Yintoni ukukhetha: ukushiya ukunyamekela umntwana okanye umsebenzi?

Ukulungiselela ngumama kwabasetyhini usoloko uhamba kunye eyahlukeneyo imiba exhalabisayo ukuba yena nomyeni wakhe ufuna ukufumana impendulo efanelekileyo. umsebenzi Professional abafazi - enye yezi ngxaki. Namhlanje, abaninzi abasetyhini kufuneka zengqesho yobungcali bexesha elizeleyo yaye ngokufuthi kufuneka basebenze veki nangeeholide. Ingxaki Inombolo omnye iba ukushiya ukuba umntwana.

Le meko nzima ngenxa yokuba ingengabo bonke abaqeshi bakulungele ukunika ikhefu ukhathalelo umama okhulelwe. Eyona engcono ukuba uyavuma - ukubonelela maternity leave.

Yintoni ukukhetha umfazi ushiye ukuba ukunyamekela umntwana okanye umsebenzi?

Kufanelekile ukuba icebise umfazi uzibuze umbuzo omnye: "? Ngubani ekufuneka umntwana wam" Impendulo izicacele. Ibhinqa uzala abantwana kuphela ngokwabo. Okunye, Kudla ngokungabikho leha kwaye musa ukuzithethelela (umzekelo, umnqweno ukubamba oyintanda).

Ukwenza ukhetho ekunene kule minyaka mithathu izayo, simele sihlolisise i "kwizazi 'kwaye' neengozi" lololongo kubeleka.

A kuphambuko encinane bengqondo yophuhliso, ndiyacinga, ndiya kukunceda nabondli ezininzi ezizayo. Imalunga xesha linzima ebomini bomntwana - ePrince kunye ebuntwaneni. Kunyaka wabo wokuqala bezelwe babeke isiseko uhlobo umntwana. uya kuziva umntwana wakho uya kuchaphazela ukuyilwa yempilo yengqondo yomntu engqondweni kangakanani bekhululekile.

Kunxibelelwano kweentsana emphefumlweni kunye unina umsebenzi omkhulu. Ngokusekwa adibane umama umntwana ufunda ihlabathi: Ngaba sithembela ngaye? umama kuphela ukunika ukuzithemba umntwana kuphuhliso isithuba, ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu.

Ukongezelela ngobuhlobo ngokweemvakalelo, umama kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala yobomi, kudala ukuba indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha, iintlobo kwezakhono self-nkonzo, igade kwimpilo. Ixesha elininzi lichithwe kunye nomama wam umntwana, lo nempilo yomntwana. Oku kungqinwe imizekelo emininzi kubomi bemihla ngemihla.

Masikhumbule nootatomkhulu bethu, abalangazelela ukuncancisa. Benefit ayikho kuphela ubisi lwebele, kodwa kulwalamano olusondeleyo nomama wakhe. Abantwana Namhlanje kukho ibhotile-eyondliwe emkhumbini kunye nabongikazi abafundileyo. Ngenxa komama - msebenzi ubaluleke kakhulu. Umama ufuna ukuba umntwana kwakukho ezininzi zokudlala, iimpahla ezintle, kunye nosana - ukuze abe kunye nonina.

Andazi nje ukuba ubone indlela abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezikwimeko bakholisa ukuya ekhaya umama. ukungcola ekhaya, iintwala, uthotho amaqabane enxilile and iinyembezi usana kunina wam. Umama - ixabiso siphambili umntwana. Ngoko ke thina, abantu abadala, ngokuthe ngcembe bafundise ukuba baqonde into eyahlukileyo - izinto kunye nemali.

Umntwana omncinci elinde umama wakhe ukuba asebenze. Kunye nomama wam, abaxhasi batyakatywa, amaxwebhu, Wagcinwa kude kube sebusuku, ukunqumla emnyango wendlu, awanakukwazi ukuba babe nokuthantamisa, dlala, funda, ahlambe imvuthuluka.

Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, kwengqondo nalapha ngaphakatyhi wakhankanya "intlungu umsa koomama" njengoko unobangela eyandileyo ixhala ebantwaneni, nezifo, nokungakhuseleki.

Ngoko, kwelinye icala esikalini - isicelo sekhefu ukulungiselela umntwana, kwelinye - umsebenzi.

Umntwana uya kuba nani ubomi. Nomqeshi wakho lowo ubambe njengoko, umzekelo, niphume yoshishino e iinyanga ezintandathu. Ubomi elide, nantoni na enokwenzeka.

Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala nje intlekele ezayo umsebenzi wakhe. Enyanisweni, loo nto ilungile okanye ngeke yenzeke. Usebenze ezininzi, yaye yingcali ezilungileyo baya kusoloko ngokwemfuno.

Ngenye imini weva amazwi umama walahlekelwa ngunyana wakhe, likhoboka leziyobisi, ndiyakhumbula kuwo ngonaphakade: "Mna ndasebenza ubomi bam bonke, ukuba benze umsebenzi, kwaye kwakudingeka ukuba unyana wakhe kunye naye, njengokuba imbasa entanyeni yakhe."

Umfazi osisilumko kububulumko alahle ithuba lokuba abe kunye nomntwana kule minyaka yokuqala yobomi. Iya kwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo phambi uthe akwavuma ukuphuma ukunyamekela umntwana.