Le into umbandela ungquzulwano: inkcazelo, imizekelo

Sonke sihlala ekuhlaleni kunye nesahlulo kunye nenani elikhulu labantu. Hayi njalo le unxibelelwano simnandi kunene. Lidla abantu kungquzulwano, ukuzama yokuzilungiselela uluvo lwabo okanye ukufumana ukuba yintoni abafuna. Mhlawumbi ngenxa nto ayimangalisi, kodwa ungquzulwano zinganikezelwa njenge inkqubo ecacileyo structured. Psychology byi ingqalelo enkulu ukufunda yayo. Oku isayensi kuthiwa impixano ulawulo, wafundisa aphakamileyo emfundo amaziko, kwakunye okhethekileyo masifundisane.

Ingxabano: definition kunye nentsingiselo

Iingcali zengqondo kunye psychotherapists conflictology ingqalelo esinye sezifundo yenzululwazi ibalulekileyo. Yena ukufunda imeko yengxaki evela kumacala onke - kuyanceda ukuchonga into umxholo impixano, ifundisa ukuba kusilawula kunye entanjeni. Namhlanje, olo lwazi kunokuba luncedo kakhulu hayi kuphela iingcali kodwa abantu abaqhelekileyo.

Amava abonisa ukuba abantu bakubo iziseko impixano ulawulo, kakhulu ukuzonwabisa iintlobano kwaye ngokukhawuleza elihambayo phezulu kwikhondo leri. Sicinga ukuba kakhulu ingxoxo obalulekileyo ukuze bachithe ixesha labo ngokuphonononga kakuhle ngquzulwano eluntwini.

Impixano - ndaba Conflict

Amaninzi ingxabano ukuqonda inkqubo, ukupheliswa apho kukuphela yengxabano. Kodwa ngaphaya koko, iye isakhiwo yayo, ukunyulwa komntu akuxhomekekanga ekuzithandeleni kwiimeko kunye ubungakanani ngquzulwano. Yaye isibakala umdla ukuba akakwazi khona amacandelo ngesakhiwo ngaphandle meko ngokwayo. It is a ixabiso zombini yinxalenye kwembambano kunye "amafutha" yayo, ngaphandle apho imeko uyacima yaye ulahlekelwa intsingiselo yalo.

Maxa wambi endaweni elithi "ungquzulwano" ikwindawo yebinzana kusetyenziswa "imeko ungquzulwano". Ezi amaxabiso sekusondele, kodwa hayi ncam. Ewe, baye ngokupheleleyo isakhiwo esifanayo. Kodwa ngquzulwano nje inxalenye ungquzulwano - isamente ebonisa zonke wakha isakhiwo kwembambano xa iyonke.

Ulwakhiwo: into, ngokuxhomekeke kunye namaqela ukuba ningavisisani

Ekubeni sele ziye zafumanisa ukuba ungquzulwano unalo isakhiwo ecacileyo, sinokugqiba ukuba iSADC uhlalutyo. Loo Uhlalutyo kunceda ukuphelisa ungquzulwano ngokubazisa onke amacandelo zesakhiwo ukumisela iimfuno zabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kule meko. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukucacisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo kunye neemeko apho ungquzulwano kwenzeka ngqo.

Ngokwawo, ubume ngquzulwano ilula:

• into isihloko ungquzulwano;
• nxaxheba bayo;
• imeko apho imeko iyakhula.

Enyanisweni, lula kwabonakala lobume ungquzulwano Elizifihla imigibe ezininzi. Ngoko sinikela ibattery zonke izinto ngokweenkcukacha kwaye ngokweenkcukacha.

Lo mxholo ungquzulwano

Ufundo noshowo akunakwenzeka nkqo ngaphandle uhlalutyo oluneenkcukacha zonke iinxalenye zayo. Ukumisela isihloko impi iingcali baze baba kakhulu nzima. Ngakumbi sonke Impixano esahlula izinto kunye neenjongo impixano, kodwa ukwenza oko kuyimfuneko. Kungenjalo, ukusombulula le meko, uze ufumanise ukuba iimfuno zabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba baya kuba kwakungenzeki kwaphela. Ngapha koko, lo mbandela, abathathi-nxaxheba kwembambano kunye into sele intsebenziswano rhoqo kwaye inxulumene kakhulu omnye komnye.

