Kutheni umyeni enomsindo? Kuthekani ukuba umyeni wam unomsindo kwaye ecaphukisa?

Impikiswano yomzi, mhlawumbi, ayidlulanga nayiphi na imitshato. Ixesha lokuyeka ubudlelwane kuthathwa njengento eqhelekileyo kwaye alufunanga ukungenelela kweengcali. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba umyeni uhlala ehlutha kuye? Indlela yokunciphisa nokunciphisa umonakalo onokwenzeka? Indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle xa iqabane licasula kwaye lidala iimvakalelo ezimbi? Ingcaciso echazwe kwinqaku iya kunceda ukuphendula imibuzo.

Kutheni umyeni enomsindo: izizathu eziphambili

Kukho izinto ezininzi ezichaphazela isimo sengqondo somfazi. Ukongeza kwimiba yomzimba eyenza imvelaphi yeemvakalelo ihlale ingaqiniseki (ukukhulelwa komyeni, isifo se-postmenstrual syndrome, ukukhulelwa kunye nexesha lokuhamba emva), zikho ezinye izizathu ezibangela ukuphuhliswa kokungabi namdla kumlingane. Umzekelo:

• Izikhalazo ezindala.
• Ukungabikho kwengqalelo kumyeni wakhe.
• Ukunganeliseki ngokwesondo.
• Ukuzithemba.
• Ukuthungulwa kwemakhaya (umthwalo womsebenzi ekhaya, ukungabi namali, amatyala, njl.).
• Ukungakwazi komlingani ukuphulaphula izimvo kunye nezifiso zomlingane.

Olu ludweliso oluthile lwezinto ezibangela ukuba umfazi angaphili. Ingxaki yokuqala, eyenziwa ngumlingane, inokubangela ukungathandwa ngumthandi wakhe. Amantombazana amaninzi athi athukuthelelwe yindoda, okokuqala ngxaki ibhekene nengxaki enjalo.

Kutheni kutheni umthandi enokubangela ukucaphuka?

Sonke singabantu ngabanye, wonke umntu wakhuliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukhangele eli hlabathi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngenxa yokungahambelani kwemibono kunye nexabiso, umfazi angamthandi umyeni wakhe. Kuthekani ukuba umyeni wam unomsindo kwaye ecaphukisa? Zama ukuyiqonda. Ngokomzekelo, kwintsapho yakhe kwakungekho isiko ukubonisa ubuninzi obukhulu, kwaye ukususela ebuntwaneni wathatha ukuziphatha okunjalo ngokuqhelekileyo. Ngoku, ekubeni ngumyeni, uziphatha ngendlela efanayo noyise, ebala ukuba uyakhula kwiimeko ezifana naye. Kodwa ukungabikho kokuthintana nomzimba kubangelwa ukungaqondi, kwaye uqala ukucaphuka kunokuba uthethe naye. Hug iqabane lakho, mxelele ukuba uyamthanda kangakanani. Yenza oku kaninzi kangangoko, kwaye uya kulusebenzisa. Khumbula: ngokuziguqula, utshintshe isimo sengqondo somyeni kuwe.

Ngubani omele uxanduva?

Akukona mfuneko ukuba umntu ojongene nokunyanzeliswa kufuneka abe yicala. Abafazi kaninzi abakwaziyo ukugqiba oko bafunayo kwisiqingatha sabo sesibini, kungenxa yoko bacatshukiswa kwaye abanakufumana ingcamango.

Iingcali zengqondo zivuma ukuba ukuba indoda iyacaphuka, ngokokuqala kufuneka uqikelele. Kubalulekile ukubeka nganye yamabango kwii-shelves kwaye uqonde ukuba yonke into imbi kakhulu kulwalamano okwangoku. Ngaba ufuna ukuyeka ukucasula malunga nangaphandle? Thetha kumntu ongaphakathi, uze ubize isiqingatha sesibini sencoko.

Iingcebiso zeengcali

Kuthekani ukuba indoda yam iyandizonda? Ukuqhuba uqeqesho oluncinci. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuba iimeko ezinjalo zenzeke kangako, unokwenza ngaphandle kwengxoxo elula kunye neqabane lakho.

