Abantwana uyaganga - nanjengokwesimo?

Akukho bantwana olitshijolo, njengoko kungekho bantwana ogqibeleleyo abathobelayo. Nawuphi na umntwana uziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo "iimeko wanikwa" ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye oko kulungile. Ixesha, indawo, abantu kunye nabo umntwana lisebenzisana kunye iintlobo ezininzi ngakumbi ezinokuphembelela ukuvula nayiphi na ingelosi kwi imp, kwaye vice versa.

umntwana ongathobeliyo ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, hayi nje. umsebenzi abadala - ukuqonda oonobangela sivumelane ebuntwaneni. Kakade ke, kufuneka ithathele ingqalelo iminyaka yakhe umntwana lowo. Yokungathobeli nosana ezintathu leyo yahluke "linyanzelisa" elivisayo, kodwa zisekelwe enye into - umnqweno ukutsala ingqalelo, ukubonisa umlinganiswa.

Ukususela ngokombono bengqondo, iingxaki zemfundo yabantwana zimbi ngexesha zigaba ezithile zobomi. abantwana abangeva nga sokuba aziphathe izihlandlo ezimbalwa nokulihlazo ebomini bam. Oku kubhekisela ebizwa ngokuba iingxaki 3, 7 no-13.

Kwiminyaka 3 uqala kakhulu ngokukhawuleza ukubonisa ubuntu womntwana. Ngeli xesha ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba baqonde ukuba ukuziphatha wosana ayikho ngoku kakhulu ngenxa iimpawu zakhe njengoko iimpawu zabantu zendalo. Ngexesha le ntlekele iminyaka emithathu ubudala, indawo a sana, "Mna ngokwam 'ehlabathini iyalila" musa ukuba, andiyi, akukho. " Eli xesha kunzima, abazali, abo ngokuthi iinguqu umntwana wakho nabafuna imp okungalawulekilyo ndimangalisekile kuphela. Akukho lula ukuba ingxelo, kwaye seminyaka emithathu-, sekunjalo akazange siyazi indlela yokuhlangabezana kunye neemvakalelo zabo nokukhusela amalungelo abo zonke iindlela ezikhoyo.

Kakhulu lula ubomi zomnye kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kwamkelwe imithetho lokudlala lomntwana. Loo nto kungcono ukuba ukwamkela into yokuba yena umntu omdala kwaye unelungelo lokuba isigqibo ethile ingxaki akuyongozi, ezifana yintoni umbala iikawusi ukuze athwale. Kwangaxeshanye, eminye imiba esisiseko kufuneka uqiniseke umntu omdala ukuba ngqongqo kwaye musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ilawulwe.

Xa wayeneminyaka engama-7, kuza ixesha esinzima elandelayo. Umntwana iya esikolweni, ufumana kwindawo entsha kuye, yena uqala ukunxibelelana ngokukuko noontanga. Kubomi bakhe, ugunyaziwe omtsha - utitshala yokuqala. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukulungiselela into yokuba "Maryvanna" uya kuba umntu umntwana wakho kakhulu ezikrelekrele emhlabeni, igama lalo - umthetho kwaye abazali kwaye baxabane. Ngoku abantwana abangeva ugrade yokuqala uhlala imithetho eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo ukuba indumiso wabo kumagumbi okufundisela, ukwandisa ixabiso labo, kwaye ukuba unina zonke kiss ubutyebi bakhe, angakwazi wahleka. Kwakhona, abazali kufuneka ukwamkela imithetho - esikolweni kufuneka 'ukugcina brand "kunye nendlu qiniseka ukuba umnike uthando nemfudumalo apho umntwana nangoku kakhulu imfuneko.

Xa umntwana ujika kweminyaka eli-13 ubudala, abazali ukuqonda ukuba ayizizo zonke iingxaki zangaphambili iingxaki kwaphela. Esakhula - olu luvavanyo "amandla" ye umzali luvo. Le ngxaki iyafana kakhulu kwintanda-bulumko iminyaka emithathu ubudala, "Mna ngokwam", kodwa kwinqanaba eyahlukileyo abantwana ngoku andwebileyo lula ilizwi lakho, wambhakraza ucango, vuthelani i kwihlazo ephuma nto, njalo-njalo. Kufuneka wenze ntoni kweli xesha? Okokuqala, umonde. Yiba inkxaso umntwana, umhlobo engundoqo kunye uthembekileyo, nengubo yangaphantsi elukwe, ngoosiyazi - nguye nabani na, okoko nje wayevakalelwa kukuba abazali bakhe abamthandayo, nakuba zonke frills yayo. Ndandikhula, abantwana baya ukuzahlula ngokwabo kubazali babo, yaye kubalulekile ngexesha elifanayo kukwazi ukugcina le kufutshane.

abantwana uyaganga, nokuba ikuluphi na ubudala na - abantwana nje. Bonke kufuneka uthando, ukukhathalelwa kunye nokhuselo. Ukuba esithile abazali ebomini ayikwazi ukunceda ngokwabo, kubhetele ukuba aye iingxabano kakhulu, kwaye bajonge yincutshe. Psychologist ukuba umntwana abe, ukuba umcebisi, i "prompter", kuya kukunceda ukuba baqonde baze ekugqibeleni negalelo ekuphuculeni umoya endlwini.