Phantsi ndaba kwembambano samkelwe ukuqonda umahluko ukuphikisana phakathi kwamaqela akwingxabano zanikezelwa ngokwendlela mbutho okanye ngengqondo ingxaki. Ngaphezu koko, onke amaqela ukuba impi nomxholo wayo yahluke ngokupheleleyo, loo nto kuthintela amaqela kulwa ekufezekisweni iinjongo zabo. Isifundo ungquzulwano inokuba amaxabiso izinto ezahlukeneyo, iinkolelo zonqulo, ubume ekuhlaleni kunye neminye imiba. Kufuneka Makukhunjulwe ukuba nasiphi na isifundo ngaphandle zaphuma nje akunakwenzeka, kuya kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo nesakhiwo ungquzulwano. Sinokuthi le ntswela leyo umnyele le meko. Ukuphelisa le ukuphikisana kwakhokelela ukuphawula umahluko ukuya kwinqanaba zero uchuku.

Amaninzi, isihloko ungquzulwano lufihlwe ubunzulu isakhiwo, kunzima ukumisela kwangoko. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ubude ingxabano umiselwa ukuba isifundo yalo ihlala lifihlakele. Kubangel 'umdla ukwazi ukuba sifundo - kuba lixabiso mobile. In the ixesha elide kwiimeko zongquzulwano ukuphikisana kufuneka iipropati zokuphuhlisa awo ethile. De imbambano yayo ukugqitywa uhamba kwizigaba eziliqela yokubola ukugcwala, nto leyo ibonisa ezinye kuphikisana xenga.

UMZEKELO ingxabano into

Abo bafumana ukuqonda kunzima yintoni eza kuxutyushwa ungquzulwano, umzekelo kuya kukunceda ukuba sihlolisise imeko yongquzulwano. amadoda Masithi ababini kukhuphisana amantombazana ingqalelo. Omnye ufuna ukuba abe naye, kodwa omnye nje ukulungele ukuba ayinike kumdlali welinye icala. Akanqweneli zombini guys lingumxholo ungquzulwano. Ngoxa ibandakanya into enye, kodwa umahluko phakathi kwabo izicacele.

Omnye umzekelo imeko yezinto kunye nokuqaliswa weshedyuli enkulu eziqinisekisayo iiyure zomsebenzi landa. Esi sihloko kuxoxwa kuloo ntlanganiso, kwaye unxibelelwano kuxhaphaka ajike abe impikiswano olenyayo. Kulo mzekelo, into impi abachasi inkuthazo kunye ezintsha abavikeli. Ngaphezu koko, ngalinye inxaxheba kwimpixano, kunokuba ngokupheleleyo ezahlukeneyo.

Yintoni into le ngxabano?

Le yinto kubizwa ngokuba imeko yongquzulwano kungenxa yokuba oko kwenzeke oko. Kwezinye iimeko, kucacile kwaye akafuni senze ixesha zichaziwe, ngoxa abanye bonisa ukuba kube nzima ngaphezu kwento kunye lingumxholo ungquzulwano.

Isizathu sokuba ungquzulwano (okanye into) ingaba ngokomoya, eziphathekayo okanye ixabiso lwentlalo. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kuvela ingxabano ukusuka umnqweno ilifa into yedwa - yena umi ekudibaneni kwe iminqweno yabo bonke abachaphazelekayo. Ngokumangalisayo, iinketho lokwakha imeko impikiswano kakhulu lukhulu. Abaninzi kubo akhiwa xa elinye iqela ukulungele ukwabelana into yokuphelisa le meko, kodwa ezinye omelana kwaye unyanzelisa-hluleki into. Ukusombulula le ngxaki ehlobo luni kunzima.

Iintlobo ukungavumelani izinto

Ekusondeleni uhlalutyo impixano, asifanele silibale ukuba izinto ukuze kwahluka enye kwenye nje kuphela isakhiwo, kodwa ngokohlobo okanye uhlobo. Ezi zilandelayo zezona zixhaphakileyo ichwetheza iinkcazelo izincedisi yinto ungquzulwano:

• ukukhohlisa;
• oyinyaniso;
• amanga;
• umhla;
• kunye t ebhekiswe. d.

