Indlela yokuyeka ukukhalaza kubantwana bakho

Ndiyathanda umgca omnye kwincwadi endiyifunde. Kwakukho into enjengokuthi: "Ukuba akuyiyo ingozi ebomini, ukuba akukho mlilo endlwini yakho, okanye kukho enye ingxamiseko, ukuba umntwana wakho usondele ngakumbi kunesiqingatha-kilomitha, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokumemeza kuye ".

Impembelelo kubantwana

Ukukhala kakubi kwaye kuthintela ngqo indlela abantwana abazibona ngayo, into abayicinga ngayo ngobu bomi kunye nendawo yabo kwihlabathi. Kodwa ukumemeza kakubi kungekuphela nje abantwana, kodwa nabazali ngokwabo. Bayakwazi ukunciphisa ukuzithemba kwabazali abaqala ukuba neentloni ngokuziphatha kwabo nokuzisola oko benzayo.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba xa umzali eqala ukumemeza, akakhethi ukuba uthini, njengengxoxo ehlelileyo.

Kutheni abazali bekhwaza?

Ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ukukrokra kubantwana bakho, kufuneka uqale ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyenza ukuba ukhale. Ewe, abantwana baninzi badla, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni uqala ukumemeza, kunokuthetha ngentliziyo.

I-90% yabazali abavakalisa abantwana babo, bafumana okufanayo ebuntwaneni. Inokwenzeka ukuba, bayamthiya xa abazali babo bememeza kubo, kodwa ngoku ke bonke bayazi. Basebenzisa indlela efanayo yokuziphatha nabantwana babo ngexesha loxinzelelo.

Emva koko abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba baya kukwazi ukufumana impendulo kuphela emva kokuba bayeke bayeke ukumemeza. Inyaniso kukuba ngexesha lokukhala umntwana uvakalelwa kakhulu, uya kuzama ukuzikhusela, mhlawumbi aze aqale ukuziphindisela. Ngenxa yokwesaba okanye intukuthelo, unokutshintsha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ngexesha elifutshane kakhulu, kodwa umsindo kunye nokuthotywa akuyi kuhamba, kwaye kungekudala umntwana onjalo uya kuphendula. Umzekelo omhle xa umzali ekhalayo esebenza nabantwana abancinane kakhulu. Kodwa xa bekhulile, abazali bahlangabezana nokungathobeli okukhulu.

Uluhlu lweengxaki

Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba umntu uyazi ukuba uyakhala nje ngenxa yokuba engazi indlela yokuziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kodwa ngelo xesha ayingayisombululi ingxaki, yintoni enye inokuthi ikhona? Ngaba kukho isisombululo?

Kubalulekile ukuba uqeqeshe ukuba uthathe umoya ophefumlelweyo, uze uxelele ngokuzenzekelayo umntwana oziphatha ngayo.

Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ubukela iTV okanye udlala kwikhompyutri endaweni yokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, kuyimfuneko ukuba uthi: "Kumele uyeke ukukhwela uze uqale ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo." Ukuba umntwana ekucela ukuba umthengele enye ithoyiyithi, okuyiyo, ungayifuni, ungathi: "Unokuyeka ukunxusa ngoku ngoku, okanye uthathe ikhefu. Ukhetha ntoni? "Ukuba umntwana uya kukhwaza, mhlawumbi, akayi kukhawuleza ukuba ahlale phantsi. Umzali umele athathe isandla aze amthabise kwindawo eyakhelwe ngaphambili. Umntwana kufuneka achithe apho imizuzu embalwa, kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka. Emva koko, abazali kufuneka bathathe umntwana baze bamxelele oko bakulindele kuye - umzekelo, ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo.

Isixhobo esitsha somzali siya kunceda abazali bazive benokuzithemba ngakumbi, baya kukwazi ukuthelekisa oko bakufundile ebuntwaneni babo kubazali ukuya kumama, benendlela entsha yokuziphatha, kwaye baqonde ukuba ngubani osebenzayo kwaye unceda ekukhutsheni umyalelo.