Ukufunda Ukuthanda

Uthando umntu, ukuba afumane omnye ngasekunene, intsapho kwakanye bonke. usapho Real, apho ubomi uthando. Indlela ukufezekisa ulonwabo entsatsheni, ukuba siyithethe imfihlelo impumelelo yakhe?

Ngamnye kuthi bethu, ayinazo ukufana kunye namanye, uhlobo, ingqiqo incasa, kakhulu iimfuno ezahlukeneyo kunye neemfuno. Kodwa kukho kubomi ethile, ngaphandle apho ngamnye umntu akakwazi. Oku - uthando. Love wonke ufuna. Kodwa ndaqonda ukuba oku luphawu omkhulu umphefumlo womntu?

Andizange ukufika ukuhlangabezana elinye ubomi. Satshata, wayenabantwana, kodwa uthando Andifundanga thina. Umbuzo ngulo: ngaba batshata njani? Ngaphandle uthando? Ewe, Ndiva akukho thando. Buyadlula, kwaye bafumane namava encinane, ndingatsho ukuthi ukwakha usapho lothando - akunakwenzeka! Ukuze athi ukuba andizange angathanda ukuba umyeni wam elizayo, andikwazi. Ewe, ndandimthanda, kodwa akukho ngaphezulu. Yaba amkhanuke, kodwa ndingenalo uthando. Okokuqala, ndifuna ukuba nibe ngabam. ingqiqo oqhelekileyo nokuzingca. Ngathi ndifuna indlela imoto entle, uhombiso entle. Ndathandana ngamehlo zakhe ezintle, umlinganiswa okuchwayitha, zizwana, ethile nokuzingisa.

iimvakalelo ethu ayetshisa, wayitshisa yaye wavutha ngendlela Mtheza enkulu. Kumnandi kwaye mkhulu okwangoku. Kodwa xa wazala, itshintshe inkangeleko yam, kwindawo ethile iye yatshintsha kwam ihlabathi yangaphakathi, kunye nomyeni wakhe, ngoko wam, ngokulandelelanayo, wamthanda into kum ebendinalo phambi lokukhulelwa: i ezibhityileyo, okuchwayitha, intombazana eselula akakhathazeki intle. Kodwa ixesha eyahlukileyo. Njengoko ixesha lihamba, ubomi waqhubeka. Yonke imihla, ndandisazi ukuba uyemka inkanuko, uthando, kodwa akukho nto entsha apho. Okanye mandithi okulungileyo ukukhanya. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, siya udikwa ngokukhawuleza ngokunxulumene omnye komnye, akakhathali, umdla omnye komnye; abantu ongakhathaliyo ngobomi komnye, ezibonakala omthandayo omnye. usapho lwethu akazange ukuba uqhubeke. Ukuhlala kwindawo enye, ngamnye ophilayo ubomi babo. Kunye kwiminyaka embalwa kamva, Ndafika kwisigqibo sokuba uthando akayi kuza kanye oko. Oku yimvakalelo ukuze ufunde. Kwaye ukuba bafunde ngaphezu konyaka omnye. Uthando Kufuneka uzifundise, ekuqeqesheni, uthambise. Inkanuko, uthando iya. Kwaye kwintsapho apho indoda nomfazi musa ukuzama uze uzame ukufumana phantsi omnye komnye ngokusebenzisa i "ezincinane" ukuzincama, kungekhona balahle iikona ezibukhali ubuntu bakhe, izinkcwe zakhe nilwe ke, le ntsapho ehlala ngathi woxande olude isanti, ekube akwazi ude ube enqabeni ayinakutshintshwa.

Ngapha koko, uthando - unaphakade, kuba, ukutshata, siyakubonga ukudala intsapho ubomi. Alipheli apho ke mhlaba wodwa, ndinyikimise nalo izulu. Uthando ayikho lokuzingca, ngokuba sibathanda na into, kodwa nje. Ngokuba yena umyeni wakho - elungileyo okanye embi, neenkani okanye anyabile, ukrelekrele okanye hayi, aphezulu okanye asezantsi - kodwa yintoni umahluko! Xa uthando, ukubukeka musa ibalulekile. Luthando - ukuba uqaphele ezi ziphene. Njengoko siyabathanda abantwana bethu, siyabathanda abazali bethu? Nje ngokuba zezethu.

Uthando - le umbingelelo, nto leyo kuba izinto ezincinane, kunye nobomi bethu iquka kubo. Kunokuba ubukele umdlalo, indoda kuya kusebenza kunye nabantwana. It sele ukuzincama ngenxa usapho, ngenxa nabantu ababathandayo. Ukuze ukwazi ukunikezela iimfuno zabo, ukuze babe nako ukuba andiyi kuba naburhalarhume, kungekhona icaphuke, akunatyala; kodwa uthando.

Mna, ngelishwa, khange bafunda ukuba uthando umtshato wokuqala, nangona yena wazama. Ngoku khangela ngumtyholwa ukuba ungamthandiyo azalwe, ndiyacinga, akwenzi ngqiqo. Xa amazwi ezinomsebenzi bhanya: "Xa intsapho engahambi, asole bobabini - bobabini indoda nomfazi."

Sekunjalo, ndifuna ukufunda ngothando. Masenze zange isebenze ixesha lokuqala ngaphandle. Ukuze ufunde ukuthanda, kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha into ngokwakho. Okanye ukudibana nomntu oya kukunceda kule. Eyona nto ephambili hayi ungxamile, uthando ongabunyamezeliyo Khawuleza, amampunge, bamakhazikhazi, ubukhazikhazi. Kukho umthetho ubomi lulolomoya ixabiso yamava, amandla lwangaphakathi izivamvo akuxhomekekanga ngamandla ukwenza izinto zabo lwangaphandle. Sophazamiseko iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo okupheka kodwa musa ukuthetha ubunzulu yabo. imvakalelo Real ngesiseko ikhangeleka ezifanelekileyo, ngokuzolileyo, inconspicuously.

Ndicinga ndadibana umntu onjalo, nangona andiyi kufumana phambili. Ndiziva nje ukuba mna ukuguqula, ukutshintsha iimvakalelo zam ngendlela elungileyo, ngendlela, leyo kuthiwa - Love.