Akukho mfuneko yokuba ahlale kwifom ngasinye ngokwahlukeneyo. Yanele ukwazi ukuba inkcazelo uhlobo injongosenzi kwezinye iimeko iba ixabiso ebhudla kwintshayelelo imbambano kwinqanaba lokugqibela.

Imizekelo nokukhethwa izinto kunye izinto ungquzulwano

Khumbula ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuze woyise loo meko elanamhlanje intloko kunye yenjongosenzi ungquzulwano. Umzekelo imeko yongquzulwano a, enikwe kweli nqaku liza kukunceda ufunde lokuhlela kwaye kubabela elo amacandelo noshowo njani na loo ngxaki. Masithi abantwana ababini yesanti ekulweni phezu yokudlala washiya yesithathu. Omnye ufuna ukudlala zikuye yesanti, kunye nezinye - ukuthatha ekhaya. Apha into ayahlukahlukenanga kwembambano ivela yokudlala, nakubeni oko akakulandeli nayiphi na nxaxheba kule meko. Kodwa injongo abantwana abangamaxhoba ungquzulwano.

Lidla la magama mabini badidekile-nye, nto leyo ethintela ingxaki. Ukukhetha into engalunganga, kunokwenzeka ukuba iminyaka emininzi ukuphulukana ithuba ukoyisa ungquzulwano uthabathe umendo nokuqondana.

Umahluko phakathi kwento kunye into

Ukuze ilifa izakhono zokusombulula iimeko zongquzulwano, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba into kwembambano kunye injongo yayo inani lweeyantlukwano. Bangakwazi ingashwankathelwa ngale ndlela ilandelayo:

1. Resolution ingxaki kunokwenzeka kuphela nokuphelisa Iwawo. Injongo ungquzulwano aluchaphazeli ukupheliswa le meko. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukususwa ingathatha ngaxeshanye ndawo, kodwa siya kuqwalaselwa kuphendule kweembambano ayisekho sifundo. Umzekelo, nengxabano malunga ibhaso ayizange ibuye kwiqela nasemva kokuba abelwa. Kule meko ethile, ipremiyamu ixhomekeke, yaye umnqweno ayifihle - ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko ungquzulwano a.
2. Isifundo ungquzulwano kunokuba yinto yokwenene kuphela, ekubeni izinto ezingangqinelaniyo kunye nobunzima zibonakaliswa ngezenzo ezithile. Nangona into unokuba iintlobo ezininzi yaye ngokufuthi nolulahlekisayo.
3. Injongo ungquzulwano zinokufihlwa ixesha elide, kodwa ndaba soloko ezithile kwaye ichaziwe. Ngokomzekelo, le meko sifanelekile kakuhle kumatyala zabantwana, ezinxulumene yenjongosenzi ungquzulwano. Babedla abaqondi abazali babo yaye kubonakala ukuba kubi. Kodwa nantsi yimbonakaliso yalo mntwana ingqumbo umbandela imbambano, kwaye ezi mpawu abazali basoloko isaziso nokuqonda.

Ndingathanda ukuba bathi xesha lokuqala kunzima kakhulu ukuba bangene umahluko phakathi umxholo kunye yenjongosenzi ungquzulwano. Ngoko ke, ukuba awunako ukuyenza loo nto, ungakhathazeki - ngokuhamba kwexesha ubume kwiimeko ngxaki iza kucaca kakuhle kakhulu.

abantu ebangwayo

Nayiphi na imbambano akunakwenzeka ngaphandle nxaxheba. Ngaphezu koko, amaqela ibe ngakumbi, inani ubuncinane nxaxheba - ezimbini. Kananjalo ngokuba undoqo ungquzulwano, kwisakhiwo esinjalo, ukulahlekelwa omnye abathathi-nxaxheba baya ngokuzenzekelayo ukuphelisa le meko.

Abathathi umahluko kuba ngabantu, amaqela kunye nemibutho, ii-arhente zikarhulumente, kunye noorhulumente yonke. Ubume ungquzulwano osemthethweni ngobume amalungu ayo akatshintshi. Ungquzulwano uwahlule ngokwemibandela ngokwamaqela amakhulu:

1. Amaqela luphambili ungquzulwano, okanye iiarhente

Izifundo mpi alwayo amaqela uzenzele asebenzayo amanyathelo nenye. Phambi amabini amalungu yesithathu elandela inkangeleko yazo zanyamalala aluchaphazeli isiphumo ungquzulwano.

