Indlela yokujongana nomfana: iimfihlo zentliziyo

Namhlanje, unxibelelwano olungqalileyo luya kutshintsha ngokuthe ngcembe iintlanganiso kwihlabathi lenene, ngoko akumangalisi ukuba ulwalamano olusondeleyo luyaqala kwiwebhu. Nangona kunjalo, nxamnye nokulula kwalolu hlobo lokuthandana, amantombazana amaninzi ayazibuza ukuba angaphila umntu. Emva koko, ukubhala kumfana oyithandayo naye kunzima, kunye nokufika kuye kwisitalato. Nangona kunjalo, ungaphelelwa lithemba, kule akhawunti kukho iingcebiso ezininzi ezincedo eziya kunceda umdla nakwephi na ilungu lezesondo ezinamandla. Okokuqala, kulungile ukuqala ngento onokuthi ungayisho ekuqaleni kwendibano.

Indlela yokujongana nomfana: kutheni ungaqalisi idilesi

Okokuqala, awukwazi ukubhala amabinzana ajikelezayo kunye namaphethini, afana:

• Njani wena?
• Ndibuhlungu kakhulu.
• Ndiphakamise.
• Sawubona.
• Hayi, mnandi, kufuneka ube nentombi.

Ngokubanzi, kukho ininzi yamagama efanelekileyo ekusebenziseni ubulili obufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uqonde ukuba loo mfana akayi kuba nako ukuphendula izibingelelo ezingenanto. Vumelana, xa ubhala into efana nale, ingcinga ingabandakanyeka: "kwaye ndingathini na oku?". Ngokumalunga namadoda, yonke into isebenza ngokufanayo.

Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza, indlela yokubambisana nomntu ngokubhaliweyo, kufuneka ukhangele ngenyameko kwiprofayili yakhe kwaye uhlole ukubonakala kwephepha lakho.

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Ngaphambi kokuthakazelisa nokulwa nendoda kwendawo, izinto ezibalulekileyo zifanelekile ukwenza:

• Ukufunda ngokucophelela yakhe iprofayili. Ngaphambi kokuba udibanise umfana, kufuneka ufumane zonke izinto azikhethayo uze udibanise ulwazi oluphezulu kwiphepha lakhe. Oku kuya kunceda ufumane intetho efanelekileyo.

• Namela ingqalelo iphepha lakho. Ukuba akukho nkcazelo kwiprofayili, kwaye esikhundleni sezithombe zangempela kuphela izicaphuno eziphawulekayo kunye nezibonakaliso ezintle ziboniswa, isithandwa sinokuthi singabonakali umdla kwintombazana enjalo. Ngoko ke, sisusa ngokukhuselekileyo konke okungeyomfuneko, sichaza iifoto ezintle kwaye zikhangelekile kwaye sibonise ulwazi malunga nathi. Ewe, zonke izinto zokuzilibazisa kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa "zilungele" kwiiparitha zelo mbazana. Ukuba ubona ukuba le ntombazana ebhala kuye nayo iyakuthanda ukukhanya kwezulu, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubonisa umdla kuyo.

Indlela yokuqala incoko

Ngoko, iphepha le "lixhoba" liye lafundiswa, lixesha lokuqalisa ukusebenza okusebenzayo. Ukwazi ukuba yiyiphi imfundo efunyenwe ngumnqweno, uyabhalela kuye: "Ngaba uyazi ukuba uMarina Ivanova, oye wafunda nawe esikolweni esinye? Ndilahlekelwe ngumnxeba wakhe, andinakukufumana. " Ngokubanzi, unokwenza i-excuse.

Ukuba umfana uthanda ibhola, bhala kuye: "Bade badlala njani izolo?". Ewe, ngaphambi kokuba oku ku funeka ufunde ishedyuli yemidlalo, kodwa indlela enjalo yokudala iya kumangalisa loo mfana kwaye uya kuba nento ekuthethileyo ngayo. Xa incoko ibophelelwe, wonke umntu uya kulibala ngokuMarina ophelile, kunye nebhola.

Nangona kunjalo, into enokuyibambelela kumntu isiqingatha sengxaki. Simele siqhubeke nokuhambelana naye ukuze afune ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti okanye, ubuncinci, bazana.

Isingeniso sengqiqo

Iingcamango zimele zihlale zicacile, kungcono ukuvumela ukubhala komyalezo olandelayo kuthathe ixesha elide kunokuba le nsizwa iyakucinga ukuba yintoni eyona nto yayithethayo kwaye ingaba oku kuyenza ingqiqo.

Musa ukuzula ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kwesinye isihloko ukuya kwesinye. Khumbula, ingqondo yamadoda idla ngokusebenza "ngendlela echanekileyo," isinyathelo ukuya kwesobunxele okanye isinyathelo ukuya kwesokunene sinokuyintlanganisa. Hlalani naluphi na ikati okanye ugogo, naye, akufanelekanga. Utshintsho kunye nokutshintshwa kwezihloko kufuneka kube lula, ukwenzela ukuba umnxibelelwano akave eziva uxinzelelo ekuzameni ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo.

