Yintoni edlala ngothando?

Kwili hlabathi lanamhlanje, zonke iintombazana zifuna ukwazi ukuba udlala ngantoni, kuba ufuna ukuyiqonda ngokugqibeleleyo. Oku kunokobugcisa obukhoyo kumaxesha amandulo. Ukudlala ngothando kubaluleke kakhulu kwinqanaba lomfazi, ukuvumela ukunyenga umntu.

Okwangoku, kukho ukutolika okuninzi okuchaza ukuthandana. Ininzi yabo iguqulela ngombono omnye, omelela le ngcamango, njengendlela yokukhohlisa. Isethi esimiselweyo bonke abasetyhini kubandakanya ukumomotheka, ukukhangela, impawu. Njengomthetho, indoda ifuna ukubona kwintombazana isidalwa esibuthakathaka nesithenda, ekufuneka siyikhusele kwaye siyikhusele ngazo zonke iindlela. Ngelo xesha, akukho mntu udinga iingxaki zabanye abantu, ngoko umgaqo owona mgangatho omhle, umomotheka kunye nokuhleka okumnandi. Ezi zinto ezincinci zibonakala zingabalulekanga kubomi obuhlukile, ngoko kufuneka zihlawule ingqalelo.

Ngoku phantse kuwo onke amabhokisi okanye kwi-Intanethi ungayifumana iincwadi ezichaza ngokucacileyo okokudlala ngothando. Ukuqhelana nabalobi abathandayo oya kuba luncedo kumfazi oye wagqiba ngokugqibeleleyo ukuba angayi kuqonda kuphela izinto ezisemgangathweni zobugcisa bokutsala amadoda, kodwa nokuqonda indlela yokudlala ngokufanelekileyo. Emva kokufunda iziphakamiso, ungaqala ukuziqhelanisa. Okokuqala, kufuneka ukhethe into ethile. Kungcono ukuba unabo bahlobo abaqhelekileyo, kuba emva kokubuza malunga nokukhetha kwakhe kunye nokukhetha, kulula kakhulu ukuba inomdla kumntu.

Ukuba ungowesigaba sabasetyhini abanomdla kwindlela yokufunda ukudlala imidlalo yothando, kufuneka ukhumbule imithetho emihlanu eyintloko. Okokuqala, akukho mzekelo unokubonisa ngokucacileyo umdla wabo, ungammangaleli ummeli wabo wesini esahlukileyo. Ukudlala ngothando kumdla kumlingane, mhlawumbi ngegama okanye into engavumelekanga, kwaye ke, ukugcina intliziyo, ukunyathela. Emva koko, indoda ingumzingeli, makacinge ukuba ukhethe yena kwaye wanqoba. Okwesibini, musa ukugqithisa ngokungenasiphelo kwingxoxo uze uzame ukubonisa ukuphakama kwabo phezu kwento yokuzama, kuba abafazi abahlakaniphile kakhulu kwiimeko ezininzi bayesaba kwaye baphephe.

Okwesithathu, khumbula ukuba igama lokugqibela kufuneka lihlale lendoda, nangona ucinga ukuba isigqibo sakhe asiyonto okanye ayikho. Unokwazi ukubonisa uluvo lwakho, kodwa ngendlela ephosakeleyo. Njengomthetho wesine, inzuzo enkulu yebhinqa iyinkohliso. Musa ukwenza ngokuthe ngqo, ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ozilumkileyo akathethi okanye afihle into ukuze angamcaphukisi umntu omtsha. Ndiyabulela ngobuqili, unokufumana isipho, ephuphayo malunga nexesha elide, ngelixa umntu uya kuba nethemba ngokupheleleyo ukuba kwenzeke kuye ngokungalindelekanga. Kodwa siyazi ukuba yintoni umcimbi. Ewe, ulawulo lwesihlanu lulula kakhulu: ngomnqweno wokukhawuleza ufunde zonke izinto eziphathekayo zokudlala ngothando kunokufumana ithuba lokuwudlula. Kubalulekile ukuthukuthela, kuba indoda yesini ibangalisa abafazi abavumelana ngokuthe ngqo kunye nabo nabanye. Zonke iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nolungileyo, ukuba zinyanzelisiwe, oko kukuthi, zibonisa ngokulinganayo.

Amantombazana amaninzi ayazi ukuthandana, kwaye uyisebenzise ngobuchule. Nangona kunjalo, abakucabangi ngokupheleleyo ngemiphumo. Ngelishwa, amadoda aphumelelayo kwixesha lethu asetyenzisiwe ukuchitha ixesha ekuthandeni okungafihli, ngoko ke ukuba omnye wabo uchitha ngokuhlwa kunye nawe, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, umnqweno we-intima ulandela. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngeqabane kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akulungele ukulala naye, kunengqiqo ukubeka phambi kwazo zonke iingongoma "kwaye" kwaye uxoxe ngale ngongoma. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, le mithetho iya kuba ngumkhwa, kwaye ukudlala ngothando kuya kuba yindlela yokuphila. Inhlanhla!