Ukuze zokusombulula ngokukhawuleza ingxaki, kuyimfuneko ukuchonga lwabasunguli meko. Ngaphezu koko, umqalisi sinokuba umbala akhabayo kunye navumelanayo, lungenasiphumo ngenkqubo, kodwa luphawu ngokucacileyo icala.

2. Amaqela enkxaso

Kwinkalo yesifundo nganye ixabisa iqela elithile yenkxaso. Oku kusenokuquka abantu kunye nemibutho okanye angamelwa ezinawo ezithile zentlalo. Iqela inkxaso kunokuba yingxenye ngqo kwimeko ungquzulwano kwaye nempembelelo ngayo. maqela nawo ubume inkxaso siyavumelana nayiphi nomlomo.

3. Okunye nxaxheba

Uluhlu lwaba bantu kumba. nxaxheba nganye inegalelo kuphuhliso imbambano. Umzekelo, kukho abaququzeleli imeko yongquzulwano le, sihlelwe ukuqala nokuphuhlisa. Ziphazamisa naye ixesha nexesha kwaye musa ukutshintsha intsalela imikhosi yotshaba.

Phantse onke amalungu eli qela musani kuba nempembelelo emandla ngquzulwano. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba imeko kwembambano ikakhulu ixhomekeke elikwinqanaba nxaxheba yayo engundoqo. Okwangoku, ukuba zimelwe amaqela amathathu.

Izintlu kwizifundo kwembambano

Ukuhlelwa kumaBakala wangena ngokobunjani amandla sifundo. Songqamano ithathwa isikhundla yokuqala, kwaye inamandla - wesithathu. Loo phawu mandla ichaza imida kwembambano kunye njengokubhala kwalo. Ngoko ke:

1. uluhlu lokuqala

Ezi zifundo thaca ngabantu. ngxabano yabo kaninzi umlinganiswa nabanye abantu. Njengoko kwiimpikiswano wasebenzisa amandla ngokusekelwe yokuzikhuthaza. ungquzulwano Ezo emfutshane kodwa libizwe.

2. I besigaba sesibini

Kulo mzekelo, amaqela ungquzulwano amaqela asekuhlaleni okanye imibutho. Ngamanye amaxesha imidla iqela ungumntu yabucala, kodwa ukushukunyiswa nomdla wabahlali xa bebonke. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, inkcaso ingathatha ixesha elide, kwaye ukuphikisana kule ngxoxo izimali amandla ka iqela elikhulu labantu ukuxhasa ingcamango okanye ukufuna injongo efanayo.

3. Rank Third

Izifundo ingxabano imibutho yasekuhlaleni. Kwaye owayebalasele amanyathelo kunye kulungile umdla nadgruppovoy. Amandla kunye nezibonelelo amaqela enjalo ungquzulwano ziyahlaziywa rhoqo, singatsho ukuba nanto.

I ungathanda ukucacisa ukuba kwizintlu azimanga ndawonye. Kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo imeko yengxaki, izifundo unokuba gaba ngokupheleleyo.

ingxabano intsingiselo

Musa ukuthatha ungquzulwano kuphela icala. Uye a lot of pluses. Zengqondo bakholelwa iingxabano yokukhawulezisa ekuphuhliseni uluntu. Umzekelo, nayiphi na ingxaki leyo yaphuhliswa kwimpikiswano, kukhokelela ukususwa ukugogeka eluntwini. Ukongeza, yona ikuvumela ukuba ukuvavanya nayiphi na imeko kwaye isigqibo ukulingana kwamandla kwiqela elithile zentlalo okanye kwiindawo zokuhlala ezahlukeneyo.

Ukuqonda isakhiwo impi kude yonke into. Kodwa abo unethamsanqa elaneleyo ukuba ilifa ezi ulwazi luncedo, Bavakalelwa bazithembe ebomini bonwaba ngakumbi. Ngapha koko, akukho iimeko unsolvable kubo.