Imixholo yengxoxo

Yintoni engayibhala yindoda ukuze imenzele, kwaye ufuna ukuqhubeka nencoko? Kulula. Sidinga ukuthetha malunga nento ayithandayo. Akunanto into yokuba iphrofayili yakhe kwintanethi yoluntu ifundwe ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba ungumdlali, ngoko ke, unokubuza ukuba wenza ntoni kanye, kudala kangakanani, njalo njalo.

Kufuneka ufumane ngokubanzi ngokusemandleni akhoyo, ukuba unayo izinto zokuzilibazisa, uza kubhala malunga nezenzo zakho zokuzilibazisa. Abantu abancinci, njengamantombazana, baphupha ukufumana abo baqabane, ngoko baqala ukuqonda ngokucacileyo izinto ezibizwa ngokuba yimpembelelo.

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Nangona kungenakukwazi ukufunda namhlanje, ihlabathi alinakubekezelela abantu abangafundile. Ukuba intombazana ibhala amagama ama-5 ngelizwi elinye, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulahleka isikhundla kumntu. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungabhali umfana ukuba afumaneke kuye, kodwa uza kubhalwa njani. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu ongazifundela kwaye uyisithulu, ucinga ukuba ufanelekile kuphela. Ngako oko, unomdla kwintombazana ebhala ngaphandle kweephosiso kunye nesinye sezibheno zakhe eziyaziwayo.

Kakade ke, akukho mzekelo akufanele afungele ukungcola. Oku kuya kugxotha kuphela i-chevalier.

Mpendulo

Ukuze uqonde indlela yokufikelela kumntu othandayo, kufuneka uqaphele isantya anokuphendula kuyo imilayezo. Ukuba uthetha ngokulula kwaye ugcina ukusebenzisana kwengxoxo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba wenze okufanayo. Emva koko intetho iya kuqhuba ngokukhawuleza kwaye inomdla.

Ukuba umfana uyaphendula ngesigama seyure, ungaphenduli ngokukhawuleza kwimilayezo yakhe, ngoko wabona ukuba intombazana inayo ibhizinisi layo, mhlawumbi idibanisa nomnye umntu. Kubuhlungu kuphela umdla wakhe. Kodwa musa ukuyidlula. Ukuba awuphenduli iiveki, ngoko umfana ngokukhawuleza uyakulibala malunga nomnxibelelwano onjalo.

Imigaqo yokufumana enye incwadi

Indlela yokumbamba umntu ngamagama, yacaca, kodwa yintoni eyenzayo? Yiyiphi i-algorithm yoonxibelelwano olulandelayo?

Ukuba unxibelelwano luhlala ixesha elide, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukunamathela kwimithetho emibini ebalulekileyo:

1. Musa ukucela insizwa ukuba incede, kwaye nangakumbi ukwenzela izipho. Amadoda angoku ayenesaba kakhulu ukuba aya kusetyenziswa, ngoko babalekela naliphi na iinqununu zezimbali ezininzi zeentyatyambo okanye izicelo zokulungisa. Kwinqanaba lokuqala loqhagamshelwano, umfana kufuneka abe nemihlali kunye nokukhululeka kwengxoxo. Ngoko ke, ngemiyalelo yonke, kubalulekile ukulinda kude kube nomzuzu apho idilesi iya kuhamba kwiintlanganiso zangempela.
2. Musa kuba nomona. Ukuba isithombeni sakhe "sixoxwa" ngumncintiswano, kwaye eludongeni kwi-intanethi yezentlalo nomfanekiso kunye nentliziyo evela kumntu ongaziwayo ongaziwayo, akudingeki ukuba ugijime ekulweni uze ufumanise kumntu onjalo, kutheni ebhala, njl njl. Kwakhona, ungalibali - Akunalo ulwalamano, nje ngeenkcukacha. Ngoko ke, akudingeki ukuba "ubone" umnene.

Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso ezinokubaluleka malunga nendlela yokumbamba umntu kwaye ugcine umdla wakhe:

• Akufanele kube ngomhla wesibini weenkcukacha ukuthumela umntu osemtsha imifanekiso yakhe esondeleyo. Enyanisweni, uya kummangalela isinyathelo esinesibindi, kodwa uya kucinga ukuba uthetha nentombazana elula kakhulu. Ukongeza, akukho mntu uyazi kakuhle indlela umntu angasebenzisa ngayo le mifanekiso. Ukuba ngenjongo ekujoliswe kuyo - akubi kakhulu. Kuthiwani ukuba uyabathumela kwi-Intanethi ukujonga abantu?
• Akukhuthazwa ukuba uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho kuqala, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zinamandla kangakanani. Njengoko uyayazi, amadoda angabanqobi bemvelo, ngoko kufuneka uyenze ukuba lo uzama ukunqoba inqaba engenakulinganiswa.
• Musa ukukhalaza ngokuphathelele ubomi. Intetho enjalo iya kumthukuthela. Kwaye oku akusiyo injongo yokuba intombazana ibhekane nayo. Indoda kufuneka ilahleke incoko kwaye ijonge phambili kuyo yonke imilayezo.
• Ukuqala ukuqhuba iingxoxo kwiindleko ezithandanayo ezingekho ngaphambili, kunezinye iinyanga.

Siyabulela kulezi ziphakamiso ezilula, unokwenza nantoni na umntu oselula.