Abantu esilawulayo: ukuba ngobuchule lahla njani na?

Kubomi wonke umntu kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabantu kwi yokuziphatha, unxibelelwano kunye inqubo. Njengoko isisho, abantu bonke ezahlukeneyo. Kukho funny, "ukukhanya" unxibelelwano, kwaye kukho abantu ebandakanya wonke. Olu didi zonxibelelwano kunye nobukho apho kunzima kakhulu ukuba balahle, kodwa hayi akunakwenzeka. Ngoko ke, cinga iinketho ukuba indlela balahle loo mntu ukhathazeka. Ukuziphatha kwe aba bantu?

Njengoko abantu abonakalisa esilawulayo?

Ezi "wanamathela" ngenene lula gqitha ukubona. Abantu esilawulayo babekuthanda kakhulu ukutsala umdla kubaphulaphuli, ibutho ngokwayo. Kwaye benza usoloko benze ngoncedo ukungena incoko, ukuphucula imvakalozwi xa bethetha, iguqulela iintsinga incoko kwi babo. Ukuba Musa ukuthetha malunga incoko nomntu ukuba likhoboka, kodwa ubukho bakhe ebomini bakho, uze ukwenze oko konke yaqala! abantu esilawulayo uthando ukuza xa musa umenyiwe, kwaye eyona umdla, kunzima kakhulu ukuba ukubonisa somnyango emnyango, ngokuba ngokupheleleyo yokuba abayiqondi nealam ekhalayo, nokuba uzixelele ngqo ngaphandle ukuba udiniwe kwakubo, bathi cwaka ungahlala kutyelelo .

Ke ukuba phithi lomntu okanye intombi entsha, ngoko ukuziphatha zabo kakhulu iminxeba rhoqo, iincoko ezininzi ngamampunge, utyelelo engalindelekanga, walibala de amaxesha kamva, ingcebiso phithi kunye incasa, ubukho ngokugqithisileyo kwisithuba lobuqu.

Kuba ngolu hlobo lo mntu kufuneka ufumane indlela ekhethekileyo ukunxibelelana ngokucacileyo kuye ukuzisa ngobukho bakhe ezigqithisileyo kunye zokuziphatha kukuthenga izinto njengoko ukuqonda kakuhle kakhulu ngothsuphe zabantu kukuthenga izinto.

Njengoko ngobuchule zibonisa umntu malunga tai zakhe?

Okokuqala kufuneka udliwano Babaqhathanisele zibonisa kwi isibakala sokuba omnye umntu iwele imida ethile kwaye lube esilawulayo izithakazelo zabo iimbono zehlabathi. Oku kwenziwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:

• Kuyenzeka ukutshintsha kakuhle isifundo kwaye wenze loo nto lonke ixesha, kamsinya nje umthombo izifaka iqalisa ukuzibonakalisa.
• Guqulela ingqalelo into umdla nosentsimini udidi lwembono, uze uzame ukuba baqhubeke incoko ngale nto, okanye ukuba ngendaba incoko isihloko ezaziqhele, nto leyo enganakho ukwenzeka ukuvakalisa uluvo lobuqu okanye iingcebiso.

Xa ufowuna, ngomlomo asilele zibonisa kwi-phithi le interlocutor, kuyenzeka ukuba athathe amanyathelo ukuze ngobuchule ukwenza kucace ukuba umntu ebandakanya wonke.

Ngoko nangoko ke kufuneka aziphathe lout kwaye sithi abantu udiniwe okanye udiniwe ubukho babo elide.

Uyakwazi kuqala ukuya nge ndlela:

• Ngoko nangoko abonisa ixesha usikhathalele, okanye (umzekelo, "9 ndiziphethe yonyango ubuthongo ukususela Ndiya kuvuka ekuseni kakhulu phezulu," okanye "Mna intlanganiso 9 ecwangcisiweyo, khon 'ukuze sishiye seyure phambi kokuba, ngoko kwafuneka ixesha lokulungiselela" ). Kuba ixesha elithile ngaphambi kokuba kufuneka sikhunjuzwe ukuba kufuneka ukuba ushiye kungekudala. Unako ancame ukuba unamaqhinga kunye umnxeba mobile phone nithi, ukuze ngokukhawuleza kufuneka ukuhamba.
• Xa imfuyo kufuneka kusoloko esima izingxengxezo Zithobe mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba "kuthiwa" shiya ngequbuliso ushishino.
• U angagqithela iqhinga xa omnye umntu fun efanelekileyo lula phantsi neyenkolo kufuneka ngokukhawuleza ukunceda okanye intlanganiso ucwangciselwe, inkampani umke mntu ukhathazeka. Noko ke, loo nto ayisoloko ukufumana ukuyenza.
• Ukuba akukho uza umntu icebiso malunga tai yakhe, amxelele kakuhle kunye uxolo ( "Ndicela uxolo, kodwa kufuneka ndiye, kufuneka ahluze, kodwa sele lifikile ixesha ...").