Ukuze wenze umsebenzi ophucula ubudlelwane kunye nomthandi, kufuneka uthabathe iphepha uze ulihlule kwisiqingatha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi zonke iimpawu ezintle zomlingani wendoda kunye nezenzo zakhe zibhalwa, kwaye kwelinye - ukuphendula kwakho kule ngxaki. Kufuneka uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo, ukuphulaphula intliziyo yakho. Isenzo esisinye sinomoya oqaqambileyo kunye oqinileyo.

Ekupheleni komsebenzi, kufuneka uhlalutye zakho iimpendulo. Kuya kunceda ukuqonda, umyeni uyakuzonda rhoqo okanye kuphela impendulo kwincinci, engayifanelekanga ingqalelo kwiimeko zekhaya.

Xa uhlalutyo lugqityiwe, vula umgca kumgca. Ngoku, isiqingatha sawo sibhekiselele igalelo lakho kulwalamano kunye nantoni yesiqingatha. Qaphela ngokusabela kwakho kwizenzo zomntu othandekayo: mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba utshintshe into yakho kwaye ubeke endaweni yokuhlambalaza (i-scandals, iingxabano) ngokufudumala nokunyamekela?

Ndifanele ndivule nini umnyango?

I-gap ingaba buhlungu kubabini abalingani. Kodwa musa ukwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza uze ushiye, uzinikeze umxheshana wesikhashana. Nangona umyeni enomsindo kwaye ecaphukisa kakhulu, kwaye awukwazi ukujamelana nokungahambi kakuhle, kukho nenye indlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Zama ukuthetha nomntu othandekayo, cela isiluleko kwisizukulwana esikhulileyo - omama, ugogo, oodade. Amava abo anokunceda ukukhusela umtshato.

Nangona kunjalo, xa ukucaphukisa kwakho kulungelelaniswa neziphoso ezinzulu zomlingane, ezifana nokusetyenziswa kotywala, ubukrakra, umoya wokwenyuka nokuzingca, indlela echanekileyo yokusasazeka. Ngokwezibalo, iintsapho apho umntu onobudlova okanye utywala abanokuqhawula umtshato. Ungazami ukubamba iqhinga eliqhekekileyo nelingapheliyo kumyeni, akuyi kunceda. Uza kulahleka ixesha kunye neentsholongwane zakho.

Kutheni umyeni enomsindo ngexesha lokukhulelwa?

Ukulinda umntwana kusekude kwixesha elihle kakhulu lobomi bomfazi. Ngokuchasene namabango amaphephancwadi agqabileyo kunye noluntu lwabatyhini be-intanethi, ukukhulelwa akuyona into enomlingo neyongenangqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba kungekudala umntwana uza kubonakala, inxalenye yakho kunye nentanda yakho, uyashukumisela kwaye aphakamise ezulwini. Kodwa kuzo zonke iinyanga ezili-9 umfazi ubhekene novavanyo olunzima: utshintsho kwimvelaphi ye-hormonal, isethi yobunzima obunzima, umlutha kwinto yokuba ngumama ozayo. Zonke ezi zinto zichaphazela kakhulu isimo somzimba nesengqondo.

Ngeli xesha, ingqalelo yindoda ethandekayo ibaluleke ngakumbi kubhinqa: kufuneka abe kufuphi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Umlingane unyanzelekile ukuba aqonde ukuba, ngenxa yokutshintshwa kwehlabathi, umthandi wakhe unokuba yintliziyo ekhululekile, ecula kwaye ecasulwa. Ngoko ke, nayiphina i-caprice kufuneka iphendule ngobumnene, ivumelane nayo okanye ishiye imbambano.

Yintoni ebangela ukucaphuka komfazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa?

Abanye abafazi baqala ukuziva bengathandeki kumyeni wakhe ngenxa yokuba bayamgxeka ngokungathandabuzekiyo utshintsho olubi olubandakanya ukukhulelwa komntwana. Ziba nobudlova, azivumelani nendoda kunye nazo zonke iindlela ezenzekayo zama ukuphepha ukuthandana (kokubili ngokwenyama nangokomoya). Kwakhona, le nto ibonwa njengehlobo lokukhusela umntwana ongakazalwa. Umfazi okhulelweyo uziva ingozi engabonakaliyo kuyo yonke into kwaye uzama ukukhusela umntwana wakhe kuwo.

