Wonke unina kufuneka ukwazi oko ubume umntwana - yinto yamihla le

Ayikho into ebaluleke ngaphezu impilo yomntwana wakhe wonke mama. Eyona kanti na kwiinyanga zokuqala yobomi, xa usana ndingayi kukuxelela into engalunganga kuye. Ngoko ke, oomama abaninzi abaselula sinikele ingqalelo zonke iinkcukacha, ezifana lalela indlela usana ukuphefumla, okanye uzive ubume umntwana. UNorma intliziyo kubantwana, Kakade ke, iyahluka ukusuka kweli nani ngenxa umntu omdala, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokuba i alarm kuphela ukuba kukho ukufunda encinane isandi.

Kuba iminyaka ngalinye luphawulwa ngegalelo lako ukubetha okuqhelekileyo. Okukhona umntwana iba, inowuthi isantya ukubetha kwentliziyo yakhe. Oku kubangelwa kukunyuka umthamo igazi emzimbeni. Yintoni ireyithi ukubetha ebantwaneni - eqhelekileyo? Ukuze umntwana, lowo kusandul 'ukuzalwa, inani eliqhelekileyo ibetha kumqolo ukusuka 140 ukuya 160 Ngelo itakane konyaka ubudala, eli nani iye yehla kakhulu kwaye kuya kuba ukususela uqumba 120 ukuya 125. Kunyaka olandelayo wobomi, ie, omnye ukuya kwiminyaka emibini, izinga intliziyo somntwana - izinga, ukuba ukho kweli uluhlu ibetha 110 ukuya 115. Xa kweminyaka emibini okanye emithathu, inani ngokupheleleyo ibetha ngomzuzu sivela 105 ukuya 110. Xa umntwana wayeneminyaka emithathu ubudala, kodwa ke iminyaka esixhenxe ubudala, izinga intliziyo oluqhelekileyo ibetha 90 ukuya 100. Xa ndandineminyaka engama esibhozo elinambini, ubume umntwana - eqhelekileyo ukuba ireyithi wayo ukusuka 75 ukuya 80. Emva ilishumi linamibini ukubetha okuqhelekileyo kule elivisayo kufuneka ifane omdala - ukusuka ibetha 70 75 ngomzuzu.

ukubala ukubetha lwenziwa abantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Kufuneka sifumane Kwangale kakhulu uvalo esihlasela ukuba obungqingqwa ngokucacileyo. Njengomgaqo, kwanele ukuba anike nje ukuba ukubala inani labo. Kodwa ukuba uyathandabuza, kungcono ukuxhobisa i yeSkrini ku ubalo ichanile, engqondweni yam ndisemabeleni kama. Xa ukumamela ukubona imivumbo kukhethiwe, kufuneka uthathe iiyure njengesiqhelo, walinganisa ngaphandle okomzuzu, ukuqala ukubala. Xa ixesha liphelile, ukubalwa kufuneka bupheliswe. A nani phezu kwayo, lwagqitywa, kwaye uya kuba inani ibetha ngomzuzu.

Ukuba izinga intliziyo umntwana - lo mmiselo, kuya kuba ibanga lobudala efanelekileyo ezichazwe ngasentla. Ukuba eyahluke eziqhelekileyo, musa nje nihlabe umkhosi, ngokuba Ngalo myinge, enokuchaphazela ixhala, ulale, uloyiko, chaza ukukhalaza, kwaye nangakumbi, ngoko kufuneka uzame kwakhona ukubala, xa umntwana opholileyo ngokupheleleyo ukufumana result ethembekileyo.

Kakade ke, ukuba ukubetha umntwana -, hayi kungabikho alam ngekhomyutha. Ukuba esezantsi okanye ngaphezulu, kuyimfuneko ukuba zazise wezifo, kwaye athathe amanyathelo elizimeleyo ukutshintsha ixabiso layo. Ngelo izinga intliziyo achaphazelekayo yimiba eyahlukeneyo, ezo alibonakali ingumsebenzi ongenabugcissa. Kukho kwakhona isixa avumelekile ukutenxa ukubetha okuqhelekileyo ezinxulumene nokukhula, ubunzima, encane esebenzayo. Musa ukucinga ukuba unina usiqonda bhetele kunaye nabani na lo mntwana. Kwiimeko ezininzi, nto ayinqwenelayo, kuphela kunokuba actual. UMama kwakhona ngenxa ixhala kunye mincili awukwazi ngoyaba ezi zihlandlo zonyango ezicacileyo. Ukuba kukho amathandabuzo malunga nempilo yomntwana kusoloko uqhagamshelane ngokukhawuleza oyingcaphephe, kunokuba sifowunele abahlobo kunye self-medicate.