Indlela atshaye ubuvila? Khangela ukuba ingcambu yengxaki

Ubuvila - usekela silk. Enye okanye elinye celebrity onobuganga ukuthetha phandle, ukuba, kakuhle, bendiya sele befikelele (la) eninzi kunene, ukuba amavila. Oko kucingwa ukuba isakhono wendoda efihliweyo omkhulu, kodwa hayi ukusebenza, ngenxa yokuba lo mntu wenza imigudu. Ngokubanzi eli hlobo coquetry. Italente - into impikiswano. Kodwa masikhe akugxininisi ubuchule uze ugqithele umbuzo othi "Indlela ukubetha ubuvila?"

Ngokubanzi, kubalulekile ukuba umahluko phakathi nobuvila nokudinwa. Ukuba usebenza (learning) ngaphezu kweeyure ezingama-8 ngosuku, kodwa ndinexhala ukuba awukwazi ukusebenza iiyure 10-12, wena - amandla nomonde therapist unesifo "asebenze" kwaye amavila. Ngoko ke kufuneka ngoko nangoko wanqumla udidi abafundi bacebise ukuba bafune uncedo therapist. Yinto engenamsebenzi ukuba uphendule umbuzo othi "Indlela ukubetha ubuvila?", Ukuba ubani abasoloko iimfuno zomzimba kunye psyche.

Ukuba ngaba ukusebenza kwaye alikwazi ukuba ndiza kwenza into efunekayo, ukuba yenye into. Ke imithombo ezimbini kufuneka ukwahlula lokufunyaniswa "ivila." Xa omnye, utyholwa sobuvila ngeenxa zonke, wena, xa mgaqo, ngumbono omhle ukuze siphile. Thatha icebiso - iinkcazelo ezifana abanye ngokukhuselekileyo ngoyaba. Oku kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukusebenza, kwaye musa zinikelwe isiphumo kulindeleke. Ngoko ke kunokwenzeka ukuba ukubaleka, siphumle kunye nesihamba ngayo. Kodwa ityala yesibini umdla ngakumbi ngenxa sobuvila na ngokugxeka wena. Cinga ngemeko zolwimi ngokunzulu.

Ngokuqhelekileyo malunga ukuba ukubetha njani ubuvila, abantu bacinga emva balimala - iimviwo, nto leyo inqamkile, ulwalamano eyayiwe ngaphandle ngenxa passivity yomnye amaqabane, ukulahlekelwa inzuzo kwishishini. Ukuba umntu ugqiba ukuba uqinisekise ukuba kufuneka woyise ubuvila ukwenza okungakumbi.

Kufuneka uqale umlo ucazululo ufuna ukuba okanye hayi iinjongo wena lowu ngokwenene. Ingxaki ephambili kunye nezizathu olubangelwa yokuba "lazy" umntu ukususela ebuntwaneni omiselwe "injongo entle", yaye yena uhlala nje "like kancinci." Mhlawumbi kufuneka ube ukonwaba akuyona umsebenzi ophambili kwi-ofisi kunye nophando microparticles? Le ndoda ayikho ngusozigidi, kodwa utitshala elula lowo uthandana uncwadi? Akukho imoto entsha, kunye nomntwana wesithathu endlwini?

Amaxabiso bokwenyaniso badla vika thina. Cinga, ukuba uphumelele i-lotto, ubuya kwenza ntoni na. Ukuchitha imali uyadika. Thatha ilungelo ukuzibekela iinjongo iiyure eziliqela. Kubhetele ukuba lirhoxe kuluntu, ukuthatha oyithandayo umculo uye ecinga ukuba indalo. Musa ukucinga ukuba uza kuxelela abanye usukelo lwakho. iinjongo zabanye abantu musa ukunika amandla kubo uya abasoze leyona bummer ubomi obude, ayikho wanobungangamsha.

Ukuba injongo yakho boyise ubuvila ayikasebenzi, zama ukuhlalutya ukuba ukuyeka oko. ushishino luhlala ukunqongophala kolwazi. Ngaba nani nifuna ukwenza efunisela, akukho ukusetyenziswa amandla ku tirhisa nanceba - ukuba akukho nto iqatshelwe. Ngoko ke, simele sijonge ulwazi esemgangathweni. Emva kokuba inkcazelo kumava abanye abantu, akunyanzelekanga ukuba achithe ixesha kwi fyabo ibhayisekile kwaye unakho ukuqalisa emsebenzini ngokwenene umdla ubuye.

Ubuvila luhlobo wazenza mntu wumbi lithemba. Kulo mzekelo, umntu ucinga ukuba sele kudlule ixesha lakhe, akasayi kuphumelela ukhuphiswano, nanini indawo leyo eza kuba kaloku yena akukho magunya. Ukuba kunjalo - ityala lakho, ndinicebisa ukufunda incwadi Jeff Colvin "Le italente kule nto." It usenza ukusebenza eziphathekayo yakhe ezineengongoma lungqina ukuba ubuchule ngokwemvelo - it polumif. A Abantu ezibalaseleyo ngokwenene ukuphumeza impumelelo ngokuncama indlela ekhethekileyo zomsebenzi, apho umbhali ubiza "practice ngabom."

Ukuba ngaba ukulungele ukutshintsha nantoni na ebomini bakhe, ukulungele ukubuza imibuzo uze ufune iimpendulo - oko kuthetha ityala lakho ayikho nzima, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha uya kuba negunya abanye umba "Indlela ukubetha ubuvila?".