Ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo

Ukukhulelwa - yinto Umthendeleko okhethekileyo, enabizwa kuzo zonke umfazi kunye nentsingiselo yobomi bakhe. Ngelishwa, akukho ukukhulelwa akusoloko kwenzeka xa ulindele kuye. ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo yingxaki enkulu kule minyaka emininzi edlulileyo. Ukususela kwiminyaka yamandulo, abafazi beze kunye neendlela ezithile ukuthintela ukukhulelwa kunye nokuphazamiseka yayo. Uninzi lwezi ndlela ziyingozi kakhulu kwaye ebulalayo. Kwinkulungwane yokugqibela eRashiya de-1954, isisu vala ngumthetho. Namhlanje, kumazwe amaninzi, abasetyhini azivumelekanga ukuba ukuphelisa ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo.

ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kuthetha ukuba ayavuma inkazana ukulungele ukuba imfundo yomntwana malunga neempawu zomzimba, yokuziphatha okanye eziphathekayo. Ngelishwa, le meko kuqhelekile, ingakumbi phakathi amantombazana. Ngowe-80% amatyala ukukhulelwa kwiminyaka 16-17 isisu. Ukupheliswa ukukhulelwa ukuze kuchaphazela impilo yomfazi nekhono ukuba abantwana kwixesha elizayo. Ngoko ke, umba ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kufuneka aphathwe kakhulu ngakumbi kangangoko kunokwenzeka yaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kuphephe oko.

Kodwa ukuba onke efanayo ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo - into omele uyenze? Le meko kakhulu ntshikilelo ngenxa yomfazi. Xa oku kusenzeka umfazana ngaphandle komtshato, ngoko umbuzo othi: ingaba iya kuba nako yokukhulisa umntwana amgcine? Ingaba unina noyise womntwana ukuqalisa usapho kunye ukukhulisa umntwana? Ukuba uyise nako ukunika uncedo kumfazi? Amaninzi, iimpendulo zale mibuzo negative. Kwaye kuxhomekeke elide kangakanani na ixesha kukho ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, wenzela lonyango okanye isisu kuhlinzwa.

ukukhulelwa okungacetywanga kungenzeka entsatsheni. iimeko zokuphila Modern musa ukuvumela yonke intsapho ukuba abantwana abaninzi. Njengoko umthetho, iintsapho kufunwa abantwana omnye okanye ababini. Kodwa ngoku kufika uSafira umfazi wakhe ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo - into omele uyenze intsapho? Indoda nomfazi kufuneka nobunzima umnqweno wayo ukuba omnye umntwana, kunye namakhono zemali. Ukuba imiba sikhetha ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana, kunokwenzeka ukuba umfazi angafanele esichengeni impilo yakho kunye kwezisu. Nakowuphi na umzekelo, oku ngumba esinzulu kakhulu ukuba usapho kufuneka isonjululwe ngokudibeneyo yi-iziqingatha ezibini. ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kwi usapho kuba befuna ukuba kukho uxolo entsatsheni, uxolo kunye nokuqonda.

Kodwa kaninzi umbuzo othi "Indlela ukuphelisa ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo?" Wonder amantombazana aselula, aba bakulo nemeko enzima yaye musa uyazi ukuba mawuye kubani ukuba isicelo. Ukukhulelwa phakathi olufikisayo - Kuyaziwa, nangona ukukhuthazwa ukungafihlisikuthetha abazali nabantwana kwimicimbi kwimfundo ngesondo. Ngoko kwenzeka ukuba amantombazana aselula nabafana ukuze babe ngesondo ngaphandle kokuba ulwazi olwaneleyo ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukhuseleko lwabo. Ukungabikho zokucwangcisa, ukunganqondwa isahlakalo yokukhulelwa - konke oku kukhokelela iingxaki ezinzulu ukuba abantwana abafikisayo bengenako ukwabelana nabazali babo. Bavakalelwa kukuba izindlu zabo elinde ukungaqondi kunye neentloni, kodwa uncedo. Ngoko ke, ngokusebenzisa ezinye imithombo ezinokunceda ukusombulula ingxaki ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo.

Into yokuqala ukukhumbula kukuba imiphumo isisu inokuba kakhulu, embi kakhulu - ku ukungachumi. Enye impazamo na imali enkulu ukuba ibe ngumama. Kwangaxeshanye, imbonakalo abantwana kwixesha xa umfazi ngokokuziphatha, ngokwasengqondweni kusekho umntwana kakhulu - oko engasoloko kukhokelela iziphumo ezincumisayo. Ngoko ke, ekuphela kwendlela - kukuba ukuze kuthintelwe ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo. yesilungu inika ezahlukeneyo iindlela ukuthintela oko. Naluphi na ugqirha uya kunika iingcebiso elinobuchule kuyo nayiphi na umfazi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ukujonga emva ngokwayo kunye nempilo yakho, ngenxa yokuba kungekho mntu wumbi unako ukukwenza oko.