Fumanisa ukuba amaphupha - baby, abantwana, kubelekwa

Kids, njengokuba usazi, iintyatyambo yobomi. Kodwa nokuba azinabungozi e amaphupha ethu, eneneni? abafazi abaninzi abaselula kunye namantombazana thalele umba, yintoni amaphupho: usana, iintsana, abantwana, kubalulekile ngokukodwa amalungu besini wamhle abo abatshatanga, abaselula kakhulu ixesha elide elinde kuqala ukukhulelwa opick okanye sele kwindawo umdla. Yayisithi ke into eninzi kuwo awunamdla kanye oko umntwana iphupha okanye abantwana, kodwa yintoni amaphupha ukuba kubelekwa, amakhwenkwe okanye amantombazana, zakho okanye omnye umntu somntwana, kwakunye nomdla kwi intshukumo isimaphambili se umntwana xa ulele (edanduluka esithi, ulele, ibele, eshona, wafa kuzala umntwana, njalo njalo). Ukuphendula le mibuzo, nje ndifuna ukucacisa ukuba umntwana xa ulele, kwakunye umntwana ebomini bakho - kudla lenkathazo, kodwa ngovuyo. Kuba iincwadi ezininzi iphupha ukuzalwa komntwana ukuba abone umfazi naye - ke ulonwabo usapho kunye nempumelelo. Nangona kunjalo, le mithetho basoloko ngaphandle.

Umntwana encinane ubomi ozisa ezininzi iingxaki kunye neengxaki, kodwa unako ukumelana ngempumelelo kunye nabo. Kwaye ephupheni, ukuba uyakwazi ukubona nomntwana wakho ngokwakho - kuphela kuthetha ukuba uya kufika kuyo ingxaki enokuthi ngokulula ukumelana. Ukongeza, kukho isilumkiso ukuba athathe abo amatyala wena apho isigqibo hayi yincutshe. Ukuba ubona umntu ongomnye umntwana omncinci, ngoko uzilungiselele ukulungisa iimpazamo nokusombulula iingxaki abanye. baby Cute kwaye funny siyi ubuhlobo eyomeleleyo, uthando efanayo ebomini. Kuzalwa intombi okanye unyana - kulonwabo enkulu, iphupha nokutyhilwa Zhou utshayelela-guna, okanye ukulindela ukuba kwixesha elizayo kufutshane yinto emnandi - Incwadi ethi iphupha yomfazi mihla.

Ngoku makhe sithethe izinto ezahlukeneyo yabantwana xa ulele, yaye yintoni amaphupha. Umntwana ekhala, iincwadi ezininzi iphupha, iingxaki zempilo okanye naziphi nokuphoxeka ebomini. Noko ke, incwadi iphupha Freud kaThixo, umntwana ukukhala imele i-orgasm (isekelwe kwinto yokuba abantwana, ngokwembono yakhe, amele zangasese). ukuzimela yakho kwabanye kanye nokudelela icebiso ezingafanelekanga kunye nezimvo liluphawu umntwana uhamba wedwa okanye amanyathelo yakhe yokuqala ezizimeleyo. Zirhubuluza umntwana, njengoko ebomini, wenze ucinga wena ngok ngokukhawuleza ukwenza izigqibo ngokungathi into eyenzekayo. Uneentloni kwaye ukuthemba, ukuba ubona ephupheni yomntwana yokulala. Ukuba umfazi waphupha ukuba yena wancancisa usana, kufuneka silindele inkohliso evela umntu omthembayo boundlessly. Zama ukuba ukuthemba abantu abangekho isangqa yakho abahlobo okanye izalamane, ukuba ndabona ephupheni ukuncancisa njani umntwana wakho, okanye amabele wena udle. Kodwa ngexesha elinye, ethi iphupha Russian, qiniseka ukuba, xa ubona ukuba bona ngokwabo lwebele-ukondla usana, ngoko bazama elilandelayo uza kuzisa izinto nokwaneliseka yokuziphatha, nangona baya kuba kakhulu anzima. Oku akuthethi ukuba izinto ziya kuhamba kakuhle, ukuba uthatha ngesandla umntwana ephupheni - ukubandezeleka, nje intlungu, usizi.

Kutheni uphuphe yomntwana-intombazana kunye nomntwana? Le ntombazana, njengoko umthetho, ukuba iphupha umtshato uphumelele. Ngoxa Ngemihla yakudala kwakukholelwa ukuba umntwana itshayelela ummangaliso, ie, Uya kumangaliswa kwi nantoni na. Ukuba kukho inkwenkwe encinane, uyazi - ukuphumeza kakuhle ukuba ebomini, kufuneka usebenze nzima okanye ngokwawo, ulinde uncedo akufanele. Kodwa ke abaninzi badla abanomdla lo mbuzo, yintoni iphupha ukuba nomntwana. Kwakhona, ukuba singathatha ixabiso iphupha-iincwadi ezimbalwa, ukuzalwa komntwana kuyinto ukuvela naziphi na izicwangciso ngekamva okanye ukuvela iingcamango ezintsha. Kodwa ngaphandle koko, incwadi phupha idiomatic inika ixabiso sokugqibezela nayiphi na imeko (efanayo wathi, "ekugqibeleni kuzala"). Ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo okanye indoda, ngumfazi "kuzala" ukubona kuzalwa, ukuba imbonakalo inkwenkwe entsatsheni.

Ukuba yi ukuzalwa iphupha, yonke into icacile, ukuba le nto ephupheni ukuba intombazana okanye inkwenkwe - akukho nkcukacha. Ezinye downers Qiniseka ukuba iphupha lokuzalwa intombazana, inyaniso yinkwenkwe okanye ngolunye uhlobo. Kodwa ke, njengokuba kusenziwa imiboniso, oku akusoloko kufika yinyaniso.