Yintoni kwingcingane yobunkokheli kwaye yintoni indima yayo ehlabathini namhlanje

Kubonakala kum ukuba psychology of ubunkokeli makabulawe nathi besebancinane kakhulu, kwaye ukuba a lot of kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, abazali bethu ingakumbi ootatomkhulu efundisa, ngaphezu kwabo bonke, babe nesidima yaye uthobekile, loo mhla iindlela ifanelekileyo yokukhulisa abantwana baye litshintshile kakhulu.

utshintsho Social zezopolitiko ziye zenza utshintsho babo kubomi babantu abaqhelekileyo. Kunye brand new ingqiqo, ezifana, yithini, ukhuphiswano, market simahla okanye ipropati yabucala, kukho ezinye izimvo kwi ngumzali. Ngoku ke yamkele ekuqaleni mass psychology kunye nobunkokeli, ukuze zonke iingcali nje emonela- acetyiswa esemncinane ukuba agonye umntwana ingqiqo ukuzithemba kunye nokuzixabisa eliphezulu. Le ndlela, ngokutsho kubo, uzise inkokeli yokwenene, ekwaziyo ngokuzithemba ngokubetha khuphiswano, ukuza nobungqina obuvakalayo kwityala labo, ukufezekisa ukwamkeleka jikelele, yaye, ke ngoko, abe indoda isizukulwana esitsha.

Enyanisweni, umntu uthi ubunkokeli - bengqondo, njengoko wabona of self-centeredness. Ngandlel 'ithile, mna phantse ngokupheleleyo ndeyiseka ukuba umnqweno ukuba akhokele abe kwiziko ingqalelo ekuqaleni wazalelwa bonke abantwana. ie wonke umntwana sele inkokheli ezinokubakho, kwaye ke konke kuxhomekeke kwimfundo, apho, Kakade ke, ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba nangona amacandelo ebalulekileyo karhulumente ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa kwangaxeshanye abazange ukuba ubaleka ebhadlileyo self-amadlala nomnqweno rhoqo ukuze kuphuculwe.

Mhlawumbi kwingcingane lobunkokheli - kuyinto ekufuneka ezityaliweyo ienjini ukususela besebancinane kakhulu. Kutheni ucinga njalo nje? Akuyo, kunye makings kwabantu inkokheli kukhula omnye kuphela abo abantwana ukususela ebuntwaneni wanconywa ngenxa inkqubela, zigcinwe ngamaxesha ukungaphumeleli, yakholosayo aze avunyelwe ukuba basebenzise ulwazi lwabo olutsha nezakhono, nokukhuthaza ngandlela zonke xa ukuhlangana imiqobo. Ngoko ke akukho mfihlakalo ukuba ukoyiswa yokuqala enkulu kunye uloyiso yendoda encinane ithatha indawo ezindongeni zendlu. Ekhaya sifunda om-, ukufumana ubuchule nokucenga, ukwehlulwa okanye nokumelana ukusilela. A lot of iimpawu kunye ngeempawu silandela endlwini ngabazali bethu. Ukuba umntwana asenokudlalwa, intsapho nganye, nkqu isiganeko kakhulu singabalulekanga, ngoko umntu onjalo uya kukhula nexhala kakhulu kwaye engakhuselekanga.

Ufuna ukwandisa amathuba akho ukuba ube yinkokeli? Funda ukwamkela wena ezingqongileyo bakho ezahlukeneyo; kunye bayivume abaphumeleleyo, kwaye ababuthathaka womelele. Nandipha uloyiso usoloko nice, kodwa oku ngokuqinisekileyo akwanelanga, kufuneka kakuhle nomsebenzi nzima ngakumbi: ukufunda ukudlala ngayo, yaye akwenze oko ngesidima, ngaphandle abazifumana yintlekele okanye ukungaphumeleli.

Indlela ukuqaphela inkokheli phakathi kwethu?

"Kulungile, oko akukho nzima!" - usenokuthi, yaye nam andikwazi ukungavumelani nawe. Leadership Psychology uyakwazi ukutsala. Aba bantu akuyo ungasoloko lubalasele kwisihlwele: ukuba bechwayitile kwaye esebenzayo, oko ke iintloko zabo beza ngcamango elibonakala crazy, kwaye nazo indima enkulu ekuphunyezweni kwesicwangciso.

Ubunkokeli Psychology inika le nkcazo ilandelayo. Loo mntu lidla ngeempawu ilandelayo:

• uyakwazi zandisa fun iintsilelo zabo;
• It kwizicatshulwa bazuze lukhulu kusilela;
• Oku akuthethi kwamkela omnye ukugxekwa ngentliziyo;
• njalo isungula amandla ;
• ngokuzithemba ukunxibelelana nabantu bobudala ezahlukeneyo;
• entrains;
• Uyazi mzuzu ilungelo ukubonisa italente.

Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndithanda ukuba ziqaphele oku kulandelayo. Ukususela kwasebuntwaneni ekuqaleni, umntu ukhetha eziphambili zabo. Kwaye musa ukuzibeka ityala elo, umzekelo, ufumana kunzima ukwenza intetho kuluntu. Mhlawumbi wena akunguye phambili ubugagu, kodwa ipeyinti esemagqabini okanye enze iinkuni. Kufuneka nje ukuba bafunde phambili. Cinga kwaye isigqibo, kodwa mgaqo, into ebaluleke ngakumbi kuwe: udumo okanye noxolo. Ukhetha? Emva koko uya kuba kuyo!