Njengoko ngobuchule zibonisa ukuba le ndodana, ukuba nguye ebandakanya?

Abanye abantu abatsha kubudlelwane kude kakhulu ubukho babo rhoqo kwisithuba ngayo iqabane. Kwaye eli xesha, nathi, kufuneka singalahlekani, okanye ukubathwala, kuba ke kuchaphazela ulwalamano kwaye kungakhokelela kumonakalisa.

Side, onqanda phithi kwesiqingatha sesibini kwezinye amaxesha (olwaphula zaloo mntu, iminxeba rhoqo, SMS kunye nolawulo, unokumohlwaya neencasa nokuziphatha), kufuneka sonwabile kunye nethoni ukuzola ukuqalisa incoko kude malunga ezithandwa kunye neminqweno, nokunciphisa kwangalo bonke abantu kufuneka babe nendawo yabo, ludale ukuthembana kwaye lukhangele kancinci ixesha simahla, ukuba ubukho ngokugqithiseleyo Wanciphisa ulawulo kunye ezothusayo.

Ukuba Kwisiqingatha sesibini akazange afunde kule ngxoxo ekunene izigqibo, unako ukuba incoko efanayo nokuphinda-ukubetha yonke into ukuze mfana esilawulayo okanye umfazi waqalisa ukubeka lowo buphazamisana bengafuni (ukutshintsha nemisebenzi). Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, iincoko cwaka ebonisa ukuba phithi buphazamisana umboniso ukunceda njani indlela echanileyo ukulungisa into okukruqulayo kwi ukuziphatha komntu.

Indlela ngobuchule balahle umhlobo okukruqulayo?

Ukuba unayo intombi ukuba likhoboka, kunzima kweli kwisangqa zentlalo le meko. Ngokuqhelekileyo la mantombazana ngenkankulu ukuqonda usingiselo ukuba kukhathazeka yabo, yaye kubo kube nzima ukugqithisa. Kodwa iindlela ezisebenzayo isekhona!

• Tshintsha ingqalelo komnye umntu abe nomdla nentombi esilawulayo.
• Qala ukuba bazazise njengoko izifaka njengoko kwakunjalo ngexesha elifanayo ukuchola Ngaloo mathuba xa nakanjani akumnandi kwaye musa ukuba ixesha lokuthatha ukuba ukundwendwela okanye ukuhlala baxoxe. Emva izihlandlo ezimbalwa yale lokuziphatha uya kukuphepha inkampani yakho, ngaloo ndlela 'ukuze buncothulwe phithi, ze ngokwayo yaye bengazi nto.
• Xa incoko apho ngokugqithiseleyo intombi ukhathazeka ukuba bazama ukufumana ukungena ebomini kunye imibuzo yam kunye neengcebiso, kufuneka isibini izihlandlo ngoyaba okanye ngoyaba impendulo okanye umbuzo. Ukuthatha uhlobo "sisidenge abengevayo", ungenza kucace ukuba awufuni ukuphendula imibuzo okanye ndanixelela izinto ezinjalo.
• Ukuba uphawula ukuba ziyaqondwa, siqala ukubuza nokucebisa bamatasa yena. Call kwaye ubhale lonke ixesha becela malunga ezinjalo, awayeza akafuni ukuxelela (kodwa kufuneka kancinane ukuba uyigcine, sihlolisise oko ukuchonga izihloko azikho Kungamnandi kakhulu kuyo).
• Ngokuzolileyo yaye ngqo bathi ukuba umhlobo ukwenyuka kakhulu wabucala (kodwa oku ityala kakhulu apho ukuziphatha ukhathazeka lomntu udlula yonke imida ye umonde, njengoko kunokukhokelela inzondo kunye amathuba).

