Indlela yokumbamba intombazana ngokukhawuleza. Izivakalisi zesampula

Mhlawumbi, elowo mntu wafumana umzuzu xa wazibuza esithi: "Ungayilahla njani intombazana?" Akunandaba ukuba abantu babenebudlelwane obusondeleyo okanye intombazana yenzelwe ukuba ithathe amanyathelo amanyathelo. Into ebalulekileyo yindlela yokwenza oko ukuphepha le nto. Siza kuxubusha iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuthi "cha".

Xa kunesidingo sokwenza intombazana?

Enyanisweni, ukuba uyabacacisa ngokubanzi, uninzi njengoko uyithandayo, kodwa ukuba uhambelana nokuhlelwa ngokwemigangatho njengoko kunokwenzeka, ufumana ezimbini iindlela zokukhetha:

• Ubudlelwane bekunjalo, kodwa buphelile;
• Intombazana iyayifuna, kwaye umfana akayi kutshisa ngomnqweno.

Ingxelo echazwe kwiprojekthi ye "Break" iyigqibo. Kulandelwa yinto ethile yobume. Oku kuchaphazela ukukhethwa kwalolu hlobo okanye loo ndlela yempembelelo kwintombazana. Ukwazi umlingiswa wakhe, ukuthambekela, ukuthanda, ukhetho, kulula ukukhetha indlela efanelwe ngayo. Kuzwakala ngathi ukukhangisa, kunye nento enokuyenza, ukuba kunjalo. Ngaba ukhathazeke ngokusombulula intombazana? Emva koko siphendukela kwiindlela.

Izindlela ezinzulu zokuphula ubuhlobo

Okokuqala uluhlu, ke inkcazo:

• Ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo ukukhala;
• Xa ebiza, umfana uthi: "Ndixakekile, biza kamva";
• Ukuxhumana ngokungahambisani nantoni na ngaphandle kokungahambi kakuhle: iihlaya zesini okanye izicatshulwa;
• Ukuqhelana nomhlobo.

Ngoku siza kubonisa intsingiselo yendlela nganye.

Indlela yokuqala iqhutyelwa yi-heroine yencwadi ka-Amelie Notomb iTokyo Bride. Asiyi kuwufanekisa ngomzekelo wencwadana, ukwenzela ukuba singabonakali abafundi bexesha elizayo ngokuzonwabisa. Ngendlela, abafana baya kuzuza kule ncwadi nabo, baya kukwazi ukufunda into enomdla malunga neengqondo zentombi ekhululwe. Ngoko, indlela. Into eyona nto kukuba umntu uyeka ukuzibiza, ngelixa elula ukuphendula iifowuni zecala. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, indlela enye yokuhamba izothuthuka.

Indlela yesibini i-coarser encinci kuneyokuqala, kodwa iyafana ukuba uthelekisa umyalezo. Imiyalezo ngenye icala: "Andiyidingi".

Ukunxibelelana ngokungathathi hlangothi kusemhlabeni jikelele: kukwafanelekile nakwiimeko xa kuyimfuneko ukukhusela ubudlelwane obungathandekiyo, kunye neemeko xa kukho imfuneko ukukhupha amabali asele aphelile. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela ibandakanya ibinzana: "Masibe ngabahlobo" okanye "Masibe ngabahlobo". Amantombazana ayazi kakuhle izinto ezinjalo, aziqhelanisa ngempumelelo.

Kunokwenzeka ukuphikisana ngokunciphisa indlela "yokuziqhelana nomhlobo", kodwa ngamanye amaxesha isebenza. Ngokomzekelo, intombazana ithathwa ngumfana, kodwa akakwazi ukuphindaphinda, kodwa unomhlobo onesizungu. Kutheni ungabonakalisi ezi zibini, ukuba umntu uzibuze yena: "Indlela yokugubungela intombazana?" Kule meko, zonke iindlela zilungile.

Izindlela "ezidityanisiweyo"

Kubomi bomntu kukho imikhosi enokuba nzima ukuyiphikisa, akunakwenzeka. Isibheno kubo siyacaphukisa, kodwa akuninzi, ngenxa yokuba ziyabulala. Ngoko, eli binzana lilandelayo liza kunceda umntu ngaphandle:

• "Andiyithandi";
• "Andiyithandi";
• "Ndiyamthanda omnye."

Ngomnqweno, akukho nto enokuyenza, ngoko amakhadi alala phantsi. Ngokuqinisekileyo unako ukucaphukisa eso sigwebo ngokuphathelele kumntu wakho, kodwa oku akuvelanga. La mabinzana anemilinganiselo emihle. Ngovelwano (nangakumbi nangothando), akukho nto enokuyenza, awukwazi ukunyanzelisa ukuthanda. Ngokubanzi, abanye baye bazama kwaye bazama, kodwa lo msebenzi awuthembisi umphumo omuhle. Ngoko kukho iimpendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokulahla intombazana, ezi binzana ziyaziwa ngabantu bonke, zisebenzisa.

