Nengxaki yokukhula kubantu

Nabafazi amadoda amakhulu amathathu, ukusa kumkhamo othile uqhelene ingqiqo inkinga yokukhula. Ephila, ngathi thina asenzanga ndeyisekile ukuba - i nabalawulwa ukuyila abo bazama ukuthethelela kohlulwe usapho. Madoda, ukuza kuma kwixesha le ntlekele, nje abanye abantu. Ukuba angenza isenzo engaqhelekanga, engafuni ukucacisa ukuziphatha kwabo. Ziphantsi kakhulu pay ingqalelo abafazi babo, abanye ukuze baziqonde izimo zabo, musa ukufumana ingcaciso ozimiseleyo utshintsho. Tshintsha kunokuba ezothusayo kangangokuba umfazi wam ngengqiniseko: ". Umyeni wam uya kuze kube enye kwakhona - kwabonakala ukuba awuyitshintshanga" Okanye ubeke ehlaselwe, kukhafula. Ngokubanzi, ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ukuba kuphela izizathu kwamnandi onjalo uchaze ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Agalele ioli phezu komlilo kwaye abaziqhelileyo - bathi, ulwalamano soze enjalo, njengoko baye ngaphambili. Ngelishwa, asiyi singatsho kakuhle ukuba abahlobo kunye nabamelwane ziphosakele. Akukho mntu ukuqinisekisa ukuba umyeni wam wayeza kuba nokuthantamisa kunye nothando emva komhla omiselweyo. Nangona kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba kuthi ukuba kungekho buhlobo usapho kwaye kufuneka bupheliswe. Nangona ukuntsonkotha meko, musa ukucinga nje malunga mtshato, into eninzi kakhulu. nengxaki yokukhula umntu ukuba ndingabonakalisi iminyaka embalwa yobomi yomfazi wayo. Zama ukuba baphile i ngokupheleleyo ubomi umdla kubomi umyeni wakhe, hayi ubunzima kunye nosizi ngokwakho. Xa inani elikhulu ngokwaneleyo na amadoda axeliweyo kakhulu ntlekele, kodwa usoyise, kwaye ubukhulu becala ngenxa abafazi babo.

Mid-ubomi crisis - uhlobo lwe isiganeko esibalulekileyo, xa oko kuyimfuneko ukuba stock ixesha wahlala kwaye wenze ukhetho. Kufuneka ukhethe indlela entsha, yaye kufuneka ibe yintoni, indoda nangoku akakwazi kutheni ukuziphatha kwakhe phantse Awekho logic. nengxaki yokukhula ngokufuthi likufikela umntu kwiminyaka 35-40, kodwa kwezinye iimeko kungalindiswa nangaphezulu - ukubonakalisa kweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu. Ngoko ke, yintoni na iziphumo badla alibonakali ngeliso lenyama? le minyaka imashumi mabini inkwenkwana wagqiba kwelokuba abe yintloko ukuya kwiminyaka engama-25. Ngoku phantse mane, amakhondo emisebenzi ukuba kwakukho, encinane kakhulu. Usapho kanye uthandane naye kudala ngobubele ngakumbi. Trouble - kukuba yinxalenye injongo ndingatsho ukuba ezi mood edakumbisayo - nto ngathi Epiphany. Nakuba kunjalo, iziphumo zayo ayikho zakha zaba zinye, okanye na konke konke, ezifana obuya umfazi. Umfazi waphupha ukuba imini enye indoda uyaqonda ukuba ayikho unethamsanqa kakhulu ebomini - hayi ukuba ummelwane uPetros. Emva nokuqonda enjalo indoda, ngokutsho iingcamango lomfazi wakhe, kufuneka ngokukhawuleza wabetha umsebenzi lidlule ummelwane. Kodwa enyanisweni, umyeni wam ayenzi nto, kodwa rhoqo ngumsindo.

