umthandi. Mhlawumbi unenkxalabo malunga nayiphi na imeko, kwaye i-subconscious igxininisa ukuba ixesha lokusombulula ingxaki.