Nendlela yokuzifumana zabantu kanti izifaka kakhulu

Kukwakho abanjalo "iikopi". Kwimeko xa uluntu ahlala abantu ukhathazeka kakhulu kunye nokuziphatha kwabo kuchaphazela impilo kunye nenkqubo luvo, yokuzifumana kufuneka kakhulu kwaye umphelo. ume nje kubo naluphi na unxibelelwano, ukunqanda inkampani yabo. Emva kokuba abantu kanti izifaka kakhulu musani ukuqonda naziphi na iingcebiso okanye amagama ngqo iya kufikelela kuzo amanyathelo angqongqo kuphela, ezizezi ukupheliswa ubudlelwane.

Njengoko kamnandi kakhulu siqhawule ubuhlobo umntu ukhathazeka?

Phambi kokuba uyeke ukuxoxa nabanye ukuba likhoboka, Kakade ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzame ukuba idlulisele kuye, kutheni, yintoni nendlela abachaphazelekayo umsantsa kunxibelelwano. Makhe yanto umntu uziva kancinane ngokwam endaweni yakho. Kodwa mhlawumbi, ukuba kuya kuba yinkcitha xesha.

Qiniseka ukuba icebise umhlobo wakhe omtsha, owathi, nangona kancinane ezilungele ukuba umonde ukuze banxibelelane indoda esilawulayo.

Kuthekani ukuba ajike ithambile ukuba sokuphelisa ulwalamano kunye nomntu ukhathazeka kakhulu?

Ukuba ezi iindlela esingaqondwayo mntu, kuyimfuneko ukuqala ungayihoyi loo nto, musa ukuphendula ifowuni kunye SMS, musa ukuvula emnyango endlwini, okanye nje ukuba athi udiniwe, udiniwe okanye niphuthuma.

Ukusuka umntu kukuthenga kakhulu ngokukhawuleza, ungafumana bahlukane, kodwa esithi kakhulu nje ukuba unxibelelwano lwakhe dina kwaye ibekwa. Enye indlela, abayiqondi ngenxa yokuba kanti izifaka kakhulu, ngoko ke kufuneka zisuswe kuluntu lwabo.

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Indlela lokuyigxotha le tai zabantu?

1. Ukuba umntu akakho kanti izifaka kakhulu, oku kungenziwa uncedo unaloo kwincoko malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe.
2. Ukuba ngaba umntu akazange aqonde icebiso, baqale aziphathe njengaye (kubiza nize ngaphandle isimemo kwaye ixesha elide ukuba kude, wadinwa incoko yabo, enoba loo mntu akakwazi kwaye akafuni ukungena incoko). Njengoko bathi, ukulwa umlilo ngomlilo!
3. Nomntu ukhathazeka kakhulu kuzo zonke iindlela zingasentla ungasebenzi, ngoko abantu abanjalo kufuneka ukuba ayibulale kakhulu kwaye umphelo (musa ukuthatha ifowuni, musa ukuvula ucango okanye ngqo ukuthi inkampani yakhe baphelelwa).

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Kuya kubakho iintlobo abaphumelelayo apho wena kunye nezinye izifaka utshintsho izifaka indawo kwaye pester kuye kanye njengoko wenzayo kuwe. Ke umhlaseli uthatha indawo yalowo wenza, yaye ngokuthe ngcembe uqalisa ukuqonda ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe esilawulayo.

Phambi kokuba uqale kabukhali ukuba umphakathi ukususa umntu onjalo, kuqala kufuneka sifunde kuyo kancinci, ukwenzela ukuba buhlungu kakhulu kunene, kodwa kwangaxeshanye ukunika umzobo ethile, ediniwe yaye sele ndanizisa amanyathelo kakhulu!

Kodwa ke, ngelishwa, kukho abantu esilawulayo abo kwaye ningaqondi. Ngoko abantu kufuneka bathethe 'inyaniso okucacileyo' emehlweni. Kodwa kuqala qiniseka ukuba akuyi kubenzakalisa impilo yomntwana wakho okanye! Eneneni, kusenokuba kuyinyaniso ukuba umntu ukhathazeka ekwathiwa ngqo malunga intrusiveness ngokugqithiseleyo, uba izinyeliso, yaye, ekubeni ngokuziphatha buthathaka, iqala ukwenzakalisa okanye, icala, umxhaphazi nomsindo yaye gwebi nangaphezulu!

Kodwa ke eyona nto kodwa, kamsinya nje kuyacaca ukuba umntu ngoko nangoko izifaka zokuthengisa kuye nombhalo wenkqu yakhe, nkqu nisaqala zonxibelelwano!