Ingaba umyeni wakho uyakunqanda ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye awukwazi ukujongana nayo? Zama ukuphumla ebusweni bakhe, zikhumbuze ukuba unguyise wengane ezayo kwaye akukho nto kwihlabathi ayiyi kukulimaza okanye umntwana. Ungavumeli umhlobo wakho ukuba akuthinte, jonga njengoko isisu sakho sikhula. Ngokuqhelekileyo sichitha ixesha kunye, sihambe, siphumule emoyeni omtsha, siya kuzuza ubuhlobo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubundlobongela buya kuxoxeka, zama ukucinga ubomi ngaphandle komyeni. Ngokomzekelo indlela umntwana ebonakala ngayo ekukhanyeni, kodwa ngaphandle kobawo, njengoko ubuyela kwindlu yokuhlala engenanto, apho kungekho mntu alindele khona. Uziva njani? Iimvakalelo ezibangelwa ezi ngcamango ziya kunceda ukuphepha ingxabano kunye neqabane.

Uxinzelelo lwePostpartum

Isimo esingathandekiyo, esicatshulwa ngumama osemncinci wesithathu, ubizwa ngokuba nguxinzelelo lwe-postpartum. Ukukhathala okuqhubekayo, ukuwela emisebenzini yowesifazane yasekhaya ngendlela yokuhlamba, ukucoca nokupheka kwenza ukuba athukuthelelwe nayiphi na into.

Abafazi abathi banomyeni wabo emva kokubeletha, kaninzi bengaphinde bafumane ngokuzeleyo ukuvela kwintsana, kuba inkqubo yokuzalwa komntwana ithathwa njengesimo esicinezelekileyo. Kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bomntwana, badinga inkxaso nenkxaso engaphezulu kwicala lomlingane. Ukuba umfazi akawuniki, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, unika izidingo ezingaphezulu nangaphezulu kuye, ke oku kubangelwa ama-scandals kunye nokungaqondani kwintsapho. Indoda kufuneka yazi ukuba intanda yakhe isengozini: nanoma yiliphi igama elibi, ukugxekwa kwakhe ixesha elide ligcinwa kwimemori, kwaye ke kunokukhokelela ekuxabaneni.

Indlela yokuzinceda emva kokubeletha ukutshabalalisa inzondo kumyeni wakho?

Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kubamantombazana abaninzi abancinci bubangela ukunyaniseka. Baxhatshaza abafazi babo, baphephe ixesha lokuzibandakanya. Kodwa ungacingi ukuba oku kuya kwenzeka njalo. Phantse iinyanga ezi-2-3 emva kokuzalwa, yonke into iyaqhelekanga, kwaye umnqweno wokuba usondele kumthandi uya kuphinda ufumane intliziyo yakho.

Ukungalungi, ukuvavanywa kumlingane, kuya kudlula xa umisa ngengqondo ukummangalela ngokuzaliseka kwakho ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nelokuba unalo ixesha. Yiba lula, vumela ubaba osanda kuzalwa uchithe ixesha kunye nomntwana, umcele uncedo, wabelane ngeengxaki zakhe kunye nomyeni kwaye ungahambi nawe. Kule ndlela ungayinqoba inkathazo ebuhlotsheni obuhambelana nokubonakala komntwana.

Njani ukuyeka ukucasula?

Ngaba kufuneka ukuba, ukuba umyeni kunye naziphi na izenzo zakhe zivuthayo? Funda ukuphumla. Awudingi ukusela iintaba ze-anti-depressants kunye nezidalwa ezidakisayo, ngokwaneleyo ukuya kwengqondo kwindawo ohlala kuyo kwaye uzinzile. Yenza izinto ezintle ngeempembelelo ezintle, usebenze ngokungaziphathi kakuhle kweqabane lakho ngokungalindelekanga: ummbambe, ubambe kwaye udumise. Oku kuya kwenza ukuba utshintshe ukuze kube ngcono.

Yazi ukuba ingxaki ayikho kumlingane, njengakuwe, ngenxa yokuba ukhethe njengomlingane wokuphila.