Le ndoda ngaphakathi kokuxhalaba - nokufa ngokuyinxenye waphila, kodwa akukho nto ebalulekileyo ayikwazanga kufikelelwe. Uphawu lwe ingxaki kukuba impumelelo lwangaphambili umntu uqalisa kuqwalaselwa azinamsebenzi xa kufikwa inkinga yokukhula, kubonakala ukuba zonke Benindifunela ngaphambili - ezingenanto kunye ngamampunge, waphila kungekhona senze ngayo, ze uqale ubomi obutsha kamva. Amadoda phantsi iinyanga ezimashumi ukuze uqalise ukucinga ukuba bachitha ixesha elininzi kwabanye, akhohlwe ngokwabo, ngoko ke badla aphoswe maelstrom ngamava amatsha kunye nangeengcinga. Noko ke, badla ukutshintsha ngokungenamkhethe phantse yonke into kobu bomi - bume yomsebenzi, maxa wambi ezama ukuba kude nentsapho. Maxa wambi kuyenzeka ukuba umntu lugubungela ukudakumba. Akazange uzibuze uhlala kuphela iinkumbulo elidlulileyo kwaye ndicinga malunga nendlela bonke Kwathi kunye, ukuba kuzaliseke iphupha kwasebutsheni bayo.

Kukho amadoda phantse ingabonakali kwaye ebelapha boyise intlekele ekuyo i-ephakathi ubudala. Psychology ojongana ukufunda eli xesha ebomini, yaye singatsho kakuhle ukuba aba bantu kakhulu kancinane. Okokuqala, ukuba abo baphumelela, axakeke izinto ozithandayo, emphathele ingeniso elungileyo. Abo ngokupheleleyo baphuhlise iitalente zabo emsebenzini, umntu intsapho ukuthandana inkanuko. Ukongeza, le ntlekele ukuze ukuhambahamba olu hlobo abantu abangekho akathandi ukuhlalutya ubomi bakhe, badla ubomi kuphela langoku. Ngamanye amazwi, ingxaki ayibonakali kwabo bengasetyenziswa kwaye abo akukho ixesha kuwela yokucinga - akukho xesha. Aba bantu babe nolwalamano efudumeleyo entsatsheni, kukho intembeko nentlonelo. Kakade ke, asinakukwazi ukuba abanye azinazo ezi mpawu. Nje yokutyiwa zabo elincinane yeendima ezibalulekileyo uthando kufa phantsi ubunzima ubomi kunye nengqumbo nokuxabisana.

Iso nengxaki yokukhula nga ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa ke kukho inkalo eliqhelekileyo zonke ezi mpawu - indoda ukutshintsha ubomi wokufika ngexesha ugcina kude umfazi wakhe.

Eyona nto ayifanelekanga - imbonakalo umthandi. Oku kwenziwa ukuze nobumhlophe lwesiqhelo, nentsusa. INdoda elide kunesiqhelo emi esipilini, ezama ukukhangela abaselula. Kusenokuba kakhulu ukuqala kwimpilo yabo ayikwazi aziyi kuqwalaselwa lokususa. Le ndoda aliyeki ukucinga oko kwakuza kuba ubomi bakhe, kanye ndibuthabathe isisombululo eyahlukileyo. Oku kusebenza kukhetho lo msebenzi, indawo yokuhlala, umfazi wakhe. Umyeni yakho izakuvalwa xa ntlekele yaba ngunobangela nayiphi na imeko enzima. Man ewela izicwangciso usapho elide-ezicwangcisiweyo.

Enyanisweni, kukho iingongoma ezimbalwa ekufuneka ayandilandela inkazana leyo kweli xesha linzima yendoda yakhe.

Okokuqala - umonde, kodwa Tune kwi yokuba lo mntu urhulumente nobuhlala konyaka okanye iminyaka emihlanu. Zama ukuba ayigcine ngexesha elifanayo abathintela umsindo. Ngaphantsi asongele mtshato, isikhalo bafunga. Ngelo xesha, zama ukwenza ukuze nexesha ekuhlala lobunzima eliphakathi-ubudala, umyeni wakhe, akukhange abaphumileyo ebomini bakho. Musa unikel 'ingqalelo kwingxaki, umntu unokude bakugqala nanceba kunye nokuqala uku kulo.

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