Ingxoxo yangaphakathi: Ingaba kufuneka uyeke ngayo?

Wonke, ngendlela enye okanye omnye usebenzisa ingxoxo yangaphakathi, kuba njengento yinxalenye ngobuni bethu. Owona mzekelo esisiseko: xa ugqibe ukuba ukunxiba, izihlangu, okanye ukuyithenga. Wena ngeli xesha ngokungathi ndicela ingcebiso ngokwakhe, wathi, "kuba" yaye "nxamnye" oku okanye eso sigqibo. Le yindlela yonxibelelwano lwangaphakathi kusinceda lokuphinda ngakumbi imbono ekhoyo ehlabathini, umzekelo, kuhlalutywa izenzo zomnye, izigqibo, kanjalo senza izigqibo ngokwabo, isisombululo isityholo kwimeko, njalo-njalo.

Xa uqala ukucinga ngalo, uya kuqaphela ukuba uninzi mini wenza ukuba ucinga ntoni uze ubale yokuziphatha echanekileyo abahlobo babo kunye nezihlobo, izalamane kunye nabanye abantu abakufutshane nawe. Ukuba oku ingxaki abantu abaninzi kakhulu, bona ukucinga nangabanye, ngaloo ndlela ukungabinako nelokuphumla baphile ubomi babo.

Ngoko kukho umbuzo ukuba angenza ntoni incoko yangaphakathi ukwenzela ukuphelisa ingxinano rhoqo ngokweemvakalelo? Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde intsingiselo yesi sifundo: ngaba kubalulekile ukucinga ngento eyenzekileyo yaye yintoni alunako ukutshintshwa? Mhlawumbi kufuneka nje ithathe linjalo? Kulo mzekelo, eyona ndlela isebenzayo ukumisa ingxoxo lwangaphakathi refocusing kucazululo lweziqhamo kunokwenzeka ngenxa yale ngxaki.

Ngoko, ingxoxo lwangaphakathi - yinkqubo umsebenzi yengqondo, apho u bangahlaziya yonke ingcaciso ayifumene nokwakha umxokelelwane uxhulumaniso ubhalo. Kwakhona yindlela lohlengahlengiso womntu eluntwini, ngokuba ngoncedo ngohlahlelo, uqala ku tiva leswi iimpazamo ezenziwe, kwaye ziya kuqhubeka ngendlela eyahlukileyo ukuba baziphathe ngendlela efanayo. Umzekelo, waphule imoto utata wam. Emva kokuba isenzo esinjalo uqale ukucinga malunga nokuba kubalulekile ukuthetha kuyise okanye hayi. Ukuba ngoko bathi kuni, uya ukukhalaza. Ukuba Yithi cwaka, iingxaki kwenzeka ngakumbi. Kodwa meko zingalungiswa, ngenxa yokuba kufuneka ukuba kunjalo. Le ingxoxo ephakathi, wakha ezimbalwa ezingachanekanga kuphela. Ngcono kulo mzekelo ekuhlalutyeni iinketho ngaphandle imeko seluthe lwakho, uze ukhangele iindlela zokulungisa ezo eziya kunciphisa inani emibi.

Nangona kunjalo, qaphela ukuba ukuyeka incoko lwangaphakathi kudlala indima ebalulekileyo, kuba kungenjalo kukho ezininzi ngayo ezimbi, ezifana:

1. Ukugcwala saa. Sihlala sicinga ngento, awukwazi ukunikel 'ingqalelo kwimeko ethile, umsebenzi okanye umsebenzi. Iingcinga ngayo nayiphi na imeko rhoqo ezivelelayo in intloko yakho, iyenza nzima ukucinga kwaye wenze eminye imisebenzi.

2. Uphuhliso ukuzithemba elisezantsi kunye nezakhiwo. incoko yangaphakathi simenza meko, kaninzi elivisayo. Kaloku, umzekelo, "yena akafuni ukuthetha nam, ngokuba mna ugly," "kwam akukho mntu ukunikela ingqalelo, kuba mna ndiza izibuko," njalo njalo. Uqala kukhokela iqela lweempikiswano wakhetha zophando bayo, nokuphuhlisa iseti izakhiwo, nto leyo edla uyazingisa ubomi.

3. Mzoli esisigxina yangaphakathi, kunye ugwayi. Njengoko ucinga ngayo iingxaki ixesha, wena ukusombulula iimeko eziye sele lwenzekile kwaye akakwazi enye isicombululo, ngaba akwenze phantsi kwaye uzive ukhululekile? Le meko kungakhokelela ekubeni ukuphazamiseka engqondweni abaninzi kakhulu, nto leyo lupheliswe kuphela necebo lezempilo.

Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kangaka ngexesha ukunqanda ingxoxo lwangaphakathi. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuba iimpawu ezimbi olu hlobo incoko ngayo kwakhona HIV jikelele: ezixhasayo, ukuzeyisa ulwazi, impumelelo ebomini kunye noosomashishini, ngokunjalo namandla entle.