Ukuxhatshazwa

Ukuba nantoni na evela ngasentla ayizange incede, ngoko kwikhosi "iinqwelo ezinzima". Kubizwa ngokuba kunjalo ngenxa yokuba le nkulumo iyakwazi ukunika intombazana ezininzi ezininzi. Cinga ngamagama:

• "Awufanelanga!"
• "Andifuni!"
• "Awunakuthandwa!"

Kutheni ukuze uthethe ngokunyanisekileyo? Ngenxa yokuba le ndoda ihamba ngokuthe ngqo kumntu wentombazana kwaye "yamncoma ngokuncoma." Thelekisa amabini amabini: "Andiyithandi" kwaye "andikufuni". Imfesane - imfundo iyingcipheko kwaye ixhomeke kwiimeko kunye neengcamango. Xa umntu uxelelwa ukuba: "Asithandi!", Ucinga: "Kwenzeka, bonke abantu bahluke." Xa indoda ithi ayifuni umfazi, kuthetha ukuba unesiphako esithile esingazivumeli ukuba sifuneke. Eminye ibinzana kunye nokuhlalutya abafuni, indlela ababi ngayo kwaye ababi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyayiqonda, iibinzana ezichazweyo zihluke kakhulu kwizinto ezisisiseko, kodwa isibheno ekukhangekeni komntu ukuthanda umntu kukunyaniseka. Nangona bathi: "Andikuthandi" - ayibuhlungu kakhulu. Simele sikhumbule: igama likhulu ngamandla. Kufuneka umphathe ngenyameko kwaye ukhululeke iimvakalelo zabanye xa kunokwenzeka.

Uhlobo lwamantombazana kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokusinda

Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wendlela yentombazana efanelekileyo ye-otshit, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ngubani na lowo usebenzisana naye. Kukho iintlobo ezintathu zeentombi:

• Smart;
• Akunangqondo kakhulu;
• I sidenge.

Abantu abane-Smart bakhetha ukuxelelwa kanye ngoko malunga namathuba. Emva kwayo yonke into, njengoko uHank Moody wathi: "Umfazi kwiminyaka emihlanu emva kokuthandana uyazi into ayifunayo kumntu." Ndikholelwe, nendoda ibali elifanayo. Kule meko, ungasebenzisa iindlela "zokukhawuleza,", ngokuchasene noko, ziya kuba zithembekileyo kwaye zilula, akukho mntu uya kubandezeleka ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo.

Yaye ukuba udibana neembini eziza kuba ngabahlobo bokuqala, waba ziimthandane, ngoko akusiyo yokuba babeziva bexesha elide, kodwa okokuba, njengoLaroshfuko uthe: "Omnye uyamthanda, omnye uvumela ukuba athande." Olu hlobo lolwalamano lufana nomdlalo we poker, umgaqo wabo oyintloko - ngubani oya kutshintsha iingqondo zawo, uya kunqoba. Okanye mhlawumbi kulula: bafuna nje aba bantu kwaye abazange bafumane mntu, kodwa umhlobo wayehlala ekhona. Njengomthetho, olu luhlobo oluqinileyo.

Ngomntu osisigxina kunzima. Iindlela zokunciphisa eziphakathi zisebenza kubo. Nangona iqondo lobugqatha lihluke, ngoko awukwazi ukulahla "iinqwelo ezinzima". Kodwa siya kukholelwa kwizinto ezilungileyo.

Kodwa kukho intombazana enqwenela uthando, kwaye loo mnqweno uyabonakalisa amehlo abo, okanye abanako ukuphazamiseka kwamathuba okuqonda ukuba umntu akayena iqhawe leveli. Nabo, naziphi na iindlela zilungile, ngaphandle koko unokuhlawula ububele bakho bonke ubomi bakho. Kukho amatyala awaziwayo.

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Ewe, ndifuna ukuba ngumntu onobubele nonomnene, kwaye kunqweneleka ukuba yonke into icace ukususela okokuqala. Kodwa ubomi akusiyo inkcazo, buhlungu. Uthando, njengobomi, luhluke. Wonke umntu unokuyichaza ibinzana elidumiweyo kwisihloko ngendlela yaso, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ubulumko obukuyo kubalulekile: imvakalelo ayikho into eqinisekisiwe, kodwa unokuwela phantsi kweli nqanaba nganoma naliphi ixesha. Ngako oko, akunakuqonda ukuzibuza: "Indlela yokuyeka intombazana eyakuthandayo?" Ukuhlukanisa inxalenye yeso sifundo esisifundiswayo. Khawucinge ngomntu ongazi indlela yokuyeka. Ulwahlulo, ngaphezu kweentlungu, ngamava abalulekileyo.