I-orientation ye-sex hetero-yindlela ephela eqinisekile?

Amaxesha xa kwilizwe lethu "bekungekho ubulili", sele kudala kungena ekugqibeleni. Namhlanje, wonke umntu ongevila ukhululekile ukuxoxa ngesi sihloko. Ewe, kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwamalungu obulili obufanayo abuyisicatshulwa seKhowudi yoLwaphulo-mthetho, kodwa i-fashion trend. Nangona i-orientation yoxhatshazo ngokwesini ayisabonwa nje kuphela eyamkelekileyo, izazi zeengqondo, izabelo zesini kunye namanye amadoda amakhulu angakhathali ukuphikisana ngale nto. Kule meko, iingxabano ezinamandla zifunyaniswa phakathi kwabaxhasayo kunye nabachasene nothando ngokwesini. Nengcali azikwazi ukuwuqonda lo mbuzo. Asizibeki njongo njengazo zonke. Umsebenzi wethu kuphela ukuluhlu lwamaqiniso awaziwayo.

Ngoko, masiqale ngento ephambili. Uhlobo oluqhelekileyo oluqhelekileyo ngu-hetero. Ukutsalana kwababameli besini esahlukileyo kuhlangene nama-90% ebemi behlabathi. Ubungqingili kunye nabasetyhini bancinci kakhulu (kubonakala ngoko, ukuziphatha kwabo ngokwesondo kuthathwa njengesicatshulwa kwimimiselo).

Ukwazisa ngaye njengommeli wesini esithile kwenzeka kumntwana iminyaka emihlanu. Emva koko, umntu wenza i-self-awareness and awareness of the sexual desire.

Uninzi lwezifo zesini kunye neengqondo zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukuqhelaniswa kwe-hetero okanye i-homo isethwe ebuntwaneni. Ngokombono wabo, impembelelo enkulu kulo mbandela ifuna ukulungisa imfundo yesondo.

Kuyavunywa ukuba abantu abangqingili okanye ama-lesbians akhule kwimindeni engabodwa, apho omnye wabazali engekhoyo. Enyanisweni, akucaci ngokucacileyo apho iziqabane ezivela khona.

Ngokwezinye iinguqulelo-ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kufakwa kwisibeleko somama. Kwaye isisombululo sokusuka kwimimiselo isifo esithathelwanayo. Namhlanje, iingcali zibhekiselele kwimpembelelo yendawo yenkcubeko kunye nenkcubeko ekuphuhliseni ubulili bobutsha. Nangona kunjalo, kubonakala ukuba le nto ibangela ezobupolitika ezixhalabisayo ngaphezu kwezesondo.

Nangona kunjalo, nangona kungabikho naziphi na izithintelo, ukhetho lwezesondo lwabantu abaninzi banamathele emveli. Oku kukugqwesileyo kukuqinisekiswa nguvavanyo oluqhutywe ngabangcali bezengqondo baseMerika.

Ukususela kwiintsapho eziliqela badala uhlobo oluthile lokusebenzisana. Ngokweemeko zehostele, akunakuvunyelwa ukuba angene naluphi na uhlobo lwesini, ukhethe amaqabane ngokucatshulwa kwabo ngokwesondo.

Ixesha elithile kwiimpawu zentlalo "yentsapho" ikhululekile kunye nokutshintshwa rhoqo kwamaqabane kunye neengxoxo zeqela. Kodwa emva kwexesha elowo wonke umntu waphinde waqhekeza kwiibini ezitshatileyo, wahlukana, waza waqalisa ukunyamekela ubudlelwane babo ngaphandle kwezingxowankulu.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuxhomekeka kwamanye amazwe kunye ne-hétéro orientation yindlela yokuphila yendabuko, yendalo. Kodwa akuyimfuneko ukuthetha ukuba le yindlela ephela yokufumana ukukhangwa kwesondo. Kukho okungenani iindlela ezintathu ezenzelwe umzekelo wokuziphatha.

Ngendlela, izazi zengqondo zeCanada zanikela ukunyusa uludwe lwabafundi abancinci kunye nabahamba ngeenqwelo. Ngokombono wabo, oku kufana nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo njengobunini, okanye u-homo.

Ngoku ngoku ncinane malunga nokuba kwenzeka njani ukuphambuka kwimiqathango. Uluntu ngokucacileyo luchaza ngokuvisisana nokuziphatha ngokwesini kunye nabasini ngokwesini. Okumangalisa kukuba, kubaxhasi bamakhosikazi abathandanayo bobulili obufanayo, isimo sengqondo sinyamezela.

Nangona kunjalo, izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba iingcambu zengxaki zinzulu. Ngethuba lokuqala ukujonga ingxaki yobungqingili njengento engqondweni yabantu, uCarl Ulrichs (1825-1895) wagqiba kwelokuba ngubani obenakho ukuxhomekeka kokungaqhelekanga. Njengomntu onomdla, waya kumbandela ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye kwiminyaka embalwa wakhupha iphepha lezesayensi "Ukufunda imfihlelo yothando phakathi kwabantu."

Ngendlela, igama elithi "ulwabelana ngesondo" lisetyenziswe nguye. Abaninzi bexesha lakhe abazange bamxhase umlingane wakhe. Ngokwefestile yeso sihlandlo ekukhokeleni ingxabano kwiincwadi ezipapashwe, uRichard Kraft-Ebing wakhulisa i-opus yakhe, apho wayebiza khona ubungqingili kuphela "isimo esinobuhlungu besimo sengqondo."

Kuyathakazelisa, kodwa namhlanje kukho ubuninzi bexhasi beli qhinga, elicebisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokulungiswa kwengqondo yokuziphatha kakubi xa ukhetha iqabane lesini. Nangona kunjalo, akukho zihlandlo "zokuphilisa ngokumangalisayo" eziye zabonwa ngoku.

Kuo-esotericist kule akhawunti kukho uluvo lwalo. Bakholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane bobulili obufanayo abuvumelani, ngenxa yokuba abanamacandelo amabini (abesilisa nabesifazane). Ukuthetha ngothando phakathi kwamaqabane kulo mzekelo akuvumelekanga.
Nangona kunjalo, ukufundisa, ufundise, ubhekise kwifundiso yenkolo kunye nembono yesininzi kunokubaninzi njengoko ufuna. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba nayiphi na umntu unelungelo lokulahla umzimba wakhe ngokwengqiqo. Isisombululo esifanelekileyo kwisingxaki sinokunyamezela kunye nokunyamezela kwabo ababencinci.