Kutheni kuwa abanye abantu uthando kunye nezalamane n'wina?

Ukutyhubela iinkulungwane, amabali uthando walala isiseko imisebenzi emikhulu zobugcisa kunye noncwadi. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuyinyaniso ngenkankulu ukuya amabali malunga inkanuko isisihiba phakathi kwezihlobo. Iinoveli njengombulo ngenkankulu baninyanzela ukuba ulandele izinto udiniweyo kukulila. Kunoko, Baqumbisa nenkani, ukugabha kunye isicaphucaphu. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ukuba yokusabela onjalo lafika abaninzi, xa Kim West oneminyaka eli-51 ubudala kunye nonyana wakhe oneminyaka eli-32 ubudala Ben Ford kwabelwane ndawonye nehlabathi ibali lakhe.

uthando indaba

bonke yaqala elishumi eyadlulayo, xa Kim oselula wazala unyana. Noko ke, imilinganiselo mfazi ndicekisa kwaye washiya umntwana ngeveki emva kokuzalwa kwakhe. Kwiminyaka kamva, umntu omdala Ben benza njengoko eninzi ke yoonyana kwamkelwa yaye - wagqiba ukwenza ukuqhagamshelana kunye nonina omzalayo. Emva koko kwenzeka into ethile eyabangela ukuba ihlabathi baqhiphuk uzothekile. Umama nonyana nje ndawonye, kwaye udale umanyano uthando.

Kudliwano-ndlebe kunye West wavuma ukuba neminqweno yokuqala ngesondo unyana wakhe wabonakala kuye ngelo xesha Ford wazama ukufumana ubungqina online ukuba ayikho yedwa nako ukufumana umnqweno nisengabenyama umama wakhe. Kamva, badibana ehotele, yaye xa sikhokelo yokuziphatha ngentsulungeko zaye ufekethe ukuyisusa utywala, wabelana ebhedini enye.

Yaqala phantsi ke into ubudlelwane ukuba West sele kuthiwa "mihle". Ford kungenzeka ukuba babelane ingongoma yakhe lwembono, ngenxa yokuba, musa ukuthandabuza ukuba ashiye umfazi wakhe umama wakhe. Emva kokuvula i-ndaba, laba ngenxa yokoyika ukuba kwiminyaka eli-15 entolongweni waye phakathi mthetho ngokwesondo.

nobangela engqondweni

Noko ke, uKim noBen, amakheswa yentlalo azinikeleyo akwazi ukufumana ezinye zeminyinyiva, ubuncinane kwinqanaba yokuzivelela. Shiya ngexesha yeentsika ukudideka kunye nengqumbo uzame ukujonga nzulu le ngxaki. Ngapha koko, naluphi na utyeshelo esondo oonobangela zawo ingcambu nasengqondweni.

Uyakwazi sothuswe amadoda namabhinqa kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba ukunika iqabane kukhetha, ezifana koonina, kwakunye abafazi sinyule amadoda, ubakhumbuza ooyise. Lo ngumkhuba psychology ekuthiwa imprinting positive. Bokuqinisekisa izazinzulu zenzululwazi ayiphumelelanga Icelandic. Emva kokuchitha isifundo 2008, bafumana ukuba izihlobo ezikude kufuneka ithuba ukuvelisa inani elikhulu labantwana sempilweni kwisibini kunesiqhelo. Okwangoku, kusekho ingqikelelo "imprinting kakubi," okanye ngenye indlela ukusebenza Westermark. Kule meko umntu omkhanyelayo nayiphi nomdla ngesini kubantu abane kubo wahlala umntwana, kubandakanywa abazali, abazalwana noodade.

Ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, zidityaniswe imprinting HIV kunye nokusilela of version ezimbi kwabangela ukuziphatha buhlungu Ben Ford?

iziphumo ukungazi

Psychologist Judith Venben Smith uxoxa ukuba abantu abazange babe nobudlelwane intsapho esempilweni ebuntwaneni, ezama kangangoko ukwahlula le intuthuzelo emzimbeni nakwiimvakalelo inkanuko yesini. Noko ke, ukuze bakwenze ngenye indlela. Ndibonise uthando lwabo, kulo mzekelo, kuba isihlobo. Oku vice hayi sifo, ngokutsho uJudith, le yindlela umntu iphendula iimvakalelo ezivelayo xa sihlangane esibathandayo, yena wahlukana kubani yaye ahlala.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuthatha inxaxheba ulwalamano olunjalo ngokusekelwe strong "misfire" nakwiimvakalelo kuqinisekiswe ngokuphindiwe buhlungu. Uluntu Uthando njengombulo bezisoloko yaye ziya kuba isihloko abangafuniyo, yaye abantu baya ombulo, ingozi yokuba ingadibani kuluntu. Ukongeza, baya kulahlekelwa ngonaphakade ithuba ukwenza ubudlelwane intsapho esempilweni.