Andikwazi ukukhulelwa: yintoni endiyenzayo kunye nendlela yokuzinceda?

Kwinqanaba elithile ebomini, phantse onke amabhinqa avusa isisu somntwana kunye nesifiso sokuba ngumama. Kwabanye, oku kwenzeka kwangethuba, kwabanye abantu abanenhlanhla le ntshukumo iza ngqo emva kokukhetha iqabane lomntu, ngelixa abanye bathatha ixesha, ngamanye amaxesha bude, ukuze baqonde imfuno yokuba ngumama. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, xa le nyanga iqalisa ukusebenza, ibhinqa lifuna ukukhulelwa. Kwaye, ngelishwa, oku akusoloko kusebenza ngokukhawuleza.

"Andikwazi ukucinga ukuba yintoni na ukuba ndiyenze?" - ezo nkxalabo zandezelekile kwiindawo ezininzi zamabhinqa. Ngamanye amaxesha akukho naziphi na izizathu zokwesaba, kodwa abafazi banokwemvelo. Ngoko, umbuzo u-ajenda: ngokwenene ndifuna ukukhulelwa, yintoni endiyenzayo kule meko?

Iseluleko sokuqala kunye nesebenzayo kukuyeka ukuphazamiseka, ukwesaba, kwaye uqale indlela yakho yokufezekisa injongo. Ukuba ubudala bakho buphakathi kweminyaka engama-20 ukuya ku-35 ubudala kwaye awunayo imbonakalo ecacileyo yokungabikho, mhlawumbi yonke into ayinzima. Okokuqala, zama ukubala ixesha lokuvuthwa komjikelezo walo - ngokuqhelekileyo malunga neveki ezi-2 emva kokuqala kokuya esikhathini. Ezi ntsuku zizona zilungele ukukhulelwa. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ngokwakho, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngale ngxaki kunye nomzimba wakho wezilwanyana.

Ngoko, abaninzi abafazi bayakhalaza: "Andikwazi ukukhulelwa". Yintoni isini esilungileyo kulo mbandela? Okokuqala, cinga ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho sele sele nisebenzela njani ukukhulelwa. Nabo bonke abafazi abanampilo kunye namadoda athile abakwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana ngeenyanga ezininzi , nangona zonke izinto ziyakuthandayo. Ukuqala ukubetha i-alamu yokuqala kuyakufaneleka ukuba, xa kunempilo eqhelekileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane umntwana kwiinyanga ezi-6-9.

Ngoko, ngolunye usuku waqaphela: "Andikwazi ukukhulelwa." Yintoni endimele ndenze kuqala? Kufanelekile ukucinga kwakhona ngendlela yakho yobomi. Ukukhulelwa akunakwenzeka ukuba:

- umsi;

- Usela utywala (okanye ahlala edlalwa ngumlingane);

- Hlalani ekudleni okunzulu - umzimba unokungabi naso imithombo yokuphatha umntwana;

- rhoqo phantsi kwefuthe loxinzelelo;

- Ufuna ukulungiswa kwesisindo;

- kungekudala uye wagula sisiphi na isifo kwaye unobuthathaka.

Ukuba ubuncinane enye yezi zinto zikhoyo, kufuneka zilahlwe. Sifanele sichaze kunye neqabane elifanelekileyo ukuba kufuneka silandele indlela yokuphila enempilo ukuze sibe nguyise ngokukhawuleza.

Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndikhulelwe? Enye inqaku apha: zama ukungaxhomeki kwisifiso sakho. Abanye besetyhini "banamathele" kule mfuno, ukuba nokwenza uthando luvezwe ngokubhekiselele kwishedyuli yesityalo esinokubakho ukukhulelwa. Yaye indalo ayithandi xa iphazamisa izicwangciso zakhe. Zama ukuthandana nomlingane, kunokuba unyanzele izinto zakho kwiimvavanyo zokukhulelwa. Ngoko ke kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke ngokwayo.

Ewe, ukuba zonke ezi ngcebiso azizange zancede, ngoko ke, isinyathelo esilandelayo siya kugqirha kulabo bahlala behlushwa yingcamango: "Andikwazi ukukhulelwa." Oko uyenzayo ngokulandelayo, uya kukhuthaza. Iingcali ziya kukwenza isicwangciso senzathelo sokuxilongwa kwempilo, unyango olunokwenzeka, kwaye kuya kunceda ezinye iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo malunga nomcimbi onzima.