Kutheni mntu uyandithanda, okanye kude iyintsomi syndrome akathandwa

Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, amantombazana zahluke iwonga ekuhlaleni kunye Outlook, izisa isivakalisi esinye. It libizwa kungekudala phantse zonke besini ngobulungisa. La mazwi: "Kutheni mntu uyandithanda?"

ezingonelanga ukuzithemba

Lamantombazane 'akufani "a bangazenza ngokwabo kwaye bakholelwa ukuba yonke into kufuneka kuguqa phambi kwabo. Xa abakulindele azenzeki, bayakhalaza: "Akukho mntu uyandithanda, akukho mntu uqondayo;" - bawe ekudakumbeni. Ngoko ke amantombazana kufuneka kancinane ehlisa bo ukuzithemba kwaye ayeke silindele ukuba ihlabathi ezinyaweni zabo. Kufuneka samkele wena nje isuntswana ehlabathini, hayi nje yorhwebo, niqonde ukuba umntu ngamnye wahlukile.

Kholwa amandla akho

Ngelo xesha xa amanye amantombazana zazi ngokwabo, ngoxa abanye lula. Bazama ngaphantsi ukuvela esidlangalaleni, nikholwa yena emabi, ekruqulayo kunye engeyomfuneko. Amantombazana Imiqondiso yabo imbonakalo malunga iintsilelo zabo baze bafumane sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Azikuthandi ngokwabo. Njani ukuba ukuthanda abanye? Ukuze ufumane uthando, ngoko amantombazana kufuneka baphucule zabo ukuzithemba ukukholelwa ngokwabo kwaye ukuba ukuthanda wena. Kwaye ngoko ke umthetheli ihashe elimhlophe kungekudala ukuba alinde.

Lahlani zonke phandle uloyiko

Kukho elinye iqela lamantombazana: abo besoyika ukulahlwa. Basoloko ungonwabi, ngenxa yokuba abakwazi ukufumana into ekufuneka. Yaye awuyifumani nto kuba akukho ibonisa umnqweno wakhe nokoyika ebacekisile. Ngenxa yoko, abhijelwe umjikelezo, ezadalwa ngokwabo. Ukuze aqanduselwe kule uluhlu, kufuneka woyise uloyiko lwabo baze baveze iminqweno yabo. Ekuphela kwendlela yokufumana inkululeko ngaphakathi.

Ukusabela ukuhluleka

Kukho amantombazana abangafumani bencoma nhla babantu bathi bona ukuba ukusilela harbor nenqala entliziyweni yakhe ukuba ihlabathi liphela. Basoloko bekhalazela malunga sikweni abantu ngeenxa zonke kubo. Kuzo zonke iinkathazo bandimangalela nabantu ababathandayo. Oku kukhokelela ekubeni amadoda ezibangqongileyo musa ihlale ixesha elide, kwaye nokukhala kuphela: "Akukho mntu uyandithanda, kwafuneka ukuba rough." Ngoko ke amantombazana kufuneka ukuba bahlukane ingqumbo nixolelane. Xa uvula ihlabathi, ngoko ke kuya kuvula aphendule, kwaye mhlawumbi, uya intlanganiso umdla.

In search of abathandwayo

Ezinye iimpawu sabafazi idealisation. Basungula ngokuba yena umntu ofanelekileyo kunye nolwalamano efanelekileyo, kwaye bafuna ngayo ebomini. Kodwa ke ubomi ifanelekileyo ayikho. Ngoko ke, bafumana kuphela zodwa ogqibeleleyo yaye ubunzima kuwo: "Kutheni na mna ndedwa? Kutheni kungekho umntu uyandithanda? "Ngoko abantu kufuneka ukuba bajonge indoda yokwenene wabafumana iimpawu ezintle. Ngenxa yoko, baya kuba nako ukubahluthisa ubomi bakhe kunye ezahlukeneyo ukufumana ikamva lakho. Ukuze lo mbuzo, "kutheni mntu uyandithanda" ningabi afunzele kuwe, kufuneka ulandele la macebiso:

- Ukuphuhlisa i-self-ukuzithemba eyaneleyo.

- Kholelwa ngamandla akho.

- Lahla yokoyika.

- Funda yokuphatha ndoyisiwe ngayo ngokukhuselekileyo.

- Nqaba i idealization.

Zama ukulandela ezi ngcebiso uze umbuzo "kutheni akukho mntu undithandayo 'baya kuyeka ukuba useza ingqondo yakho.